I need therapy to deal with years of pent-up trauma but I work stupidly long hours.I'm thinking of trying Online Therapy (with video) at early/late hours to get my shit together but I fear that I'll get some Temu Nurse who plugs my words into ChatGPT and larps as an expert. Are my fears unfounded? Is videochat therapy legit? (I'll look for a provider covered by my insurance. No Betterhelp bs.)
>>34486279Find a psychologist PsyD/phd that does psychodynamic. CBT is dogshit slop for idiots. online is whatever as long as you have someone qualified, but in-person is best so you can work through transference easier
>>34486284Is there anything I can do to avoid an online psychologist with so many clients that they forget everything you've told them by the next session?
>>34486298? You can just ask how many clients they see. They may also take short notes.
>>34486279All therapy relies on brainwashing yourself to different goals, the most common being>Resign to being unable to change people or conditions>Believe that everything will go fine>Resign to a mediocre life.Only the middle one is consistent with people who are actually happy. I think therapy is insufficient. Go to 4 sessions to trauma dump, but don't accept any bullshit about reducing your expectations etc.
>>34486343none of the above, you are very stupid, I don't know why you are inclined to advertise this.
Therapy is bullshit. Go see a good psychologist to see what they say your personality type is and then find some life coaches that will get you out of it and to a secure personality type. I went to a therapist for 6 months and shit just put me in more debt. They aren't there to help you in the slightest and many don't because you're their source of income so the more people they cure the less people that come to them. Therapist also aren't allowed to actually give you direction or take accountability for anything so if you are looking to resolve anything or get a second opinion they aren't going to help. You are literally paying someone to tell you "lol do it yourself! Just like stop being sad bro :^)"
>>34486390>Therapy is bullshit. Go see a good psychologist Yes, I intend to see a psychologist, just through the internet. >You are literally paying someone to tell you "lol do it yourself! Just like stop being sad bro :^)"I've encountered that before. I don't need an expensive hype bro. I want someone to help fix me. Is there any way to pick out someone who wants to get me fixed not and not just keep me coming back? My insurance doesn't cover unlimited sessions.
>>34486390They won't help because a lot of reasons.1. They are clinical LARPers, so they adhere to a cliniquesque ethical code of conduct. They won't help you be better than the average person2. The goal of treatment is return to function. People function pretty badly but manage to have a job and pay taxes, that's where they aim to deliver you.3. They aren't trained for many things you expect them to know. They don't philosophize about the human psyche, so they don't give you novel insight or anything deviating the standard. They aren't taught socialization, that's a specialization for someone working with autism, (and even then autism is a bait field of application for neuroscientists, who are biologists with imaging skills). They are trained in a few schools of psychoanalysis from the 50s.If I were a psychologist, I would hire prostitutes and actors to simulate real life situations where your emotions are pushed, along with training with input from them.
>>34486462Again completely wrong, where are you getting this from? reddit?
>>34486279The end goal of therapy is to realize that when u are in your head trying to "figure stuff out" nothing is happening except that you are enjoying the process of circling and circling fake meaning. You have a retroactive fantasy that if u can just sort your years of pent up trauma out u will be good or some hole will finally be filled. This is a fantasy to create meaning ultimately. What u need to realize is that looking inside all u will find is SHIT. You need to look outwards engage with the world and forget about your mental world. It's fake it's cope and it serves the enjoyment of "doing something" you are engaging with the fantasy of fixing yourself or engaging with the fantasy that ur so fucked up !!!! Because life is meaningless ultimately so we need to cope somehow but u need to traverse this. Focus on the world not your head.
>>34486482There is nothing to fix nothing to solve because all trauma does is fully reveal your inherent emptiness to you. The fantasy that was bringing you meaning collapsed and all that is left is emptiness. The trick is to just move forward you need a vision to work towards something that u know will make you a baller. But the trick is to know that it won't actually bring you that finality of meaning there is ALWAYS going to be a void in you always because it's structural you can fill it temporarily by working towards something and enjoying the process this is called healthy desire. Read lacan it's insane how much I understand about human behavior now
>>34486482>Everything you experience is a lie>Focus on the world (return to function)>The world is meaningless, just cope! (resign to the conditions)
>>34486499NoIt's more like>We are a split subject we will never feel whole because it's structural >That lack drives desire>When healthy desire is threatened by contact with the real it can turn to surplus enjoyment, a attempt to preserve the fantasy or to continue to enjoy desire before it collapses (could be avoiding releasing a piece of art for fear that u aren't the great artist you fantasize you are for example)>Realize that there is no guranteor of meaning, there is no ultimate God. Surplus enjoyment is ultimately a side effect of trying to guarantee an outcome >Don't give up on your desire but realize that you will never be made whole from it and u will probably not be satisfied from it. How does this apply to therapy? Often it's surplus enjoyment a painful enjoyment where you are trying to guarantee meaning. But there is no guarantee. Where do rituals come from? An attempt to guarantee an outcome. Why do you tweak art over and over again instead of release? Trying to guarantee an outcome. There is no guarantee life is meaningless.
>>34486516So actually it's a story of hope. If u want to b future and fuck hos and sip lean and b a freak. Don't give up on it. But realize that it won't bring you life fulfilment nothing will because desire attatches to the next object once u achieve what u want. Once you get what u want the enjoyment u get from desire collapses u were enjoying desire itself. So traverse that realize that there is no finality and act anyways. That is literally how you escape God.
>>34486525Ok sorry last self reply but know this, this is a story of freedom u can free yourself from ideology and do whatever the fuck you want there is no guranteeor of meaning there is just the ideology we are born into and inherit through language. U can't escape your ideology but u can change your relationship towards it. It doesn't have to govern you and everything you do.
>>34486482>>34486516>>34486525>>34486546OP here. I know you mean well but I'd like to see a professional. Thanks though.
>>34486279>Are my fears unfounded? Yes. >Is videochat therapy legit?Yes.
