the saying goes "the best moment to change things was ten years ago, the second best moment is now"
all you need to do is to live and regularly ask yourself "what can I improve in my life?" it doesn't matter how little the improvement is, just use that question as a jumpstart for your actions
>but I can't do [thing] anymore
life isn't ideal, you have to accept that for a combination of factors outside your control and your own choices you won't be able to access several things
>but I can't
then you don't want to, simple as, in which case be honest with yourself and your desires

>>34492396
Look at the events of the past from a new different perspective.

>>34492418
There's only so far this'll get you without overhauling your entire belief system
>>34492412
You're right, there's still a lot of life to be lived

>>34492396
The more time you waste doing this, the less time you have to spend on making actual changes now. Keep reminding yourself of that.

>>34492396
It might not do anything for you but for me the solution (Or at least the catalyst) was writing down every obstacle in my life keeping me from what i wanted a could potentially achieve. I went into extreme minutia and sorted items into orders of magnitude in terms of time/energy/potential impact on my life. Then i set a rule for myself that as much as possible i would make progress on at least one of those problems every day.
Quitting video games cold turkey also made a big difference as it was my biggest vice in terms of time wasted. More importantly i found that gaming had been occupying a ridiculous amount of my idle thoughts that have since naturally redirected toward real life. I used to dismiss the idea that gaming was actually a serious vice but now i know that it's actually quite devastating and I'm sure other time wasting vices function similarly for people who are stuck in life.

>>34492396
Making friends and being more social I'd say. Solitude trends toward ruminating.

>>34492396
I do this too and I decided that unless it's interfering with my waking life and functioning I'm not going to stop because it soothes me.