How do I accept that most likely any girl that dates me only wants me as a fallback option after avoiding guys like me and only dating "Chads" for years? It kind of creates an enormous emotional barrier to loving them for me.
Part of me feels like I should just accept things for what they are and become a "fuck-man" to at least have some good times while I am still alive. I don't think I'll be all that successful in the endeavor, but it's something.
>>34482805Is it though. Is it something? Or is it just a veiled attempt for external validation.
>>34482802Dude get off of 4chan. Most girls aren't getting fucked by the whole football team and actually look down on the girls who are.
>>34482815Even if that is in there there really is more to it. Even if I woke up as Chad tomorrow and they all liked me I wouldn't be able to love women like I did before I knew. I kind of want to believe I am wrong and feel like I used to. I just want one girl at the end if the day, but not knowing if she was like this and never really being able to ask means there will always be a "wall" preventing me from really connecting with her. I dated attractive and "ugly" women if that matters. I just feel like everyone is really shallow and opportunistic, and they only settle for less due to failure. I just like quirky people that take care of themselves. I feel like using dating apps and researching this has broken my ability to love, but I hope I'm just retarded and wrong.
>>34482825It's not about their partner count. I don't mind women with lots of past partners. It's "leagues" and "hierarchy" and settling for less that bothers me. Apparently 80% of women never even see me on apps because I am just a bit too short. Like how am I supposed to interpret that?
I also feel like my dating life and best years were wasted because the world changed right as I became a young adult, and like I can't really get over that either. I feel like the more social media became popular the more invisible and unattractive I became. Girls only liked me before because we were in a small pond together. Now that they've seen bigger fish they can't love a guy like me like they would have if we grew up in a small town together.
>>34482840Your problem is that you look at yourself as worthless and think women would never be with you unless settling. You need to fix that mentality. First, because it isn't true, and second because despite it not being true you MAKE it true. People read your subconscious mannerisms and treat you in the way you project that you expect to be treated. Find something to be proud of and put your best qualities forward.
>>34482861I'll never undo this in time. I'm pretty sure everything I think is right and society doesn't know how to deal with it. In the future we'll have genetic engineering and all be perfect and then just personality will matter. Thanks. I just don't think I have what it takes to be confident. I'm just like a normal guy with lots of flaws. I tried to improve enough, but ultimately women just don't want a guy like me unless we are in a small pond together and they've never seen the ocean. I guess I'll try and have fun and go out and stuff, but I just wish I didn't see mating the way I do now. I don't think anyone or anything is going to convince me. I'll just keep it to myself. Sorry. Thanks for being nice.
