How do you deal with intense envy? Especially when it comes to romantic relationships. Any time I hear anyone anywhere talk about their romantic it pisses me off because I never had it, don't have it and will never have it. I have made peace with my inceldom but the envy and being constantly reminded of it is absolutely unbearable. Its getting to the point where going to grocery stores piss me off because every song is about romantic relationships and some kind of social relationship. It's unbearable. How do I stop this reaction and distract myself better?>inb4 therapyI am broke and even if I did therapists are not proactive so I'd still need a regime to work on>inb4 have sex incelFuck off
>>34493759You come across as narc mocking with this thread being a larp.
>>34493765No its 100% serious sadly.>narcI don't want a discussion on the morality of my reactions and emotions. I just want tips or stories of similar people and how they reconditioned themselves or learned to cope better.
The only thing that worked for me was alcohol.
>>34493870Someone explain to me why these are impossible to achieve.>inb4 disabilityAre YOU disabled? No? Then shut the fuck up.
>>34493759contend with desire. >envyyou have desire. >made peace with my inceldom you can't just silence desire. You might have to triumph over the things you believe you can't do(getting a girlfriend, making a friend, going to the gym, doing things that are hard.) self confidence is built gradually. genuine self assuredness is a good tool for making relationships. you shouldn't feel inferior to other people, unless you are living like an inferior person (drugs, alcohol, screen addiction, whatever).
>>34493779Just feels like you are not talking about yourself and projecting onto someone else.
>>34493870Yeah I know things are bleak the problem is I don't want to be reminded of it and anything that does pisses me off>Just feels like you are not talking about yourself and projecting onto someone else.No I'm just used to self-depreciation might be strange for those who are harsh to others but not themselves>contend with desireCan you elaborate on how? That was essentially the subject of my thread how do I cope with shitty circumstances.
>>34494073"i want to successfully repress what i want and how i feel" >>34494073>contend with desireno retard, you aren't contending with desire when you give up on wanting things. but your mind is sending you very clear signals of what you want via jealousy. maybe you want companionship or love or sex or whatever. you might just have to put the work in to get those things.
>>34494102>unless you are living like an inferior person (drugs, alcohol, screen addiction, whatever).And what if I was? It still doesn't change the fact that realistically ill be here a long time.>no retard, you aren't contending with desire when you give up on wanting things. but your mind is sending you very clear signals of what you want via jealousy. maybe you want companionship or love or sex or whatever. you might just have to put the work in to get those things.Yeah but might as wise be realistic, trying to find a girlfriend with my stats in 2026 its probably easier to earn a million dollars. Besides its not giving up I just don't want to be fixated on it. Why is that so hard to understand?
>>34494126>and what if i was?i'm not really making a value judgement nor do i personally have a stake in you doing drugs etc. all im saying is that when i did things that made me feel inferior or lowered my self confidence, it stopped me from connecting with people normally and to feel that i was at the same level as them. addiction is kinda this cycle or at least was for me of inferior>drink>hide away>feel even more inferior>drink> etc, until i stopped and improved. >realistically i'll be here a long timesorry what?>hard to understand?i'm not having a hard time understanding it, but i'm giving you advice on honoring what you feel and what you want. repression can make you go totally fucking crazy for a long time. >trying to find a girlfriendis the same as finding a friend. you gotta be a good friend first, and to be kind to yourself and others, and some other shit.
>>34494160>repression can make you go totally fucking crazy for a long time.Its also the most and only logical option when there's no choice besides deprivation in sight.>sorry what?I've been working on myself my entire life ever since I was a kid and I'm still leagues behind where most people would expect me to be. It's mostly from the circumstances of my birth, my problem isn't that I've 'given up' its the fact that I expect to be broke, depressed and utterly alone for quite a bit longer, maybe a year maybe a decade I just want that to be more palatable.>is the same as finding a friend. you gotta be a good friend first, and to be kind to yourself and others, and some other shit.I'm sick of the gaslighting, it obviously isn't as simple as that and if it was than everyone and their uncle wouldn't be struggling with it. Anyways I asked how to get over envy not how to 'give myself the thing I want' which I obviously can't have.
>>34494199>is the most logical choiceis what fear-loser brain wants you to rationalize>circumstanceswhat makes you so inferior? you missing a head or 8 fingers? are you obese by any chance? >how to get over envymy god you're not only stupid but also obese aren't you heed my warnings, dumb boy, one day you'll remember
>>34494212>what makes you so inferior? you missing a head or 8 fingers? are you obese by any chance?Quite alot actually. For one I am nearly broke and homeless and have a multitude of disabilities and mental illnesses, but that's besides the point.>is what fear-loser brain wants you to rationalizeWhat more is there to say? The solution to stop being angry or bitter about something being unattainable is to...le have it? What kind of terrible advice is that? And its explicitly the kind of advice I didn't ask for. I most certainty won't remember you, your advice is honestly maddening xD
>>34494234What disabilities and mental illnesses? Get a job or get on disabilityI don't believe you. I think you live in a prison of your own creation
>>34494248>I don't believe you. I think you live in a prison of your own creationIt's not a prison, it's a desert. And a mountain. I don't really know what your advice is yet it's sharply familiar to me, accusation veiled as advice. A shame, I was hoping that someone had something actually helpful to say.
Realize that being itself is a great gift and that Jews are pushing women to go for trash people so that the Jew can dominate.
>>34494288I already gave you tons and tons of advice, now i'm just accusing. And you didn't say what your disabilities were. I just know your type, is all. Anyway, >>34494302retardAnyway, you too can climb the mountain.You are not completely confined by external forces.
>>34493924Being ugly and short as a male is a disability and I should get neetbux.
I have the same issue. For me it's a severe inferiority complex and not feeling human. I see myself as inferior to everyone else. Everyone else is a functional human and I'm just subhuman. I don't see myself as being worthy enough to be around others so I isolate myself and never leave my house. I'm too afraid of joining online groups for the same reason. I get envious of just about anyone because they're having human experiences while I'm just some dysfunctional alien
>>34493961>>34494102not OP but I have the same problem and I won't triumph in getting relationship because of a lot of things. What do I do? Your advice was "just keep trying bro".
>>34495663Self defeating fatalism. Your attitude needs adjustment. Maybe your relationship with yourself needs to be improved before you can create or maintain relationships with others.
>>34495669>Your attitudeI'm 5'2 and autistic, nigga.
