I gave up on it at 25, i am 29 now, I accepted that every single time ive put myself out there ive been rejected and treated like shit. The only "relationships" ive been in were in my late teens and i got cheated on or we broke up because she wanted it to be open. Longest relationship was like 2 weeks maybe. Last time i tried dating again i tried apps but i got basically no matches at all. Then i tried irl and that led to nowhere or i would just get strung along. There was a brief period for like two years after i gave up where i would think i was about to get somewhere then get rejected for some guy who is objectively a fucking loser(fat, drug or alcohol problems,broke etc etc). I feel very beaten down and anxious about ever trying to date again. But i also want to experience it and i feel like i shouldnt be that bad, that awful, that i cant. Like ive met so many dudes who are objectively worse than me who still arent going 10+ years alone. Should i try again? Its hard to give up fully and im not sure where to go from here.
>>34493409>There was a brief period for like two years after i gave up where i would think i was about to get somewhere then get rejected for some guy who is objectively a fucking loser(fat, drug or alcohol problems,broke etc etc)Just look inside yourself. I’m sure you can tease out the real reason why you were rejected.
>>34493438>Just look inside yourself. I’m sure you can tease out the real reason why you were rejected.I can over think all i want but every con i have ive seen another guy not struggle to find someone with. Its bugged me a lot but whatever it is it seems to be a problem literally all women agree is bad. Im not sure how to fix it. It feels like constantly moving goalposts
>>34493438He's just ugly. There are no deeper reasons.
>>34493409Do you think the fact that you're so resentful might be part of the problem?
>>34493482And yet ive met a shitload of ugly dudes in relationships, shouldnt be this hopeless. Somehow i still take massive Ls regarding this shit.
>>34493498I didnt start out resentful. I became resentful as time moved on. Being rejected stopped being a random event and now more of an identity. I watched as other dudes get what i wanted, and should be able to get, and that caused me to question why i cant either. It all feels like a personal attack to me after a while and the idea of a woman purely wanting to be with me feels like too high of a demand even though it shouldnt be at all.
>>34493531What if i dont have a racial preference? What if i just want someone who isnt going to cheat on me, is loyal and is super fat? Like im aware im a deadpan 3 or 4 on a good day, im not looking for attractive women because they wouldnt give a shit about me, i am aiming for looksmatches here and still getting rejected in the triple digits.
>>34493611My bf has all of that stuff so I don't get what's unrealistic about any of this. It's sad you don't love yourself and don't have friends
>>34493611I meet a vast majority of these characteristics and im still getting reject 100% of the time. Like i said, i dont understand why, like i get im not chad, im not some like super attractive super successful dude, but neither is like 99% of the guys i see in relationships. It should not be this hopeless. I should be able to get what every guy is able to get. Im wondering if now the only reason im not getting it is because im not putting myself out there anymore. I also dont know if i should even bother since most women who i could see would be my age or older and i dont want to be a escape plan for their bullshit or deal with their bitterness from failed past relationships
>>34493631Get raped. He's just good looking and got a job due to nepotism.
>>34493725Do you know him or something?
But anyways part of the reason why i am debating getting back into dating is just because it feels like year by year the chances of me finding a woman who doesnt fucking suck goes down, because the older i get the more i have to deal with older single women, and if they are single in their 30s and 40s theres probably a reason why since most women get 100s of chances to date every year, if no guy wants them theres something fucked. At the same time, i feel like i dont really stand a chance right now and have to continue to improve, but most guys i know didnt have to improve much so maybe i was just born inhuman. I dont know.
>>34496469Yeah i just feel like everything is against me on this for basically zero reason. I dont think im that bad looking especially since ive met guys who are objectively uglier than me still not having to accept dying alone. I feel like the standard is 8-10x more harsh against me than it is for any other guy. I would be fine being alone if i wasnt addicted to human contact and having all these fantasies involving dating and love. I have to basically accept 50% of the population views me as 100x worse than the worst guy you know with kids. This makes me fucking hate them. And the older i get the worse i get with this, and the worse i get mentally. But they dont care, they will always find some reason, some excuse to treat me like shit every time. Makes me wonder what the point of living is if your life is dictated by neurotic women who are like 30 iq points lower than you who probably dont even understand nor care the damage they are doing for zero reason
