>>34484685
speaking to you is like speaking to a lobotomy patient or somebody recovering from a traumatic brain injury. I don't understand how you're an adult. You're so proud of yourself that you finished a show in bed? all you do is consume and receive. You are a receiver

The women I want to date would never find me attractive enough and there's really nothing I can do to change that in time

>>34484685
Gf and I were getting ready in the same hotel room to go out for our anniversary dinner. In the middle of changing, a firecracker burst relatively nearby and I started getting chest pains (I have a heart thing). I fell to my bed holding my chest and trying to calm myself down. My girl just walks up a couple times asks if I'm okay and then goes back to doing her make up. She didn't ask if i needed water or any medicine. Only after getting ready did she try to understand what was happening to me.

Thoughts?

FUCK I HATE NEUROTYPICALS

>>34484796
>Thoughts?
Men are such pussies. Imagine a firecracker made your bf have a heart attack and die, I'd be so embarrassed

DEATH TO ALL AUTISTS AND ADHD

i'm heartbroken and devastated by what you've done. you let me down when i needed you the most. it's betrayal in its purest form. i trusted you with my deepest feelings. i was vulnerable with you in a way that i haven't been with anyone else in this world. i showed you the real me. only to be met with pain and disappointment. i can't understand how you could do this to me. i really thought you cared. i thought you loved me

>>34484827
Odds are you are one and don't even realize it. Who do you think uses 4chan in the first place? :)

I lose feelings for a guy when he tells me he was molested as a kid. I know this isn't how it works but it forever changes the way I see him. I assume he's less competent and constantly gets taken advantage of. Idk. It's like he went from unrapable in my mind to rapable? Which kind of defeats the point almost of him being with me to protect me. I don't mind if someone attempted to rape or molest him but he should've escaped it. That's how it works in my mind at least.

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oh my god I traumatized that poor woman

you can always tell a guy was molested as a kid because they're always self obsessed and want to be lusted over like they're women

>>34484861
I just have regular mental illness but at least I'm neurotypical

>>34484879
Such is your nature as a moid

>>34484870
My ex was molested as a child and used it as an excuse to cheat on me. Was it real or did he lie about it to gain my trust and attention is something I will never know. Urgh I hate him and miss him and hope he dies.

You ever talk to someone so stupid you wonder how they made it to their age without dying in a horrible accident? The retarded must be divinely protected

>>34484893
>My ex was molested as a child and used it as an excuse to cheat on me
Yep that always happens
>Was it real or did he lie about it to gain my trust and attention
Oh shit I haven't even considered this before. Wtf. Now I'm questioning everything

Regretting cutting someone out of my life who harmed me is a confusing thing. Guess that part of me that felt real and authentic and vulnerable should just die already.

Signs a guy was molested as a kid:

>self obsessed (esp with his looks even if he is ugly)
>sex obsessed
>selfish in bed
>cheats
>mommy issues
>adhd
>bpd
>plays video games
>anger issues
>wild mood swings
>enjoys sexual attention from men even if he claims to be straight
>plays with his ass
>listens to metal

Doesn't even matter if his rapist was a man or woman it's always like this

>>34484870
"As a kid" is the important part here. Do you expect a child to be able to protect themselves or adult women? Just because something happened when he was a defenseless child doesn't mean he can't protect himself or you as a grown man.

>>34484915
Do you actually regret it or do you just miss them? That's two different things

>>34484931
So you don't have any sympathy for grown men who get raped?

Prison rape isn't funny

>>34484930
I've got three of these and I wasn't. Video games and listens to metal. I don't really look like I listen to metal though. The worst one I have is mommy issues, although as an adult I've realized that isn't a reflection on me so much as a reflection on her behavior and upbringing. She had no father and her mother oversheltered her. I was sheltered, but not as much as she was and find myself having to be more of an adult than her.

>>34484943
i want to date a guy like you one day

>>34484937
Absolutely, I do. I was pointing out why her assumption is flawed and hopefully that will help her change it.

>>34484940
It sounds funny. I was just thinking about rape and how everyone from Mexico is a product of it.

>>34484947
Thanks, made me smile. These sentences aren't really that much of a glimpse of who I am, but I know I'd try to be a good man for whoever I'm with. Although everyone has drastically different definitions of what that is exactly.

>>34484940
So it's funny as long as it doesn't take place in prison.

>>34484886
I don't think anyone who uses the word neurotypical can be.

>>34484931
I know that's true but it doesn't change how I see things now. Maybe it's because they still see themselves that way which makes me see them that way too. It's like it's not that they're just vulnerable about that one thing and it exists in isolation but it bleeds out into every other thing they do. It's like they really are damaged goods.
>>34484950
I really appreciate it, I'm not saying I hate them or anything, I have nothing but sympathy for rape victims. I'm just trying to explain how I think and I want to correct this too.

>>34484956
what is your definition of a good man? who do you aspire to be for your loved one?

>>34484943
Do you really not cheat as a man?

>>34484781
>there's really nothing I can do to change that in time
That's quitter talk. Sure you can

I don't care about my birthday !!!
Family always ask what I want and where I want to go eat, but I don't need nor want anything, especially eating in one of your shitty restaurant.
Why my birthday should be a chore about dealing with normies shit like that ?
Leave me alone !!!

>>34484958
Well, there’s nothing funny about prison, is there?

>put tremendous effort into showering him with attention validation and support
>be a shoulder for him to cry on 24/7
>"nooo you don't really like me you're just infatuated you're probably talking to other guys"

tired of this shit. i was fine dealing with this the first 1000 times but now it's just disrespectful. other guys would've been like thank you so much for everything i have the best girlfriend in the world i need to do something special for you like buy you gifts and plan dates

It's gay for a guy to go to prison

If a guy does doggy style he is gay and probably needs to pretend you are a guy to cum

>>34484970
Tough question with a loaded answer. Mentioning something that happened in your past doesn't mean that's how you see yourself now. Personally, it's something I'd rather bury instead of mention ever, but I've also not gone through being molested so I can't really know the mindset of why to bring that past up in a conversation.

>>34484973
Someone who has a code of ethics and morals. Tries to do the right thing. Believes in treating people equally. Realizes when they fail at their values and attempts to correct and do better. Realizes that we're all human, but doesn't use it as an excuse or crutch.

I practice this by supporting my mom and my friends and by trying to be a positive person without faking niceness, but still trying to be nice while also guarding myself. Admittedly I struggle a bit with being expressively positive because I'm a calmer person than most to the point of having been called "robotic" or "Sheldon Cooper". Others might practice this through charity work and donations. I find the most important thing is to follow the Golden Rule of "Treat others how you want to be treated." The only problem for me when I was younger was that meant, leave people alone, because I wanted to be left alone at the time.

>>34484977
No, I don't, but I also haven't had a girlfriend since I was 14. I find the idea of cheating disgusting.

>>34485000
Straight guys like girl butts. I don't want to look at man ass, but I'd grab a woman's ass and give her a light spank in doggy style if she's into it. If I see a guy's ass, I want to bleach my eyes.

>>34485006
>If I see a guy's ass, I want to bleach my eyes.
I used to date a guy who wouldn't wear underwear and he'd sag his jeans to moon everyone he walked past

>>34485004
I want to elaborate on why I find cheating disgusting. Because I believe that if you cheat, it means your lack self control and discipline outweighs your love and duty to your partner. It means you don't care enough about them. That's just if the cheating is sex based. If it's feelings based, you let yourself get too close to someone you should not have. Out of respect to your partner, if someone flirts with you or asks you to coffee or extra one on one time, it is your responsibility to shut that down fast and stonewall the other person who is not your partner. You shouldn't go after someone else because you are having slight issues with your partner, and if those slight issues are big issues, it's on you to get out of that relationship before moving on to someone else.

I'm the stupidest person in the world for giving up on you like that and letting you go. God gave me the deal of a lifetime, a second chance with you, and I fucked that up too. Fuck fuck fuck fuck Whyyyyy did I do that? You really liked me too fuck

I think I might actually be retarded

>>34485004
>>34485027
Reading this made me tear up. So there are good men in the world after all

>>34485013
Gross. I got mooned in the locker room. His response was "Like you've never seen an ass before." Other than my own, I hadn't and I don't make a habit of looking at my ass other than for health and cleaning purposes because that'd be gay.

>>34485032
If they really liked you, they'll understand if you apologize.

>>34485032
>>34485042
Actually fuck apologizing if you just rejected them and regret it. But if they really liked you and you let them know how you feel, they'll understand.

>>34485027
I wish you were my bf's father

fuck eczema

>>34485032
I haven't given up on you.

>>34485038
Thanks. The problem is a lot of good men and women get grabbed up and kept in their 20s. Others have been burned by bad relationships and are done, preferring to be single. Other good men, get turned into hateful misogynists because they had too many bad relationships, burned too many times. There is a difference between being a burned misogynist and burned but cautious or happy to be single though.

My problem is I didn't care to date in my early 20s. I was happy with being single, staying home, and playing video games in my free time when I wasn't at work. Then when I wanted to date, Covid happened, and I have extremely high standards that I won't lower to the point where I can't really bring myself to try to date.

My main issues are mainly because I don't know where to go. Apps seem shallow, I'm not looking for a hook up, nor do I want a woman who participated in hook up culture. I don't like bars because I don't like alcohol or what it does to people. I don't like church because I've dealth with overly religious people. I was raised Christian and have many of those values, but I just want to be a good person for the sake of treating others how I want to be treated, not because I'm being watched. I can't stand being preached at. I love the idea of a sole mate, lifelong partnership, one and only, but I know that isn't realistic. I also don't like government involvement in marriage, but I'm sex after marriage yet without wanting to get married. Like I want the commitment without the contracts.

chickened out of talking to him again today

>>34485065
I'm not old enough to be. I'm so anti-cheating because, well, I always was, but then I read my father's journal after he died and there was a woman he liked a lot and he was the other man. He wrote how he never wanted to be that person. I was disappointed in him too because I thought he was better than that.

I have fallen into the trap of breaking my own code before though and it was something "small". I got a speeding ticket because I was trying to get a friend of a friend somewhere on time. We would've been fine if my friend came out of his house 45 mins sooner when I got there. I should've canceled the trip, but I knew if a sped by a consistent certain amount on the interstate that I could make it up. We made it, but I got stopped. My friend paid the ticket, but for me, that broke a goal of mine to never get a ticket. I deserved it though. I've also sped to not be late for work in the past. Hated myself every time. A man can't let himself break his code. No matter how big or small, you need to have something to go by. I think this also applies for women as well. Accountability goes far in shaping who you are.

If you have a cheating bf, consider making him an ex-bf. He needs to show progress with actual visible changes, but he may just hide better. Perhaps in the past there may have been something you could've done is what you may tell yourself, but more likely it's on who he is as a person and not on you at all. He may even deeply regret it, but he really should've kept in his pants.

If alcohol or other substances were involved, well it weakens your inhibitions supposedly, but I suspect people use that as an excuse. I don't drink but I have a friend who drinks heavy. He gets sloppy but still seems to act like himself. I know different things affect people differently though, it doesn't make it okay. Something he could do would be to not ever put himself in the situation again. I don't know him or you, so I can't say if breaking up is right or not.

>>34485113
Oh, for the record, my dad didn't cheat on my mom. They divorced a long time prior over budgeting disagreements. I still don't believe in divorce though. I think people get married too quickly. Figure each other out first. But then I hear about 20+ year marriages being broken up over new internet culture and it breaks my heart.

i'll kill you

Don't try to dig deeper and save me. I really don't have a heart

>>34485216
>>34485265
Whats the tea

damn i hate the type of guy who always wants to talk about his feelings. why can't you act right

MM,

I'm only going to see you from that Saturday forward

None of C's pollution from here, none of C's distortions and falsehoods.

Only our truth
MM

Fuck C and Fuck N

Chrstine Chubbuck is so fucking hot, I wish we could have deflowered each other and then both killed ourselves

>>34485272
He lied to me that she was dead and was secretly meeting up with her the whole time LOL

am i the only one who thinks the whole /adv/ board is insanely depressing? jesus fucking christ

well good for you that you can admit you're non monogamous. thanks for the speech. i just thought you guys also preached that you need to do it ethically.

She is going to seethe forever LOL

>>34485328
How is it depressing?

SNAKES.

IN.

THE.

GRASS!!!!!

Fuck this next time a guy needs a break after the first round I'm cheating

I have not been any better of a man in the past few years than I was a teenager. and a really horrific teenager at that. not soon but I'm 24 this year. the worst part was
that I've been aware or made aware of these issues before. I understand their base causes and that I shouldn't excuse them. I just also don't fully know how to fix it if I'm above the pay grade in complexity and volatility and other things of any therapist Medicaid will allow. God knows trying to fix it myself, or with ill fitting professional help doesn't work! I'm taking a lot of steps to be a better person, always must.. but I have since I was almost 16 and, I'm not a better person than him

>>34485027
>It means you don't care enough about them
Me af

>>34485344
to hear problems constantly, it's depressing,
maybe also the solutions are slow and non specific,
but also anons tear down normie solutions like meds and even therapy(??),
i kind of get it though and that's why i'm here, it's just hard to be on /adv/

i came here to scout though because i might post a thread, or i could spot the right advice,

my life is next level fucked up right now,
honestly it seems like i need a specific fix that's not slow and that's the only option,

>>34485283
Moon,
We got this as we choose each other over his bullshit.
Sun

Mike...wait for me...

>>34485378
>my life is next level fucked up right now,
>honestly it seems like i need a specific fix that's not slow and that's the only option,
We're here for you anon. What's on your mind?

>>34485378
but really i'm lost, even about the very next step,
especially if it's gonna be some 'good boy' disciplined solution,

>>34485378
>to hear problems constantly, it's depressing,
It's true I realized I wasn't as depressed as I thought I was, I was pretty optimistic but everyone around me was trying to convince me not to be for some reason. I have normies irl telling me friendship isn't real and marriage isn't worth it, stuff like that. It's actually not that serious. Here's a good piece of advice: don't surround yourself with people who are miserable

>>34485392
It sounds like you are scared

>>34485395
bro you have NO IDEA lmaoooo
there's so much more to it tho
>>34485387
thanks but not private enough (｡•́︿•̀｡) at the moment... need a vpn (dont got much income tho)

>>34485382
Ignoring your mocking and recognizing our love is stronger than your bullshit.

I saw a thread earlier that said women have killed more via abortion than Stalin and Hitler combined and it actually seems to be true. Then I saw this thread and there are foids talking down on raped children. Probably fatass and also (raped) foids at that. Being gay is a blessing.

>>34485421
Based gay is the way

Men are fucking themselves over if they still choose to be hetero in 2026

>>34485394
idk how to fit in that information right now,
i thought i should be moving toward the miserable ones maybe? it's hard to know what happened especially because my mind/judgement is fucked right now,

but folks took advantage i think...

>men
>hetero
never saw it

Mike it's ME don't you recognize your moon? Or have you moved on already?

The moon only has eyes for the sun. It's easy to choose each other.

>>34485434
>It's easy to choose each other.
nice fantasy, it's not that easy irl though. maybe you haven't been in relationships to know

He says he's in love with me and puts no one else above me but can't choose me because he has a girlfriend. LMAO

>>34485432
She knows that the next step is to add me on discord that we talked on or insta. She has my cell.

>>34485442
Mike I have your # too it's not that hard to get it

is your discord/insta still fromsuntomoon?

>>34485435
I know my moon and my love for each other is real.

>"Mike, I love you, remember that."

>"I love you too. That makes me feel at ease"

>"You're the only thing that matters now, it's been like that for so long. Nothing will ever change that."

>"I'm only yours Mike, I love only you"

>"I'll always love you and care about you, no matter what. You mean so much. You complete me, I complete you."

>"You're the only home I have free of judgment and anything that will upset me, I'm crying because I need you, this argument is temporary, but I'll always have that empty part needing you. I'm your home too. You are perfect. I love you more"

>>34485444
No,No one but her has my cell

>>34485445
She knows what it is and has the means to add me again. Im not advertising my socials.

I'd say about 90% of the time I worry about something, it ends up being something that was worth worrying about. So I get real sick of people telling me not to worry.

Call me heartless for not giving you another chance but I'm happier alone than with you. I don't /need/ someone to be happy unlike your desperate ass, isn't that why you fucked all of this up in the first place?

>>34485463
Like what? Genuinely curious

>>34484685
I'm fucking retarded, quit my job, and I have no plan B except do instacart and make mobile apps using react native and attempt to monetize them LMAO. 0 savings, 0 sexual encounters, I require currency, but not common sense. :U

>>34485472
just get another job

what a cold uncaring world

came back just to be disappointed again. sigh.

29yo giga virginia

Hey
>>34485476
Fuck you and your common sense I wanted to make bank doing dumb things that make no money

swallowed nut from a guy who dropped out of high school ONCE and i swear it made me permanently lose 20 iq points

>>34485500
Was it urself?

You can't change a man who's a pedophile

Each day I realise the consequences of wasting my time doing nothing but I still waste it. Now all that time wasted has come to bite my ass and idk what I will do. I am stuck in the past seeing no hope for future. Each day the regret keeps on piling up and gets worse and worse to the point that I idk what to think about so I keep on wasting more time.

>>34485537
me too. i'm feeling this so bad right now

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In one of those moods where I just want to smash one of these into your dumb fuckin head if u are still in my way why the fuck are u still in my way?

>>34485545
because i'm in love with you

I'm jealous of people who cheat and/or have a crush at their workplace. Must reduce work stress a lot

If I was molested u seriously think I wouldn’t have admitted it by now? No, you’re not that dumb and you’re one serious bullshitter if u act like I need to elaborate as to why you’re so fucking dumb and actually self serving rather than concerned.

U want to look like a hero so badly when all u are doing is acting like a parasite.