How do I stop regretting missing out on youth? I don't even mean love, I mean stuff like going out with your friends, being young and figuring things out together, being mentored by smarter older people who realized you were basically a kid trying to get through, etc. feeling like the world was so huge. I really do fear turning 30 (I'm 26 atm) because I just haven't experienced anything of life. I know 26 isn't old and even 30 isn't old but it's not the joy of being young (teens-early 20s)
Fellow person who missed out on youth due to a negligent/abusive upbringing. In all honesty nothing will fill that empty void of missing out but you get better at ignoring it over time. One thing that helped me was just doing things I wanted to do regardless of whether I had friends to do it with(traveling domestic and international, eating at restaurants, going to movies, etc.) one thing I must warn you about is that if you start doing these things the desire to add people into your life will fade as you become more comfortable operating solo.
Nothing can help. If you didn't have those experiences in your youth, your brain developed in a way that makes you completely incompatible with adult life.
>>34480263Why didn't you experience these things when you were younger (you're still young btw) and why do you feel you cannot replicate it? A lot of being young is being really fucking stupid, it's never too late to be fucking stupid.
>>34481078Teenage hormones and nostalgia are what make those things meaningful. If you didn't experience them as a teenager, they suck.
>>34480263You fear turning 30 but it's around that age you stop caring, or at least stop thinking about it frequently. Once you stop feeling young you'll stop thinking about the things you didn't do while young. That and the crushing reality of adulthood gives you perspective and bigger things to worry about. It's gets worse OP and it also gets better.
>>34481103He literally only has half a life, there's no recovering from that. His brain is damaged from lacking the experiences a person needs to grow.
>>34481103>You fear turning 30 but it's around that age you stop caring, or at least stop thinking about it frequently.Not OP, but speak for yourself. I'm in my early 30s, and it got way fucking worse for me when I turned 30. I hate that I'm not considered "young" by society anymore, and I hate that my body's aging and rebelling against me. I want to turn back the clock 10 or even 15 years.
>>34481078I tried doing the things I missed out on and they sucked.Partying is a bore, you can't actually talk to anyone because of the loud ass musicSex was alright, but it wasn't really any better than jerking off and it wasn't the life changing experience I was told it was.I've done pretty much everything I was supposed to have done in my youth and none of it lived up to the hype.
>>34481041>Nothing can help it's all fucked give up bla blaCope. You'll be behind everyone else but that doesn't mean you can't catch up.
>>34481555The things kids and teenagers do can't be done as an adult.
>>34481571Exactly. You cant move cities and try to rough it at 30 like you can at 20. At 20, it’s fine. You’re young and dumb and you have plenty of time. It’s cool to struggle. At 30, you’re smarter and it doesn’t seem too appealing to move from where you’re at to a shoebox, and besides, the world is built for the young.
>>34480263"Maybe when you go back, Martin, you'll find that there are merry-go-rounds and band concerts where you are. Maybe you haven't been looking in the right place. You've been looking behind you, Martin. Try looking ahead."
>>34482348>The world is built for the young HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAAHHAHAHHAHAHHAGAGAGGAGHHAHHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAGAGAGHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
>>34482348>the world is built for the young.he says in the most gerontocratic society of all time
>>34482493i don't understand this quote>>34482582>>34486627>t. sub 25 and won't see what they have until it's gone
>>34486700The way I can tell you're 34+ and think we had it even half as good as you did in your youth
>>34480263“Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise. Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today.”
>>34486725the world is still made for you pal. i'm 26 and i can recognize that i still have it better than a 46 year old, i'm healthy and i still have a few meager years left to be part of culture and the future. those younger than me have even more time to do that. the world is made for you, go enjoy your youth
>>34480263Past doesn't exist.
>>34480263Go back to school RIGHT NOW, Help people out and talk with them, intrude in their shit, make plans of your own and invite them.
>>34486873Social spaces for young people do not exist anymore, there are no jobs or houses for them.
>>34482348If you didn't do the stuff young people do, then you don't have the life experience needed for adult life and relationships.
>>34482348i literally moved to nyc to start a real career for the first time at 38. it's fine. people on this board WAAAAY overestimate how fast you go decrepit
