Should I give up on trying to build a life in this region?>Be me, 18 year old white male>Moved to the "Hudson Valley" almost a year ago, to PoughKeepsie NY>Has done absolutely nothing and made no social ties since coming here>Skipped through like 7 different local jobs (most of the low end easy jobs nearby) either getting fired or quitting and now after being fired again only jobs available are 40 miles away.>Boring as fuck, only "cities" have like 30k population and 2 of them are run down and the worst in the state>Thought i made a local friend but whenever I text him he takes hours to respond and never makes himself look open to hanging out>Area is surprisingly, heavily black/brown. The only white people are tattooed millennials in hipster towns they gentrified from the black and browns after COVID>Expensive with no benefit given it's mostly boring suburbs and rural areas>Shitty weather, still 45 degrees and rainy into MayShould I continue trying to invest into this area or just give up? I won't be able to move for another 4 months so if I give up I'll have been a friendless incel for at least 4 more months. I don't know if I should try to do anything here in the meantime. Been a very boring and lonely 2026
>>34491496Why did you move there?
>>34491520I moved from CT and wanted to be able to run home to my family if living on my own failed. I live like 2 hour drive from home and never actually went back so the only reason I chose this shithole was for nothing.
>>34491540Yeah, that sounds like a bad decision. At least choose a decently sized city where you can have hobbies and make friends. Otherwise you might as well stay with them and save money.
>>34491496>18You should either be in college or hustling towards some kind of career.If you're not in college, there's barely a reason not to just live at home from 18 - 20. Being out on your own, but not in college, and not even able to go to a bar, sounds like just burning money on an apartment you don't need.You should definitely not be sitting around wasting your money in some middle of nowhere small town.A small college town is one thing, but also pointless if you don't also go to college, because the college kids there, male or female, won't see you as their peer.Regardless, under 26, if you're not living at home, working and saving money, you should be aiming for starter cities. Not necessarily a major city, but something with walkable neighborhoods, a young population, and a metro size of at least 500k.Metro size is more important fro job availability than city size. But city size will be more important to your social life.When you're 26-40, and single, you want to be in the largest most happening city you can. By happening, obviously that means socially, but also happening in terms of whatever your career and interests are.
