Tldr: my father is your typical oblivious boomer. I tried to have a relationship with him over the years but he is simply too dense and we are like water and oil, and I don't want to deal with this anymore. I also feel guilty because it's true that he worked a lot and we could have a nice life because of it... But I've literally never done anything with my father, he is a workaholic. He never taught me anything and basically the father-son relationship was only giving me money like an ATM. The only conversations I have with him is he criticism me for not knowing things or how stupid, useless, lazy I am. Through all my love getting A+ were a given and B and lower was always a scold. I'm at the point where my father criticised me because I didn't take shits at the hours he liked or because I drinked too much water.Like, I'm not crazy right? Shitting on you son because he drinks too much water or doesn't take shits at morning is not normal.Last time I wanted to have a father-son activity and I asked him to fill some papers and he started shitting on me from the sofa because I didn't know how to do it.Like I can understand if some of you call me an ungrateful brat manchild but everyone excuses my father and shit on me and I'm tired. Like I feel drained out right know by writing about this. I developed anxiety from the door in the garage being opened because it always made a sound when he came with his car and I think I got pavloved Tldr: father shits on me for not being his perfect son and innately knowing things and thinks throwing money at everything is what a father-son relationship is, while never being present in my life.
>>34486676Your father probably has autism not even joking. Perfectionistic, can't reciprocate social cues, easily irritated when something doesn't go as expected, hard time understanding the emotional needs of others, blunt as a fucking bludgeon and his honesty just reads as personal attacks. Yet still cares enough to give money or gifts because deep down he loves you a lot. Your dad is a sperg nigga. Sperg dads are always like that. You are not crazy by the way you genuinely suffer because you lack the verbal/social connection with your dad. It's important for a man to provide that to his son. But it's not the most important thing fathers do, the most important thing fathers do is providing and protecting, and he seems to be doing a good job there. You're not wrong for your feelings bro. Just remember your dad does love you. If you actually hated someone you wouldn't give them money, he gives you money because he wants to show you he cares. He just sucks at showing it socially cuz autistic dads be like that. But it does not mean he don't love you. I can bet my left but he may love you a lot more than you know
>>34486702>Your father probably has autism not even joking. Probably because I'm also an autost and I'm a physical copy of him (everyone tells me how I look like him, how I walk like him and I have the same body, how I have the same voice) and we also share personality traits but he despises vidya, not working and everything that isn't working and watching TV 24/7, everything else is a waste of time. Time with family or vacation or doing something in family is time he can be working or watching TV.It's frustrating because I don't want to hate him. But I also hate him, I want a connection with him but I feel like the children and also the parent in the relationship. I try to find a middle ground and then he spergs and starts grading me again and it's so frustrating. I open myself I have a moment of humility and he uses it to give me a stab.I can never complain and say anything because giving someone money automatically makes you immune to how you behave and you are the asshole if you don't lick his feet. I'm also having a bad season, I haven't found a job in 2 years and I want to work and I keep hearing boomer advice and it's frustrating. I'm tired of watching my hometown being filled with browns and stupid boomers saying how no one wants to work while they let hordes of invaders. Half my class are people from outside, meanwhile I can't find a programming job. It's madness.
Stop using his money then
>>34487836I want to but I haven't found a job in years and I can't be then economically independent. And this is one of the problems; giving someone money automatically allows you to treat him in whatever way you please.
>>34486676>only giving me money like an ATMJust consoom the sizeable amount at once, like 250k $ and there is no need to talk
>>34488872>>34487836I'm not using that much money either, I bought a pc when I was working years ago and the only thing I do is eat, internet and going to the gym and applying for jobs and getting rejection emails. What want to focus on is that though all my life they have taught me that giving money to someone automatically makes you immune and you can treat him whatever way you please.So no matter in how many ways my father shits on me, he pays money so he is justified.
>>34488901>i am using>i am not using
>>34486676I don't have advise because I don't know but just wanted to say i am in a similar situation anon. my dad is a boomer who never did anything besides pay the bills and be require my mom to change his diapers while screaming at about the first oil shock. now I am an even more dysfunctional version of him with none of the wiggle room he had by virtue of being born in the early 50s instead of the hellscape that was early 00s. i utterly fucking despise him but can not practically sever ties because of international finance has decided that plebs should not be able to have jobs when an indian can "do it" for half or less the salary while destroying the nations gene pool. i am in my 2nd fucking semester of grad school in STEM and even then i have no fucking hope. I went through all of high school believing the cope that although the now sucks, i just need to power through it and get through 4 years of college (every moment of which was infinitely worse than what was peddled to me (I did not have high expectations or expect a fantasy fun land but thought "surely I would be happier and more motivated" because that's what adults told me since i was so fucking "mature for my age")) and then get a job, move out and be financially independent so there would be no more leverage, but the jews will never allow it.i just wanted to share just to let you know that you aren't alone. you aren't crazy.
>>34488809>giving someone money automatically allows you to treat him in whatever way you pleaseCorrectSo stop using his moneyAnd let it be a lesson for whenever you try to take someone else's money, or when someone else tries to take your money
>>34489603>international finance has decided that plebs should not be able to have jobs when an indian can "do it" for half or less the salary while destroying the nations gene pool.>international financeThat has nothing to do with international finance. That's "international" migration. International finance is an entirely different beast. International finance is when your "nation" has to pay trillions of dollars in interest whilst rich elites from all over the world buy your country's resources so you no longer own anything in your own country (and soon you'll have to pay them rent to use anything). Has nothing to do with random pajeet getting paid peanuts and more to do with extremely rich person/entity of unknown origin (but likely not even your home country but wouldn't even make a difference) buying your whole city.
