A have a friend group that I play video games with and one particular guy in this group has ego problems. He does and says a lot of things that really kill the vibe when everyone is just trying to have fun. For instance if he dies in a game he'll blame it on someone else, and not in a joking way but he will angerly ask why you got him killed and make it a whole thing until he realizes that he's sperging out over a game and calms down. He will say something that's wrong and when it turns out he was wrong he will say that he never said that and say rude and mean things to anyone who calls him out. These things and others happens basically every time we play games and it happens to multiple people in the group my self included.I've tried a few things to see if I can get him to stop. The most effective thing so far has been just mocking his behavior which typically works to get it stopped in the moment. The thing is that it doesn't actually stop it from happening again and again. It's at the point where I often don't want to play with the guys because I and everyone else needs to walk on egg shells around him. I'm thinking that I'll actually need to call it out and lay into him for him to understand but I know if I do he'll probably just leave the group for good, which sucks because when he's not in this kind of state he is a fun guy.
>>34493752I think talking to him is the right way to go. Also, can't you just not play vidya with him, like make him a friend for other different activities
>>34493761Doing other activities is a good idea, I also thought of that but right now I live too far away to do irl stuff so that would just turn into me not hanging out with him at all. I'll be moving to a place closer to him in the future so that could be the long term solution. As for talking to him directly about it I'm not quite sure how to go about that because he does a really tricky thing where if you push back on what he's he does he frames the situation like you're the one making things a big deal or a problem. So If I push hard on it and make it clear his ego is a problem then that just plays into his framing that it's other people not him making a big deal out of the situation. I do think the only real way to solve the problem though is to have that conversation but getting there without being framed like iI' unhinged would be hard. I'm thinking of waiting for him to spaz on someone else then jumping into call him out but idk.
>>34493752How about just ignoring him? That sort of worked in a situation I was in.
