>Going on my honeymoon and getting married in a week>Both our families suck, so we're just having a non-traditional wedding with just the two of us while on our honeymoon. Gonna record it and all>My family sucks. Ever since my mom died when I was young, my immediate family orbits around my abusive narcissistic dad>Family on my mom's side are pretty decent, but since I'm an adult man no one really checks on me unless I reach out firstUsually for weddings, it's not uncommon for couples to ask for money or gifts. Is it worth it to ask my family for money? Or should I just keep my pride and save the embarrassment?
those few bucks you might receive will not help you. instead, you should be on good terms with your father or in-laws because once you have kids you will realize it is simply not possible to work and raise them at the same time. by the time you have 2 (unless they go to middle school already), each one of them will be a full time job
>>34488834So your father lost his wife, and in his grieving he broke down mentally and the family surrounded him with support, and you didn't like the fact he needed the attention so you call him a narcissistic father. Even though he spent his life trying to raise you and worked to bring money in to keep you warm, fed, alive. He is the narcissist apparently.And so you decided to take away the opportunity to watch his own child who he labored for have their wedding, you deny him the privilege, to at least represent your mother in her behalf since she passed at the wedding of the child they raised together.And despite all of that, you only give a shit to contemplate using him for money and gifts. You just want his money and that's it. How do you sleep at night?
>>34488840Oh boy lol. This place is more delusional than I remember. I'm leaving out a lot of details, but he's not the victim here. The fact that you made up this headcannon out of thin air is wild.
>>34488846It's not about victimhood it's about common decency. You're a bad person and I just wanted you to know that since no one has bothered explaining it to you. When you marry your beloved next week and you feel the warmth and sense of belonging and connection to her, remember your father had that too with your mother. And he had to watch her die. And he tried to function as best he could to keep your ass fed and sheltered even if you were ungrateful he did it anyway thanklessly. And your way to show gratitude is to talk shit behind his back online, cut him out of the milestone of your life, and then the only time you consider him in your mind is to think of his wallet.Fuck off. If you want to be a lone operator and keep your pride, then don't bother trying to mooch off of him. Have your wedding and don't bother asking for money
>>34488856Meds.
The line is not crossed. I trust.
>>34488834It's a dick move to ask people for a gift if you aren't inviting them to the wedding.
>>34489067Wedding is in another country.
>>34489099So what? My wedding was in another country and my family still showed up. Plane tickets aren't hard to obtain
>>34489101Privileged hands typed this.
>>34489108>Privileged hands types thisI grew up poor as fuck as did my family. There is such a thing called "saving"
>>34489099>Wedding is in another country.It's still a dick move to expect a gift from someone who isn't coming.
>>34488834>Is it worth it to ask my family for money?I don't think so. If you do not keep in contact with them and don't invite them to the wedding, why'd you ask them for anything?
>>34488834You can't have it both ways anon If you're doing your own thing and don't want to involve your families fine, it's your day and your choice but if I was asked for a gift for a wedding I wasn't invited to my reply would be 'lol go suck a dick'
