I feel like a core issue in my life, given most everything about it is fine but there's a general unsatisfied malaise, is likely tied to a social malnutrition. I'm sociable as confirmed by my coworkers, people aren't repulsed by me or scared of interacting. The issue is I can't fucking find anybody outside of work.Most all of us have schedules off by as wide a variance as 2 hours and due to only meeting on-site at most once per month while being otherwise upwards of 20 miles apart (Small state so no one likes driving for more than half an hour here) means there's very little room for interaction between us off-hours, so no can do for them.The only social events are either packed with maligned geriatrics or are dens of people you wouldn't want to socialize with (High propensity for violent crime, never sober or a pleasant drunk, etc). One time I got invited to a coworker's social event of this belly dancing thing he organizes and it was mostly old women and fat old gay guys. Good breakfast but everyone was intolerable besides the coworker.Beaches and parks are usually either dead empty, swarmed by the aforementioned maligned geriatrics, or swarmed by people who don't speak English and are just there to hang out with their families.Churches tend to be a fail point because most churches nowadays are insular for one reason or another, and see any new person coming in tend to struggle to find an "anchor person" to then attach to.Online circles have similarly developed an insular phenomenon. I'm not a fan of competitive online games since they're usually full of crazy people. And social ones are full of a different brand of crazy people.Where the fuck is anyone who isn't crazy, malicious, or stocked up on people already? Did I miss a queue or something? I'm in the dead center of Rhode Island if any anons in the Southern New England have any good ideas or suggestions. I'm more open minded than I sound, I swear. Just once-bitten, twice-shy is all.
Instagram is the way to go. I don't use it, but it's the way to go.
>>34487923Have a hobby. Have interests. Have a personality. Go to things you don't like. Talk to people you don't want to fuck. That's how you get community.
>>34487923Have you looked up Group hobbies?Also I would guess a lot of the newer generation just stares at their screen all day after work, so the dopamine high from that can’t compete with going out
>>34488037Going out also costs money that young people don't have or can't afford to spend
>>34487990I've got Instagram, Twitter, Tiktok, Facebook, fucking NextDoor, it's literally just nothing. The social events are attended to by old people and their grandchildren, because the parents are either working or recovering from a 60 hour work week.>>34488019I have literally just described all of those things above. Platitudes get nowhere.>>34488037>>34488053This is the biggest issue I've found. Group hobbies cost money, which results in three issues:>The people who would afford it are usually stuck trying to afford to live>The ones who don't need to are usually people who don't bother with group hobbies at all>The middleground of those paying to do it are the kind of people who need to pay for social interaction and aren't worthwhile either
