how do i develop a personality or interests? how do i stop being akward and stupid? im so shallow and boring that i fucking hate myself. pic unrelated
>>34490149Everyone has a personality. What people mean by "personality" isn't accurate. Most people are stupid OP, so that means most people say shit that they don't understand themselves. When people describe personality they think they're talking about identity or something deep. It's not that.What they mean is words, that's all. People who have "personality" are just people who speak a lot of words. Words that sound enthusiastic or vivid or compelling, they use verbal nuance or make use of phrases or idioms or they even use different tones of voice to give their sentences a certain flare so they sound unique. That's "personality" it's just a style of speaking words and people hear the words and the way you say it and they form a mental picture of your "personality". Tl;Dr if you want a personality speak more complex sentences.
>>34490149>>34490169Here is an example of what I mean OP. I took your post and told AI to give it "personality">Anons, how the hell do I flip the switch and build a full-blown, electric personality packed with wild interests that actually light me up? How do I stop stumbling around like a charming disaster and upgrade from 'awkward potato' to someone who walks into a room and owns it? Right now I feel about as deep as a puddle and as thrilling as plain oatmeal, and honestly, I'm so done with it. That is what I mean. This text has the exact same message you wrote but just extra words to add personality.
>>34490169i dont even have stuff to talk about. i feel like most conversations are phony and just fill the silence.i am kinda good at exposing bullshit, but i dont think that will make me develop character or be someone worth speaking withthe thing is. what the fuck is even worth speaking about? spending time in?
>>34490149Look for things that you like, get good at them find people you vibe with, expose your viewpoints.
>>34490207i mean what the fuck do i want to be good at playing guitar or drawing or whatever? just to brag about it? for the love of art? feels like a waste of time.most people just want something from you. entertainment, attention, love, whatever. and its not like i have any viewpoints. ive become kinda nihilistic lately. i feel dead.
>>34490230>feels like a waste of timethat's why I said something you like, if you like it, it will not be a waste of time and getting better at it will be fun.>most people just want something from you. entertainment, attention, love, whatever.yes, and we want things from these people too, relationships are a two-way street.>and its not like i have any viewpoints. ive become kinda nihilistic lately. i feel dead.maybe you're depressed?
>>34490190You're coming across bold and blunt and honest, which personally I think is a good quality. You're already talking about something worth talking about right now, how small talk is phony and it's just used as social noise to kill silence. That's because that's true, that's exactly why people talk like that.>the thing is. what the fuck is even worth speaking about? spending time in?Depends on what we wanna define as "worth". Most people consider the worth to be the sense of connection with other people as making the talking part worth it.
Sounds like a sacral chakra blockage
>>34490230>i mean what the fuck do i want to be good at playing guitar or drawing or whatever? You may be playing things that matter to you, you may be drawing things that matter to you. This may help you form a connection with other people who want to share what matters to you with what matters to them.
>>34490251there is no fun in playing guitar. i used to love it for examplei dont want anything from anyone but perhaps help rn. therapy is not doing shityeah, im really depressedi want to fake it till i make it, develop a cohesive set of interests, a fake way of being in hope that i will eventually not be so emptyrn pleasure cant guide me, so i need to artificially craft it. thats what i need help with
>>34490252yeah i guess maybe i should try to touch grass and stop avoiding people. the thing is they can tell there is someting wrong with me deep down somehowi need a fucking brain reset or an artificial behaviour
>>34490255thats hippie bs
>>34490301>yeah i guess maybe i should try to touch grass and stop avoiding people. the thing is they can tell there is someting wrong with me deep down somehowWell if you happen to be an autist or someone on the psychopathy spectrum, yeah the average normies is going to pick up on something. But it won't be something wrong with you, it'll just be the fact that they can't get to run the scripted social patterns of small talk and whatever smoothly with you. Maybe it's because you give short replies or one word answers to their open-ended conversation pieces and they assume you don't wanna keep talking and they assume you're bored or annoyed with them?
>>34490322thanks but i dont think i am a psycho nor an autist. im depressive and anxious. i try to have normal conversations but everything comes out weird (probably because i am stupid, i dont know shit, i feel tired while talking and i am stressed out af)
>>34490302i am already resigned about this. no need to clarify.
>>34490348>i try to have normal conversations but everything comes out weird (probably because i am stupid, i dont know shit, i feel tired while talking and i am stressed out af)You should consider autism more thoroughly then. Autism is a disorder that effects the sensory nerves in the body that connect to the brain. It means stimulation from the outside world will make your mind and body feel exhausted, like sounds or lights or textures. It's subtle so you won't notice it sharply but throughout the day you will notice things like small convos make you wanna collapse and sleep from tiredness.Autism also affects the development of speech centers of the brain, which means interpreting what people are saying to you mentally is exhausting because it will take you longer to piece together their intentions and their meanings, and it will mean you may say something in reply that comes off as accidentally weird or inappropriate or too blunt and people with autism often get misinterpreted very often, making people upset or angry or confused without intending it.
>>34490369thank you. yeah ive been pretty sure i had autism before, but my psychiatrist confirmed i dont. but he also missdiagnosed me with bpd and corrected himself after a few monts, so perhaps i should ask another professional maybe.
>>34490386Yes ask another professional. Not sure if you mentioned your gender but if you happen to be a femanon, double check and triple check any "BPD" diagnoses because it's common for female autists to be misdiagnosed as BPD to the point it's a fucking meme.
