>>34489938
It's not very fucked at all, don't end it over that bro. Also, have you gone on a date with this girl? You like her, right?

Have you had sex?

>>34489967
With her, to be clear

>>34489961
Yea we've gone on dates 3 exact
>>34489967
no we haven't had sex yet

I feel better now actually I don't know what came over me that I got sad. but I'm good now

>>34489984
Retarded faggot

>>34489938
I don't even know how to be exciting for a woman. I'm just a chill guy

>>34489984
Next time as a general rule 3rd date is max to fuck. If you don't have sex then don't continue. Ideally you should bang by 2nd but 3rd is literally mandatory.

>>34490035
One million percent
Make a move or fuck off
Women don't even want to chat

>>34490040
Texting only for logistics and small rapport, nothing dries pussy faster than long texts with no action, kek

>>34490035
This is way too fast, how did we get to this?

>>34490359
that's exactly what both parties want

>>34490359
That anon giving you the third date rule is retarded. You go at whatever pace both of you are comfortable with

>>34490449
Gay

>>34490359
>>34490449
That's the reality of modern dating via apps, we both know what we signed up for.
1st date try to escalate simple kiss and vibe, if you're not good for dating don't expect sex that first night/date.
2nd date if 1st was already good you should know if it's up. Usually i already close the deal by having drinks at my place then directly (sex implied via dinner + drinks) at 3rd is last resort already. If nothing happened beforehand and nothing on a third date, I'm not going for a 4th. You cut your losses then. It's works like that

>>34490474
That's the reality since forever. In fact people didn't even date for the last few hundred years. Their marriage was set up for them and they both knew they would have to have sex.

>>34490474
Needless to say, you already plant the sexual seed from the very first date (if you don't yourself sexual you end being friendzoned, which means ghosted nowadays). And that's how you connect naturally to your place for a 2nd date (I'm a great cook/make great drinks let me make you some bs on Friday/sat at mine)

>>34490483
>In fact people didn't even date for the last few hundred years.
It was called courtship then and didn't involve having sex the third time you met someone

>>34492049
As I said they were set up by family. And they didn't have to have sex quickly because it was already assured that they would have sex. Its not like today.

>>34489938
A friend of mine is about to get married for the second time at the age of 60, and is happier and more in love than she's ever been. It's never too late.

>>34492230
No she's not

>>34489938
>months of talking?
>>34489984
>we've gone on dates 3 exact
Months of talking and you've only been on 3 dates? I'm not surprised she lost interest. The people claiming you must have sex by date 3 are idiots (and anyone who describes having sex as "closing the deal" is someone whose opinion you can instantly discard - he's read too much PUA propaganda). But relationships happen when you spend time together irl. If it's possible to go on dates and you spend months texting instead then of course she's going to lose interest.

No, don't kill yourself because of a woman you've been on 3 dates with. Find someone else, and don't make the same mistakes next time round.

>>34492239
>No she's not
And you know this how, exactly?

>>34492250
Because that is fucking retarded. NPC cattle always try to gaslight people with made up anecdotes. 60 is way too fucking late to start a relationship.

>>34489938
>How fucked is it to end your shit because a girl didn't find you exciting after months of talking?
Over text?

>>34492246
If the girl is even attractive you'll be competing against more dudes you can even imagine. You need to strike while it's hot, else all attraction fades. How can you say with a straight face that for a 3rd date with previous sexual escalation you shouldn't have sex then? Are you a woman?
I'm speaking from experience, this is how it works. Be shy and polite with no physical touch and you'll get the results as OP. He needs to take action and move forward, simple as that

>>34492216
That's dysgenic. My grandma tried to set my dad up with some ugly local bitch. He refused to. And this happened in a european country.

>>34492269
I'm not here to debate the consequences. I'm explaining that couples always want to have sex immediately. Don't wait to make a move for months.

>>34492254
I was talking to her literally yesterday morning - catching up after not seeing her face to face for years. She was obviously very happy. Loves the guy, gets on very well with his (grown-up) children. They're both comfortably off (she retired last year) and they're doing tourist stuff together with a couple of friends and having a great time. They've been a couple for a year or two, I think, but are thinking about getting married now. She's been married once before, and has had two other long-term boyfriends that I know about; but this is the happiest I've ever seen her in the whole time I've known her (which is a little over 30 years - yeah, I'm an oldfag). Don't be so cynical.

>>34492265
>How can you say with a straight face that for a 3rd date with previous sexual escalation you shouldn't have sex then? Are you a woman?
No, I'm a guy. And I generally used to have sex on date 2 myself. But that's because I and they were comfortable with that. It's stupid to make rigid rules about it.

>>34492286
It's a general guideline for people to escalate, but both parties should already yearn for sex at the very late for a 3rd date.
Simple, a 4th date would already make 3-5 weeks calendar time so it's already over. And she got fucked by someone else while you were writing love letters to her and holding your dick

>>34492300
Dude, calm the fuck down. I already said, in the days when I was dating, I most often had sex on the second date. The point is that it's stupid to be rigid about it: different people need things to move at different speeds. With my current gf, for example, we spent about 10 days chatting online before we met face to face at all; and we didn't have full sex until date 5. There was a steady escalation prior to that, of course. But in her case, that was the right timetable; we've been together two and a half years now, and we're very much in love. If I'd pushed for sex on date 2, I would probably have scared her off.

You're right to say that there needs to be a sense of a steady, continuous escalation in the early stages; but you're wrong to say that it must be to a fixed timetable that takes no account of who a person is or what they're comfortable with.

>>34490035
this is retarded

>>34492230
>>34492283
NTA. Its bs when people say that. Ok sure maybe her finding love a second time at 60 makes her happy. But she definitely did NOT live 3/4's of her life single and sexless. No doubt she was still having dates and having sex between her first and second marriage.

its bs when people say "oh you can find love at any age". That is not true in all situations. If you're a 50 year old virgin man. It is over.

>>34489938
>end your shit because a girl didn't find you exciting
End your shit like killing yourself?

>>34492254
People start relationships at any age, what a crazy ass retarded way of thinking.

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>>34489938
No woman will ever love you anon, 90% of women out there do not love their man, they don't know how to love anyway; they only tolerate him as long as he provides.
Learn to be stoic and get by without their fake and subpar love therefore about 90% of women should be invisible to you. Rise up above your biological programming.
Take care of your health anons and find distractions to help pass the time, that's all most people do anyway, the difference is they do it with somebody so time spent together flows differently. It's merely an illusion though

There are seniors in their 80s and 90s that are still making out. I think its never too late until you are literally dead and who knows what happens then.

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>>34489938
My lust died the second I wrote the average feminine nature on paper and stratified it according to its moral nature. I am now convinced that the only thing you are supposed to do as a soul, as a man is to wrestle your own flesh into submission, find God and develop a prosperous and altruistic relationship with our creator in order to escape this prison. 99% of women are half humans with no souls, everything they strive for and enjoy is ultimately evil in its nature. The very core of femininity is absolute evil that seeks to devour good men with the same glee and joy you'd get from stomping out some dorky kids sand castle.

Once I realized why women are the way they are, it's like I've finally been enlightened as to why hermit monks become hermits in the first place. It's all a lie, its all a joke. This planet is a prison, women are archons who genuinely don't give a fuck about anything but they have to pretend to have interests beyond themselves just so men don't become suspicious and notice the huge disparity in the nature of each gender. It's not a complimentary nature, it's completely one-sided and parasitic. The entire role of women is to entrap a mans life force and pull another soul onto this false reality incarnation trap. That's all they were designed to do. Satan takes a hold of their hivemind vessels with comedic ease and no resistance. They are all beyond corrupt, they fall apart once a month and endure pain unless they fulfill their ill-natured task. There is nothing in this world worth striving for besides Gods love. There is absolutely NOTHING in this world that is worth your place in heaven.