>>34485682
Bait

>>34485697
Not bait. imo, being protective is the top 1% most attractive trait on men and I just want tips on how to get a bf who is like that. If you don't have advice then get out.

>>34485682
I'm that sort of guy for my wife, protective guy. What you will want to look for is a guy who has the [Hypervigilance] trait. It's the type of guy who knows how to spot danger and is always on the look out for danger. Such men are the type of man who fear losing things they love or people they love especially, and when they feel their loved one is potentially about to get into trouble or harm, they go into [Protective] mode. Men like this are usually men who lived through hard or bad times, typically abusive backgrounds. What people call [Bad guy].

Be warned though: Dating the [Bad guy] carries with it a 50% chance of danger to yourself, they may start to see you as a an emotional or mental threat and abuse you. 50% success rate is when all he has is the Hypervigilance and instinct to protect and defend. What separates Bad Guy #1 from #2 is a matter of intelligence and/or self awareness.

If you were my daughter I would tell you to skip the [Bad guy] types, and reconsider [Good man]. [Good man] aren't actively protective, but they are pre-emptively protective. They don't need [Hypervigilance] to protect you, they use [Strategy]. They cultivate a home and lifestyle that means you never run into problems or danger to begin with, they often have [Preparation] skill where they have already prepared firearms or weaponry and engagement with the enemy strategies. Do not follow the common trend of women today, avoid [Bad Guy]. It's only good if the 50% risk pays off. The 100% guarantee for love and safety is in [Good guy]. So go with that type.

>>34485736
This fucking guy got it right.

Same way with my woman and child.
I’m ALWAYS looking around and being aware. I look to see where others are looking or if they keep looking at us and I just stare right back at them till they look away. Those two are my world and I’d do anything to protect them. So I’d say this dude definitely captured the kind of person you should look for. Don’t go for the dudes who seem like they are not paying attention or in another world thinking about big goblin anime titties on a jaguar. You’ll know a good one when you find it. You’ll automatically feel protected and comfortable.

>>34485761
Hey, nice another man after my own heart. Hope you're doing well brother, it's a tough gig being a battle weary warrior in a peaceful garden. Creating the family life I never had growing up is some hard shit but worth every second. I wish you health and peace to you and yours

>>34485736
thanks! i will keep this in mind. i don't have much to add to your post, i guess i agree.
also. i'm thinking about this stuff in the first place because my ex, who was essentially my first everything, was not protective/helpful, i want to avoid that in the future. for example, let's say i was lightly injured in some way and we didn't have any food in the fridge, and i was able to go to the store, but not without pain. in those kinds of situations rather than wanting to help and going to buy food, he'd guilt trip me, talk about how his plans for the day are ruined, and act annoyed/angry even if he did eventually go after arguing at me. so eventually i stopped asking for any kind of help, because i started realizing he did not have any motivation to help me. eventually in those kinds of situations, where i could've used help, i always did it alone and stayed silent because he basically got angry if i ever asked for help. and it's not like i always ask for help, i am quite independent already and don't enjoy asking for help. so it always felt like a punch in the gut when i gathered up my courage to ask him, and all i'd get in response is "can't you just do it?". he was not like that always. so yeah that's why i want a bf who is helpful and protective.

>>34485772
Thank you friend. Best wishes of life love and luck to you and yours as well. It’s not easy everyday but it pays off.

>>34485783
Jesus fucking Christ I hate your ex. Yeah you dated [Nice Guy]. Not to be confused for [Good guy]. [Nice guy] is from the [Bad Guy] class. Bad guys hate them, Good men hate them. Because Nice Guy is a pussy who only thinks of himself.

When my wife, who was only my GF at the time, broke her arm, I went into a full blown dissociative panic and my chest was thumping and my mind running at 100 thoughts per minute to find a solution to go and get her help. I ran in front of a taxi to stop it and picked her up (she thought this was dramatic and not necessary since her legs were fine) and sat her ass down and told the driver to get to the hospital pronto. Your ex sounds like he was a feminine child boy in the body of a man, a Peter Pan. Not a drop of male instinct in his blood, what a bitch.

>>34485682
Gays don't do that.

>>34485816
i mean he was generally nice, and everyone liked him, but i do think having a mom always who did everything for him may have made him selfish, like on a deeper level believing others should always do things for him. he was hypervigilant and noticed everything, but i just think that when it came to daily life at home, he didn't see me as someone worth helping or respecting basically and couldn't be bothered.
but yeah that's a nice story about your wife anon. she is lucky!

>>34485846
>I mean he was generally nice, and everyone liked him, but i do think having a mom always who did everything for him may have made him selfish.
Yea that's how nice guys get born. Don't get me wrong I love my mom to death God rest her soul, but she did everything for me too but I also did everything for her especially when she got sick. Momma's boys are either pampered gay little poodles or they are boys who has to become men earlier to become a man of the house. Again it's a coin toss.

>but i just think that when it came to daily life at home, he didn't see me as someone worth helping or respecting basically and couldn't be bothered.
I'll be honest with you, most if not all men become lazy stubborn donkeys when they are at home with the woman. We're a bit like lions in a pride, even other mammals do this shit. You notice how the male lion is lazily sleeping all the time and it's the female lioness who bites his ass to get him to roar and be bothered? It's to keep him useful and alert lol. Female lionesses nag the male lion same as how human women nag the male human at home. Every guy you will ever date has that in him, it's cuz men associate the home with peace and comfort and that's what we want.

But a functional adult man won't bite your head off for being nagged at. Usually grown adult men can find it endearing or even hot if the woman nags in the right way. And if you've a good man, you won't need to ask him or nag him. If you've a good-bad man, you might need to nip his ass but he will happily help you around. If you have a nice guy bitch boy, he won't be helping shit he will just throw a tantrum

>>34485863
100% right.

Home is peace and comfort and I never felt like my woman nagged me in a ‘nagging’ way. I usually do what needs to be done without her having to say it. As I sit here and think of all the things she does and that I do, I’m very grateful and lucky to have this. It’s a very mutual partnership. She doesn’t complain like at all. I give her a good wienering and does what a man is suppose to do and I never hear a complaint.

>>34485863
this isn't a serious question really, but wouldn't it then be better to never move in with the man?

>>34485879
>this isn't a serious question really, but wouldn't it then be better to never move in with the man?
Don't move in with any man before marriage is what I'd tell you. I know some girls like toe escalate into cohabitation ASAP to test the man and see what he is like, but it's a dumb move because if the man is abusive he ain't letting you out the door. The best strategy is to instead vacation with the man for a week or two at a time in a rented place, or only stay at the home for month or two at a time with him never move in. That means you get to see what's up without risking your shit

>>34485682
>How do I get a bf
>t. bio femanon
LITERALLY just DOWNLOAD TINDER like how stupid do you have to be to ask this question

>>34485896
some people don't want to use dating apps, it may sound dumb but i'm proud i've never used tinder (or any dating app) and never will.

>>34485878
>I never felt like my woman nagged me in a ‘nagging’ way
Same with my woman. She nags me but it's not in that nagging way it's in that super hot wifey way. It's a subtle difference between bitchy nagging and good woman nagging lol. I need to get on your level and do things without it being asked though, I still got lots of bad habits from my formative life when I was rough around the edges. I love my woman because she keeps me on the straight and narrow and in return I keep her protected

>>34485907
in that case LITERALLY JUST GO OUTSIDE RETARDEd foid

>>34485975
Kek Everyone here goes outside except you, xer.

>>34485934
Ay I still have to be told about some things as well, I slack at times but in my head if I do what needs to be done right away I got more time to relax and spend time with family. She can be somewhat lazy as well but I don’t degrade or put her down or make her feel like she isn’t pulling her weight. I usually mention things in a joking manner/tone so that way we don’t get irritated or feel a certain way. Humor is an amazing anecdote.

>>34485886
NTA but I never thought of it this way before. Thanks!

>>34486210
>if I do what needs to be done right away I got more time to relax and spend time with family
Sick, I'll try to employ this strat myself. And yea me and wife use humour to get by as well, we even find ways to laugh about old arguments if we can.

>>34486285
No problem, same is true for finances as well, don't go sharing the money pot like shared back accounts or shared debts or whatever, keep your money flow separate. Some women also have this habit of wanting to "merge" lives together to feel like a pair, cuz they think it's cute. And it is cute but only until at least engagement ideally marriage lol. Reason being is you are gonna need financial independence and your own financial tracks kept private in case shit goes south and you gotta bail from an abusive situation. Taxis and ubers and plane tickets cost money, so do moving trucks to get your shit out and haul ass outta there. Women who are stuck with abusive deadbeats are usually stuck because they tied their money together, moved all their shit into a shared home, and entangled their lives with them so it makes it harder to bail due to the mental load of worrying about how to get your shit back in order to leave.