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I live with my mum, no job
No gf. No car but I’ve been trying to fix it all since 28, feels like a slog

Is it still worth a try?
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>>34492102
>turn it all around at 32
>trying to fix it all since 28
What exactly have you been doing for those 5 years?
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you could stop making these threads for an instance
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>>34492320
Yeah every neet on adv asking how to turn it around is 1 guy
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>>34492102
Total up what you have to work with. (Smart as in book smarts, decent fizeek, maybe a degree in something idk) What your goals are and break it down into smaller goals and steps. Everything is a puzzle and has more than one solution (some better than others).

Want to move out... well you need a job to get the money to buy a house/pay rent (alternatively you could just be homeless/live in a mudhut in the woods) but lets assume you want the normal person options.
Same with car really... a motorcycle could do untill you save up for a proper car. You could even get it second hand.
(or a bike if you don't need long distance travel)

Want to get a GF... well you need to be attractive enough to be a long term option (this does not just mean physical attractiveness albeit that deffinetly plays a role). Look into what the type of women you like diesire in a man , where to find them and how to signal those traits to her (and how to spot her own signals that she is in fact a good match). For example if you want a dominant woman , alpha male dating advice might not work as well (even if some ideas still vaguely apply).
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>>34492353
could as well be, since they're all searching for reassurance and not actual advice
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Yes it’s possible but probably not for you
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>>34492102
Common obstacles are trying to measure up to people who are impossible to please, either because of their expectations or because they're naturally aloof. Second obstacle is wanting to keep up a certain image for society when nobody really welcomes you. Third obstacle is you can't really be picked by people because almost everyone else is suffering likewise, you have to be braver than them and braver than yourself to enter their circle. Fourth obstacle is your culture and way of life is too different to other people, and you would need time or appreciate what they do.
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>>34493176
>decent fizeek
thirdies leave
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>>34492102
>Is it still worth a try?
Yes

>Is it possible to turn it all around at 32
Maybe, but the chances are slim.
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>>34492102
You were done by 28, unfortunately. You might get a (shitty)job and you might lose 20 pounds, but don't hope for much more.
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>mum
British so it’s actually over
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>>34492102
Try harder to get a car. It's a basic necessity for gainful adult life. Sell all your bullshit whatever you collect or max out credit cards, whatever it takes. Get something reliable.
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>>34492102
The only time it's too late to fix your life is when it's over.



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