Lately I’ve been stuck in this loop where I overanalyze everything I do socially. Every conversation, every reaction—I replay it and try to figure out what it “means” about me. It’s like I’m constantly watching myself from the outside and judging where I stand, like there’s some invisible social ranking and I’m near the bottom.The weird part is I know this level of introspection isn’t actually helping. It just makes me more self-conscious and less natural around people. Feels like I can’t just *be* in a moment without dissecting it right after.Anyone else deal with this? How do you stop your brain from turning every interaction into a self-evaluation?
>>34489857>Feel like I’m always at the bottom sociallyUnironically what helped me most with this was LOOKSMAXXING. Get /fit/, dress more smart in clothes that fit you well, use moisturiser and get a proper haircut, and watch as both your social anxiety disappears, and people's negative perceptions of your quirks become positive perceptions.
>>34489857If they seem asexual around you its because you're seen as unattractive. They become whores in the presence of the right guy, I've seen it myself. Used to work as a bartender for a while, the behavior I've seen was enough to blackpill me for life. Even the shy, mousy ones become whores that grope and grind. Those same girls act like royalty in the presence of their beta male friends and they even get offended and disgusted if anything related to sex comes out of the mouth of a man they don't find attractive. If a girl is ever acting appalled at the mention of women even so much as having a libido, its because the man that's even so much as going into that topic without being attractive, is deemed as a creep instantly. They will try to shame you into going back where you belong in their imagined hierarchy. They don't want ugly men seeing them as the whores that they know they are, especially in friend groups. If the ugly ones found out the girls were giving ass to their attractive male friends, that could potentially open them up to approaches from those same betabuxx friendzoned guys and they couldn't explain away the dynamic without social incrimination.
>>34489871This is Good Advice in any scenario >>34489857Somehow you have to remember that most social situations aren't about dominance and social hierarchy and that the ones that are should be avoided when possible. Those guys that are always trying to assert dominance aren't fun to be around. Find some groups and friends where everyone is chill existing on an equal basis and everyone is having a good time and supporting each other
>>34489857>Anyone else deal with this?Yes.>How do you stop your brain from turning every interaction into a self-evaluation?By not interacting with anyone anymore.
I feel the same and I think it's my own social anxiety projecting itself. I WANT someone to judge me so I can play the victim because that's the only way I knew how to survive.
>>34489972Yeah, a lot of the time it feels like people in my friend circle are subtly trying to assert dominance or compete, and it just makes everything more tense than it needs to be. I don’t really enjoy that dynamic—friendships, to me, should feel supportive and equal, not like some kind of constant competition or ranking.
