How do I unlearn the feedback ive received from the world so I can truly be myself? I think about things other people have said to me a lot. I wish I could forget all of it because I feel like it’s always in the back of my mind and has a huge effect on me. I don’t know how to shake itBullying ive received in school and online (lol), female attention (positive and negative), compliments, insults, stuff my parents have said to me. Compliments have been just as damaging insults in a way because they’ve made me act like someone im not, if that makes sense (e.g a girl saying she likes my long hair when I didn’t intend to have long hair and just needed a hair cut, now I want to have long hair)Yes I know that im pathetic and spineless, idk how to fix it
>>34489259Just change your beliefs. Make truth the only standard that you follow, and disregard everything else. It's not a question of "how" as much as it's a matter of just doing it instead of waiting around for something to change on its own. But if you need guidance, you should study ancient philosophy like Seneca or Epictetus and spend time every day meditating on what you've read.
there is no true self
1/2>>34489259First of all, short hair is slave mentality. Alright? There is nothing inherently wrong with long hair, in fact, it is often preferable. Look at the legendary heroes, rebels, conquerors, and men who stood above the crowd by refusing to bend to ordinary expectations. Think of figures like Achilles, Samson, or even the old barbarian kings and wandering philosophers. They were not shaped by fear of judgment or by desperate conformity. They carried themselves according to their own nature. This is not merely style, it is physiognomy, presence, will.As for being trapped in a negative feedback loop, that is simply the human condition. Schopenhauer himself understood that life is driven by the blind striving of the Will, an endless cycle of desire, suffering, temporary satisfaction, and renewed desire. In one form or another, everyone is chained to a feedback loop, whether good or bad, unless they somehow transcend it entirely.Since true transcendence is extraordinarily difficult, the more practical path is to shift from a destructive cycle into a constructive one. If life has conditioned you through rejection, humiliation, failure, or invisibility, then your task is to disrupt that pattern by forcing new experiences upon yourself. Achieve what once seemed unimaginable. Build your body. Master a craft. Gain status. Create discipline. Learn to speak with confidence. Put yourself in situations that challenge your self perception. Socialize. Compete. Create. Conquer smaller goals first, then larger ones. Every victory, no matter how small, begins feeding the mind new evidence. The man who once believed himself worthless starts seeing proof of capability. This is how a positive loop begins, action, result, belief, greater action.
2/2>>34489348A weak man hides, so he remains weak. A man who acts despite fear begins to gather proof that he can shape reality. This is why heroes matter, not because they were born different, but because they imposed themselves upon existence.But even then, understand this clearly, all worldly victories are still temporary. Beauty fades. Strength decays. Wealth vanishes. Admiration is fleeting. Even the greatest empire becomes dust. I have to remind you that worldly striving alone cannot grant lasting peace, because desire itself is endless. In the end, no haircut, no woman, no status, no conquest can truly save you.Only salvation, genuine spiritual transcendence, offers an escape from all cycles, that is the only true victory over the endless machinery of suffering. Everything else is merely better decorated chains.
>>34489281>>34489311>>34489348>>34489350thanks bros
>>34489259Basically, you have identified your inner shame. You can now study it more and respond to it. Just fuck with the world and see what happens, assert yourself, don't be afraid of conflict, etc. These are patterns unique to you that you need to figure out and start working on. Therapy will also help with this.
I have tried every method you will find and even made some of my own methods which also failed. I think the only avenue where you might find success is with LSD or psilocybin
>>34493090You just didn't try hard enough. If one person can do it, anyone can do it. Drugs won't work, because they can't solve a problem that's being caused by your own opinions about things.
>>34493181>Drugs won't work, because they can't solve a problem that's being caused by your own opinions about things.they absolutely can, because they can give you a perspective shift enough to be able to totally discard a useless opinion you had in one trip
There is no "true self" of yours, or of anyone else but only projections.I guess I kind of know the feeling from what you describe: You become what others see and recognize in you, just as a normal way to adapt to and and make sense of the situations you find yourself in. That is normal. Without anyone else projecting into you what they perceive in you, who are you really?Sure, you have your "own" inner thought loops and habitual patterns of how you perceive yourself that you accumulated over time. And from what you describe here those are not satisfying you very much at the moment, so you seek to abandon huge portions of them, by attributing them to various external influences. Those attributions may or may not be very accurate and precise in parts, or pretty vague in others. That is also completely normal, this kind of self-reflection on the origins. And it is a good thing, a very good thing, to do that once in a while, and perhaps best to do it regularly. The conclusion you will always come to is that none of all this is actually you. You are undefined. And that insight, whenever you find it again, is truly liberating. Perhaps most people come never close to really seeing that. They remain stuck in certain patterns they have adapted to that most helped them survive and feel most comfortable overall throughout their life. We are all trapped like that. Most will play their various roles, or whatever longest remains somewhat functional of them until they die, and cling to them anxiously, even as their general cognition and awareness dims and deteriorates, which is by its nature a quite painful process for everyone. The process of death, of losing your identity and anything you used to see as yours, as reliable and in control. We all have to go through that as well in the end, be it short and swift or long and drawn out. It is frightening for everyone to really seriously put one's mind to that, pay attention to that process, the inevitability of it.
>>34494493Those reflections that you described here are actually quite similar to that, come pretty close to that. So stick to them. They are generally painful, dissatisfying, uncomfortable, but going through them brings you freedom.Many people go through such processes many times throughout their lives long before they actually die, usually because they feel somehow "forced to". It is not something anyone would easily subject themselves to voluntarily. But subjecting yourself voluntarily to this kind of awareness can bring about such profound peace of mind through understanding that cannot be tied to an identity anymore that nothing else can be compared to it in just how good it is.But that is also not your self. It is just something that anyone with sufficient mental capacity can realize and experience for themselves. But most don't. And even if you did truly grasp it, for a moment which can feel like eternity, you will likely forget it again, covered and overgrown by new perceptions and imaginations that come up as life goes on. You will forget it and continue to be busy with your life, experiencing some happiness and mostly suffering, as everyone else does. But that profound peace and sense of liberation that you experienced for just a moment is something that you will not forget, even if you don't know how to get back to it at any given moment yet. You will continue to experience the ups and downs of life as everyone does. But having seen this once, you will inevitably find to it again.The Buddha taught how to get there in very much systematic detail, over and over. It starts with gratitude, among many other things, not assigning blame outside and taking on full responsibility for all your experience.
