Does anyone else struggle with self esteem and an inferiority complex while trying to date? How do you overcome it? Is it possible or advised to date with this issue?>meet someone>they like me, i like them >things are okay for around 3-6 months >slowly self esteem issues creep back>I feel tortured by thinking of them happier with someone else who could match them better>I am not as attractive or interesting as someone else could be for them >My melt downs about it are inconsolableI have tried therapy, I have tried pushing through but it ends up feeling unnatural. If I try to be comforted, it feels like my skin is being set on fire. The only solution is waiting for it to go away but it takes days sometimes. It makes the happy moments in dating pale in comparison to the hell I feel when this issue sparks up. I dont want to feel like this anymore
>>34485639Just ignore it. The way to ignore it better is whenever it flares up, depersonalize from it. Tell yourself the self esteem issues or low feelings are the same as a headache or a runny nose or a sore stomach, treat them like a cold or flu and accept the feeling is there but it's only that, a feeling that will pass same as a runny nose or a sore stomach. Pushing through it doesn't work because you can't push through feelings you can only accept them and process them. The more you push them, the harder they push back. So just detach your identity from those particular feelings by regarding them as a symptom like a cold or ache or itch.
