What does it mean when a man says to a woman that she is "unconventionally beautiful"?What is the meaning behind the phrase? And why is the "unconventionally" part important? Why not just say "you are beautiful"? It's as if it must be clarified that you are not beautiful or desirable to the majority of the population, which doesn't make you feel special as much as it does them, as if they are doing you the courtesy/kindness to like what others dont like. Do men believe this is a compliment?
>>34487501well lol be honest do you look conventionally beautiful? if you can honestly answer this with yes, why do you care? the most likely thing a man says this is because you look unconventional. could be a bad thing but could also be a good thing, like did he say it in a pitiful way of well you are fucking ugly actually but i will just say you are unconventionally beautifulor maybe to him you just look special not like other girls not like a normie stacie so he called you unconventionally beautiful which would be a compliment to tell you he thinks you look like no other girl which is kinda cool
>>34487501>unconventionally beautifulUnconventionally beautiful refers to individuals who possess unique features or styles that diverge from traditional beauty standards. No need to worry about it.
Also, if a man compliments a woman on appearance, it means he is interested, it takes courage to say it.
>>34487575I don't think I am. But if someone likes you, and wants to express that, why the need to express the unconventional part? Why is it important to highlight? Why is it important to add the fact that I likely would not be attractive to the majority of the population? It seems like a backhanded compliment.
>>34487501Weird looking but still hotLike Anya Taylor Joy and Rami Malek
>>34488085You are ruminating and overcomplicating. I know women have much better developed frontal lobe and much lower testosterone and both of these things kind of force girls to ponder, ruminate and overthink, but the entire fucking thing is astronomically irrelevant and the worst, most stupid thing is to lose sleep over this shit. A lioness doesn't give a fuck what he meant and knows without explaining it to her that words of a dude have no meaning on what or who you are. You don't need his opinion or social points, as whatever comes out of his mouth, good or bad, didn't give them; to us this is obvious and should be to you. And you DEFINITELY don't need 4chan /adv/ for happiness. Most people here lie in their responses.If you like the guy, chase him, if you don't, ignore and move on. Don't intellectualise this.
>>34488147She ain't gonna fuck you bruh
>>34488085>>34487501Women are so fucking stupid it's unbelievableI don't even know where to begin with your mindset but there are precisely two scenarios here.1: He wanted to call you beautiful, but didn't want to sound generic, so he tried to make it more unique or unusual with the addition of "unconventional"Perhaps he's trying to make you sound more special or exotic or "different from other girls" like you're the only one who appealed to him in this out of the ordinary way 2: he wants to get in your head with a backhanded compliment and have you thinking about him for hours or days after the interaction. I don't think most men think this way but some PUA retards still operate like that because any mental mindshare is a win.
>>34488670What does self esteem have to do with stupidity? Are all men 100% sure of themselves? I never got this kind of attention from men so it just seemed like a weird way to phrase it or emphasize it. Am I reading too much into it? Maybe. Could he have said it simpler with a clearer intention? Definitely.I never heard of this phrase used as a compliment. Most women want their man to think they are generally beautiful, not just to a select few who like specific things.
>>34487501>Do men believe this is a compliment?He thinks you're intelligent enough to realise that you are not conventionally beautiful, but wants to reassure you that you are, nonetheless, very attractive despite this. Most women who aren't conventionally attractive think this means they're ugly; and they're usually wrong. If you don't feel like that, that's great; but he will have met enough women who do for that to be a reasonable assumption.
>>34488700But it is better to be liked by a majority than a minority. "Yeah not many men would find you beautiful". I get why men dont get sex if they all say things like this.
>>34487501It means she's ugly but he would still smash which is what most men would do if they're hornyConventionally doesn't mean anything.
>>34488707He's not saying anything she doesn't already know.
>>34488692this is coming from what some faggot who is essentially a eunuch but a hopeless romantic:like the other anon said, there's two paths, either he does find you beautiful but is retarded, or he is negging you under the mindset of "treat em mean to keep em keen."It is up to you to tell if he is negging you since I don't know this guy. It is also up to you, if you believe he is negging you, to choose whether you want to be with someone who knowingly backhands you. I don't know who you are so I'm not going to advice on this.If he does truly find you beautiful but is just retarded, here's what i would say to do if you want him as your boyfriend/husband: when you are next speaking and the conversation permits it, steer the discussion to what he thinks of your appearance. If he is someone who wants you too, this may scare him, but tough shit a true partner would prefer his other half to speak plainly rather than turn into a pressure cooker of uncertainty.Get a straight answer as to whether he finds you beautiful or not. The other people in the thread saying you're retarded for being worried aren't being very genuine, imo. As a man, if someone I was interested in said something equivalent (perhaps "For a manlet, you're pretty good looking" rather than "You are short and handsome" or just "you are handsome"), that would irk me. As a dude, i would also feel compelled to take it with a stiff upper lip and not say complain, maybe have some pithy retort, but I would keep it in mind that this woman might be stringing me along as a jester and act accordingly. As a woman, you have the leeway to be explicit in wanting reassurance, so use it. Both men and women should be allowed to exit a relationship if they learn their partner doesn't actually find them attractive.
>>34488692I'll also say this about how I, a faggot who will die alone, would personally use the term unconventionally attractive. In my brain I view a woman as unconventional if she could not be a commercially sound candidate for an instagram model role or the equivalent. If normies would universally fawn over her, she is conventional, if not shes unconventional. An example would be Alyssa Liu. I have seen enough people say she looks fat that I suppose she is unconventionally attractive. More generic examples could be the librarian, bookish girl look/aesthetic.That said, I don't view conventional vs unconventional as better or worse (i can find an unconventional more attractive than a conventional, see Alyssa Liu). The difference is purely based on what I assume the market would think, rather than what I personally think, and if choosing who'd I want as a partner, I wouldn't give a shit what the market thinks. This isn't a universal way of seeing it. As some other anon said, they interpritted unconventional to mean too ugly to want as a girlfriend but not enough to not fuck once before discarding, so take it as you will.With all that said, I would never say this to a girl. you are right it, at best, sounds like a backhanded compliment, so if this guy does actually want you, he is very retarded. If some hypothetical girlfriend was really pressuring me, I would tell her she would have a hard time being a fashion model since she she doesn't have the body type of a coat hanger or look dead behind the eyes, but reassure her that she's the only woman I want.
>>34487604>No need to worry about it.>saying this to a woman
>>34488085i can understand it i guess, maybe its a difficult situation, im the one who you replied this to btw.i think it depends a lot on the male that you are dating (you are dating him i assume). it depends on his tone a lot too, like did he say it really fake or was it genuine? it is sometimes difficult to say, but we anons here havnt even seen your interaction so we cant possibly know better than youits harsh if you are kind mid or ugly i guess, but thats just the world, i think many men are incels and well they have to settle for something, i cant relate, like i wouldnt compliment a girl with being beautiful at all if i didnt actually mean it. but i do think there are predator men out there whod possibly lie and say anything to get into the pants of a woman, and i guess there are also desperate incels whod also feel like they need to lie ... idk
