What's the difference between loving someone vs wanting to possess them? I don't understand how would that manifest irl
>>34496559Love under will. Don't allow your love or lust for someone dicate your will.
>>34496559Are you trying to say men who don't want their partners to be whores are "possessing" them?
>>34496559>What's the difference between loving someone vs wanting to possess them? I don't understand how would that manifest irlPlease never, ever try to date anyone.
>>34496559>What's the difference between loving someone vs wanting to possess them?If you "possess" someone, then you are not treating them as a human being, you're treating them as an object. The fact that a person is with you is only special because they could choose not to be.
Women love and will sacrifice themselves to help and protect those she loves.Men only possess and beat, torture and kill anything that tries to flee.
>>34496778Ok, but what about the negative qualities of men? It's not all good.
>>34496559When you love someone, their happiness is more important than yours.
>>34496781You make my point. Unless it licks your balls when you tell it, its worthless to you. It can be a dog or woman its all the same to you
>>34496559Loving someone means wanting what's best for them, as opposed to wanting what you want for them or from them. It requires completely impartiality, since partiality is a kind of selfishness. It manifests as patience, compassion, generosity without expectation, and as self-sacrifice.
>>34496559Romantic love is selfish. If you were not selfish, then you would get taken advantage of while pretending to enjoy it and dying inside.
>>34496855Women are the ones eho domesticated dogs. That one is on them.
>>34496559Like the others have said with other words, when you love someone, you like them and want to be with them, but you also, above else, want to see them happy.You let them thrive, you give them space if needed, you become part of the wind under their wings, but you let them fly on their own. You do not own them.If the love is mutual, they'll naturally wish to be near you without being forced to, and they will also help you in turn, making you feel loved.A person cannot really own another person, but 'owning' someone would entail dehumanizing them and treat them like an object, which is awful, and has nothing to do with actual love.>>34496778I understand you may have bad experiences, but that's an unfair generalization, just like men who say 'all woman are bad'.Women and men must work and thrive together, this fighting and spite is nonsensical.
so having a possessive gf is bad?
>>34497028Needs to be in balance. Aristotle posits all virtues exist within some point between two vices. A gf who is not possessive would be indifferent to anything that happened to you. A gf who was too possessive would be controlling and want to direct you throughout all aspects of your life. Proper possessiveness, enough to show they give a shit about you and are willing to step in, but still give you autonomy, exists somewhere along this spectrum.
>>34496559Love is a selfless feeling that develops over time, as you care for another person and experience life with them. "Wanting to possess someone" is a selfish obsession with keeping someone close to you by any means necessary, often to the detriment of the other person.
