Maybe I'm young and rebellious and an asshole or what not, but I don't really get along with my parents, especially my Dad. He likes spoiling me, but dear God do I hate anything he gets/buys me, to the point I'd rather fall and break a leg over him catching me during the fall. Part of it is probably that some of the stuff he gets me are things I specifically didn't ask for, and that keeping him happy feels like babysitting, but he's still my Dad and I can't deny that everything I own essentially came from him. I'd prefer to not dislike them, it seems beneficial considering I'm somewhat forced to stay with them due to their inability to see me leave, plus it's financially useful to stay here (I'm a student). What do I do?
Shut the fuck up you spoiled brat. You don't know how luck you are.
>>34486257have you fucking tried doing anything for your parents?
>>34486260I do though, which is why I'm actively trying to like them>>34486261I cook, take the trash out, do most things involving tech around the house, I help with cleaning, massage, give them a portion of my earnings to pay off a car (which they're buying for me even though I didn't want it, so I don't know what to do considering I won't accept ownership of it), help my siblings with studying, babysit the children of relatives, am an object that they get to show off to other people, keep quiet about our differences when it comes to beliefs to maintain peace at home
>>34486280You massage your parents…? Also maybe get to know your father more, talk to him, ask to go fishing or whatever. It’s not cringe to hangout with your parents. They wiped shit from your crying ass for years and sacrificed many things to make sure you’re happy.
>>34486257Also seeing your parents as just beneficial things is fucked. Parents give up so much so you can be happy and well off in life. You’re spoiled. So why not save them money and tell them you don’t like some of the stuff or be nice and say you’re not into that anymore or whatever. They probably love you with their whole damn heart and soul and clearly your dad is reaching out to try and wants to interact and know his son more. Don’t be a fucking piece of shit. Talk to your dad, you’ll miss him when he’s gone.
>>34486472There's not really anything we have in common, I wouldn't know what activity we could do together. We've tried fishing but he had to vomit so we're probably not doing that again.>>34486485>You'll miss himI pray I will man, I'm afraid his death is just going to be a normal day for my emotional state. I don't want to be an asshole, I wish I did care for him. I care for other people, even other relatives, just not specifically my parents, and I do want to change that.>Save upI'm a student with a minijob, and a big part of that is going into paying off their/my car, so there isn't much room for that. Maybe in the future.
>>34486257i left my home and never talked to my parents and my life has been perfect
>>34486835I could do that, but my parents would be emotionally destroyed, they're like helpless toddlers without me
>>34486257If you truly dislike them why do you care how would they feel if you left?Stop keeping things to youself and get into conflict with them a little, threaten to leave unless they stop annoying you.
>>34486485Bad advice. Never tell parents what you don't like about them, if you can help it.>>34486257Move dude. You clearly don't appreciate them. It's a You, not them situation. You keep hurting them like this, they are growing to be co-dependent on you.Hell, you fucking have them still, you have a home, a safety net to return to if you fail anything. My dad is dead, He died when I was 26 in that pandemic. My life is a mess, I could have pushed a little harder just knowing he was there. My mother is a broken mess.Your parents will die. Move now, realize what you miss of them and tell them so, there's the "liking them" you look for. Let them grow fully into elderly adults. Be there when they need it again.
>>34487690I do care about them and want their happiness, I just don't like them.>>34487716I'm about to dump my last 3k into the car payments that my parents really want for me, so I can't afford to move. I also wouldn't know how to initiate moving - a day after mentioning it, my Mom would be crying and locking away my belongings, my Dad would demand a proper answer as to why I'm leaving, and around 2 dozen family friends and relatives would be calling/finding me to talk me out of it. The only point in time for me to reach any sense of sovereign identity has always felt like the day they die. They're wonderful people so I hate looking forward to the time they're gone.
