Maybe I'm just retarded or something, but where do people socialize now? I've been trying to do the hobby to friends pipeline but idk man do I join a club or something? I'm trying to think of a place where I can meet people, preferably people who aren't niggers or nigger adjacent, but idk where to go. I'm not religious. I'd be lying if I went to church. What do I do?
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>>34479812If you're a zoomer, you're fucked. No one is socializing outside of messenger apps and social media scrolls. I am so sorry, you inherited a life of no childhood and no ability to learn how to socialize. Autism diagnoses are hitting CEO numbers now, people aren't breeding, our enemies are in power now and the world is fucked. There is no happy ending, not anymore.
>>34479832Sorry but while I understand your message, I'm not a defeatist faggot, I'm hope pilled, I'm looking for people who feel the same way. I refuse to comply with the doomer conditioning they're trying to distill in people. The only way out is through brother.
>>34479832Look, there's got to be statistically, a sliver of people who aren't doing that. That's who I'm after.
>>34479854>Sorry but while I understand your message, I'm not a defeatist faggot, I'm hope pilled, I'm looking for people who feel the same way. On the internet. On an imageboard. On your computer or smart device. You refuse to comply you say? Your refusal was done in compliance on the very same post. Face it, we're fucked. >>34479867>Look, there's got to be statistically, a sliver of people who aren't doing that. That's who I'm after.Good luck finding them. Let me know how that goes because the last generation who got to experience socializing without internet interference are already in there mid-to-late 30's.
I go to bars and parks with basketball/football fields or open gyms. I go to the beach. You people are fucking retarded.
>>34479910You are autistic if you think you can just walk up to complete strangers.
>>34479936I literally moved to a foreign country for a bitch that eventually cheated cca 3 yrs ago, and since then I've gotten promoted, learned the language naturally without courses, and steadily built a social circle, even fucked a few bitches.You are quite literally socially retarded if this is a foreign concept to you, especially with all the discord or telegram, whatever gobbledygook you moron kids use nowadays.t.33
>>34479812After almost 30 years of being completely friendless I'm starting to become friends with coworkers. I invite them over for parties at my house.
>>34479956>t.33I'm older than you, so I outrank you. And I still think you are autistic as shit because you moved countries for pussy. Let me guess was she asian?
>>34479854Hell yeah.
>>34479967No, we moved from the same town together because her sister had an estate abroad and invited us over, since both our situations were utter shit at the time (slavic). At that point we were 2 years together, and when we moved she started getting cold, distant, and testy. Of ciurse that meant she had an affair, which I've uncovered on accident. Her sister kicked her out, sold the house we were meant to get, and I just left. Had a school buddy a few towns over, he set me up with a job, and I just worked my way up.It was hard. I think about it often.Just go to a bar or pickup footy/bball at a local park twice a week for a few months and eventually you'll find kindred spirits.If those aren't your thing, find a dnd group or a drama club, whatever. Find people who suit your interests ffs.
>>34479989Well done then, I respect your struggle. But you forget you're into your 30's, you knew how to socialize. You had a window of time where no one had smart phones in their pockets as children. The zoomer generation are extremely rotted in the brain you need to understand they are humans who can't go to local shit without a phone in their hand. They're fucked, mate. You and I are the old guard who got to enjoy the last moments where humans could actually act human
>>34480004zoomers are fine dude. They're all /ourguys/ now. Regular men have always been and will be socially awkward, and women are whores. Zoomers with perms pull pussy like crazy.I think it'll be okay in the end.We went through gay emo phases, they just call it looksmaxxing now. History repeats itself. Hitler will rise again.
>>34479879The idea that the internet is some black hole people get stuck in and never come out of, cannot possibly apply to everyone. I get what you mean though. It's an effect of the crisis we're in, but I can't just be a chud and blame society for everything. I need to find something I can to do change my situation, either that of kms already. I have hope because I need to, to stay alive and keep waking up and getting out of bed in the morning. Maybe I am too dependent on the internet though. Like amazon or streaming services or anything else: their greatest danger is them outsourcing any past means of being able to produce agency or social capital. You're dependent on them, and they fucking hate you. Social comments we too for granted are gone and have been replaced with amazon warehouses and data centers. I digress. I'm not here to go on some chud-ass political rant. I can't give up. That's my choice, my choice to live. I've lived a life of social isolation for years. I grew up mostly isolated. I'm paying for it now as a 27 year old guy and It's only been until recently that I've gotten enough exposure, that doing something social with strangers doesn't make me collapse. I'm a special case I guess. I'm looking for functional people but the truth is I don't know where they are, and chances are I won't recognize one when I see one. Social interaction requires I invest and take risks and make bids and waste my time with people who suck ass and are a pain to be around. limiting that cost is best, but it can't be avoided. I'm in this just like pretty much everyone else. So many people, alone yet starving for genuine social contact. Not the shallow bullshit you'll find at a night club. But actual contact and connection. But it doesn't happen immediately. I'm afraid of being 30 fucking 33 and having no support network, no friends. nobody. But that might just be a reality for me. an inevitable reality. I can make an attempt though.
>>34480158delet social mediajoin gymgo fishing
>>34479964Shitting where you eat is never a good idea
>>34480158You are going to make it then. You have tenacity and the spirit strong enough to make it through. Your zoomer brothers and sisters are fucked though.
>>34480019>zoomers are fine dude. They're all /ourguys/ now. Regular men have always been and will be socially awkward, and women are whores. Zoomers with perms pull pussy like crazyThey're not fine, not where I live. They're fucked. They're in their 20's doing Fortnite dances. I saw one faggot zoomer skipping down the street like a girl for 'fun' while his friend recorded it for a tiktok video. Maybe some of the broccoli haired retards pull pussy but the numbers show men are at a record low for hitting pussy of all time. Sex numbers have bottomed out in their generation I am not kidding, zoomer men have the record for the lowest sex count out of any generation before them. And it's bad news. Because the zoomers who are getting laid are not marrying, and the ones who aren't getting laid are not marrying. The objective of having the idyllic family life with commitment and children and a functional pro-social family home is no longer reality for them, it's more of a myth for them now. They are fucked with a capital 'F'.
>>34480158Feel exactly the same, keep at it brother
>>34480206You did the same shit just with a different haircut, faggot, get over yourself. If you didn't, you're a virgin weirdo and you should shut up when adults are talking.
>>34480181Most of them are being suffocated to such a degree that they don't have the breathing room or tools necessary to help themselves. The people/groups perpetuating this (not wasting time naming names here) might as well be suffocating helpless babies in their cradles while their parents are away. I want to help them. But only once I've helped myself, can i even consider doing that.
>>34480255>You did the same shit just with a different haircut, faggot, get over yourself. If you didn't, you're a virgin weirdo and you should shut up when adults are talking.Nah I didn't do gay dances for attention and film my retardation for e-clout. What I did as a teen was antisocial shit yeah but at least it wasn't fucking gay. I was out getting high with the boys at night in parks, graffiting and defacing public property, getting into fights and being a fucking menace. But at least I wasn't an internet addled vain fuckhead who could at least talk to people. >>34480256There's no helping them, they have to help themselves out. If they go extinct they go extinct, it's for the better. Our numbers will decrease but our quality will increase. It has to happen so the undesirables burn away
>>34480350If they can only help themselves than I will help them help themselves. I will not abandon my brothers and sisters. It's more ambiguous now, but in much older times, you wouldn't catch a member of your village ever saying >those men and women who couldn't survive the enemy raid were weak, we're better off without themThat's true in one sense, but if you can help it without hurting it, there's no sense in abandoning them. Of course, if it can't be helped at all, then yes - they are truly lost. But I'll never forget if I ever do make it, that I was just like everyone else. I no matter how far along the path I go, I will never forget, that their life, could have been mine. and it could still be right now, if I don't do something.
>>34479832Yeah I'm kinda tired at this point. Born at the wrong fucking time, of course
This thread's been kind of derailed. Other than people saying that no one goes outside or does anything, does anyone else have a genuine answer?
>>34480393>Other than people saying that no one goes outside or does anything, does anyone else have a genuine answer?At a certain time I believe after highschool, people genuinely stick with their friends/people they've known for a while, instead of reaching out for new blood. I'm not sure why this happens. Maybe it's tribe mentality, like how family used to be back then.
>>34479812Yeah, I see this question popping very, VERY frequently here. Many people seem to have the same question.Way I see it, the options are:>at college/similar place of learning>at your job>at a club/hobby group>in online games that promote decent interaction>in online communities (facebook used to be reasonable for this back in the day)>at a church group>trying to join a tabletop RPG groupHonestly, those are about all I can think of at the moment. It is indeed harder nowadays compared to the past, unfortunately.
>>34480393Move to a place either in or near a city and attend bars/clubs/hobby groups/meetups. Some people want to use socials so you can make an instagram and just never really use it outside of dms only. But honestly the moving to a populated area is the biggest thing you can do for your social/dating life, everything else pales in comparison to the sheer amount of people you will meet. Just don't give up and be open to trying new things.>>34480417>>34480424These are correct, people in general are more closed off than before and like to stick to their tribe. But still, do not give up, there are others out there who are open to connection.
>>34480417Yeah, this is quite common, even in college. People attach themselves to a group, and many tend to be defensive about other people joining, it's just how most humans work, for better or worse.Hell, I am usually defensive about new people joining, but if they show they belong they are quite welcome
>>34479812there in Mexico maybe
>>34479812I think there's too much of a strong expectation zoomers have on what friends are. They grew up with lots of media so they're thinking a friend is like a ride or die someone that will be there for them etc etc. Media makes it seem like everyone has those people - but that's something you build over YEARS and usually when you're young. In the adult world - you're fooling yourself if you think that actually happens in any meaningful way unless its guys you work with for the next 10 years. People are economically struggling hard now - if you even remotely feel like dead weight, adult friends will always keep you at an arms length. What a friend realistically is today as an adult is cordial group that lasts for an X amount of time. I don't think I've made a single adult friend - just a bunch of acquaintances I'm chummy with or can party with - if someone wants to be friends as an adult , I assume they want something. Friends as an adult are for a season. Focus on enjoying the moments and memories as they happen rather than some ulterior motive that this "has to work" for years and years.
>>34479812or maybe at the Sweden's ski lodges good luck and have fun
>>34480484I blame Naruto and other anime/shows for duping zoomies into thinking everyone just gets one of these groups for showing up somewhere. You gotta bring personality and heat and main character energy to have people linger around you for no reason
>>34480484For me, a friend is a functional person who's capable of holding a platonic, adult relationship. I'm not expecting hangouts every night, in fact adult friends might just be a lot of people you know but don't see for months, but since you have so many, you have options and so do they. I don't extort my friends or expect them to do shit for me. They're adults who can come and go as they please. >If someone wants to be friends as an adult, I assume they want somethingI understand this, but I wanted to say I'm sorry you haven't found anyone yet who just wants to be with you and doesn't expect things from the get go. We all have needs, but we can't pressure people into friendship.
>>34480484What really grinds my gears about this, is the millennial tier hustle culture. It's like a Neo-protestant work ethic turned fucking evil. I genuinely believe that a lot of people just want someone to be with. They want anything in particular, they just want someone who sees them, and someone who they can see as well. Someone to be present with. When you remove that, you get this notion that unless there's some transaction, it doesn't exist or it isn't legitimate. Self-interest is inevitable, but that doesn't mean human bonds are just elaborate business transactions and nothing more. That's one aspect of an actual relationship. An important aspect, but only one.
>>34480727>>34479812Adding to this >>34480424 , it also helps to make yourself look open to interaction, too. Being friendly and polite towards others, being helpful etc., that sort of thing shows people that you can be approached and relied upon. If you're all moody and quiet people might just want to leave you be.
>>34479832Yeah but if you're not dumb you can see through the bullshit and override it all. Also I'd say they inherited a life of perpetual childhood rather than none.Everything's being outsourced and rented back to you, so everyone's priced out of everything and just accepts it because even their own agency and fulfillment is being outsourced to generic tropes and Larps, instead of taking ownership and responsibility for your life and bloodline
>>34481250Most zoomers are only children who grew up with little to no contact with kids their age outside of school. That's not a childhood.
>>34480501Zoomers didn't grow up with Naruto, millennials did
>>34481250Overriding it is easier said than done. How are you doing that with networking/socializing? Rent? Income? Diet?
Try to find someone who enjoys being around you.
>>34479812>preferably people who aren't niggers or nigger adjacentPlease go away
>>34481499no. it's called freedom of association. Don't want to associate with people who don't want to associate with niggers or nigger adjacent people or people in general who categorize others in this manner? Than fuck off yourself asshole
>>34481510"Niggers" or black people?
>>34481374And it makes em stay a child for far too long>>34481461Basically, breed. And contribute as little as possible to the system that siphons value from your labour to the elites, who end up charging you rent to use something you produced. Just because the ownership got fucked around with. And soon, political action probably, as the economy chokes itself
>>34479854The best thing you can do with that hope is to hope you can do it all yourself, because most people don't even dare excersise their free will let alone do so in defiance.
>>34479867They're probably the highly religious and race conscious
>>34480019>they're /ourguys/You are retarded. Cattle are cattle.
>>34481853I'm all okay with race conscious people but I don't think religious people will like me when they realize I don't practice their beliefs. I respect them, but I don't practice. Oh well.
>>34482431Well you will when you're initiated. They just want you to participate. They don't care what you think. Its up to you to decide whether you want to live miserably for the rest of your life or not.
>>34480484This, ive noticed the only friends my immediate family has are either decades long co workers or other family members. Like you said, friends as a kid is easier cause you can bond over stupid shit and grow out or apart together, but an adult has no such luxury. Bills, life, love, etc has been so ingrained that another new human seems wearisome especially in this fucked up society.
>>34482459>They don't care what you thinkand that alone is why they'll never be my friend
