the details arent probably important, but i have had a difficult life in the dramatic traumatic moments way and also just the generally growing up poor and isolated way. i didnt have opportunities to make friends or fall in love organically, i was always the new kid in school. sex has become a thing i really love to think about, but it's the same thing as dreaming about flying or having magic powers, it feels very fictional. the idea of being intimate with another real human being, in my body, where we see each other, talk to each other, live in real life together, it just makes me feel completely numb and a little sick. i dont lust after anybody real. i can enjoy flirting sometimes, but its all social. the idea of actual physical closeness completely shuts me down. can you even recover from being so mind fucked that sex feels fictional or impossible. how would a normal person even react if i tried to start a relationship and revealed this level of issue, "yeah sorry sex is impossible to my mind and i have no clue if that will ever change or how to even try to change that, do you still love me" obviously not. do i just be alone forever?
>>34489414I want to understand her and be there for her to grow as a person and heal from past traumas. We would take things slow in person as I countour our love to complete her,. Safe and loved. She has a reason to smile. Over time naturally we will match each others touch-M
>>34489414I'm sorry that you went through the things that you did, OP. Although I can't know what happened for sure, I've spoken with people which I believe were in similar situations before.Trauma, specially during childhood, can leave terrible marks on us. It can take a long time to heal from it all, and, although we may not completely erase the memories sometimes, we can heal enough so that we move on, and live beyond all those painful moments from the past.In your case, I believe that, if you find the right person, one that makes you feel safe, comfortable, happy, things will progress naturally.But take your time. Tell them about your situation. Open your heart if you trust them, let them know it isn't an easy step for you. If they love you, they'll want your best. There is no need to rush things for them or for anyone. Only do things if you feel like you are ready for it, but try not to lock yourself too much, at the same time.
>>34489431>-MMore like Mentally retarded>>34489414Once you spend more time with someone you like, it will come naturally.
>>34489414Rape victim alert
>>34489560omg is that you sherlock holmes? i loved your gay british tv show >>34489454do you actually think any normal person would invest in someone who might never actually be able to fulfill the relationship physically
>>34489568True love yeah. Of do anything that she needs and she does the same for me. We always work it out because we want what is best with each other.
>>34489414honestly, i get this completely. i used to think i was asexual, despite that i have had relationships before. i do think you might be intimidated by something you havent done before, and i think thats super normal. it can be paralyzing, doing and thinking things that can possibly happen. additionally, i think there is no "normal", lol. we're all weird and have our own stories and traumas, of which influence us to some degree(s).
>>34489414Either you got molested as a kid or you just have basic autism. Autists, especially female autists, are repulsed by the idea of sex. Because it means being touched at random and being touched sporadically and spontaneously and autists are overwhelmed by touch especially when they can't telegraph it or expect it or predict it or control it, it makes them feel anxious as fuck.
>>34489568I do. When you find someone that actually cares about you, they will wish your well-being with all their heart. You just need to find the right person to trust, and be patient with yourself. Like I said, things sometimes take a while to fully heal.
>>34489568>do you actually think any normal person would invest in someone who might never actually be able to fulfill the relationship physicallyThe strangers-to-dating pipeline: No.The friendship-to-dating pipeline: Yes.If you don't have any suitable friends right now, then also the strangers-to-friendship-to-dating pipeline.If someone is already emotionally invested in you then they are more likely to play the long game of being patient and and respecting your physical boundaries while you wait to see if the sleeping parts of your brain's drive for physical intimacy can be reawakened.Potential Dangers:If the process takes too long then then resentment might build on either side, e.g.>they might start to think you're just taking advantage of their patience and stringing them along>you might start to think they're being too pushy and demanding from you more than you can giveand the end result might be a lost friendship if it doesn't work out.
>>34489414yesbeing naturally asexual is axiomatically impossibleyou can reverse every single mental health condition that existsfor obvious reasons, some are more difficult than othersbut none of them are impossible
>>34490942>being naturally asexual is axiomatically impossibleProve it.I'm really bored of you fools deciding that you know the entire human experience based on the 1 (one) life you've lived.
>>34489414It probably is fixable, but I've never fixed it. Getting gray now and still no sex. "Fictional" is a great way to describe how I feel about sex. It's like a mythical concept that just doesn't happen in real life.At this point in my life, I don't even want sex. I've gotten so good at self-pleasure, nobody else is gonna be able to live up.>do i just be alone forever?No. Get a partner. A friend you live with. Not to have sex with, just to be not-alone with. It will make your asexual life worth living. And who knows? Maybe you'll do what I never managed to and discover that sex actually is a real thing you can do.
