is it worth saying anything, or should i just invite this friend only to hang out 1-on-1? the latter seems like the easiest solution.my closest friend is a good friend and polite/nice 99% if the time, but i've started to notice that if i invite someone else along, or invite the friend to my place while my SO is home, the friend constantly makes small jabs at me. it doesn't ever really happen if it's just us two though. these small jabs are annoying, but small enough that nobody else notices, and i don't think the friend is even doing it on purpose so it'd probably just get denied.
>>34497243Is he jealous of you somehow?
>>34497296don't know. i definitely think the friend has low self-esteem though (i do too) and a need to impress people i guess. fine 1 on 1, but when there's other people, the friend for example mentions things that should be between us two and makes me look bad in front of other people (for example when i was sick for a while, and said no to hanging out more often than usual obviously, the next week the friend started talking in this "pity me" voice in front of other people and talking about how i don't want to hang out with the friend anymore, making me have to explain in front of everyone).i just don't feel chill with the friend anymore if there is anyone else besides us, feels like i get thrown under the bus so this friend can look better. but currently i really don't have any other friends either ngl.
>>34497463sounds like he gets really carried away around other people and becomes an asshole. just react in the moment. it works best in front of other people too. when he says some off the cuff shit just be like "what are you talking about man". it instantly throws the situation back at him and embarrasses him publicly. do it once or twice and you shouldn't have anymore issues out of him.
>>34497243Just keep him as a 1-on-1 friend. Some people act weird in social situations
>>34497481i have tried that, but in 0,01 seconds i instantly get an excuse and sorry back and then it continues/keeps happening lol. then i always look like the bad guy. but this friend is also somehow a 10/10 friend when there is no group and its just us two hanging out, i know none of it is done on purpose. but that sort of "attention seeking" behavior might also be too ingrained, in the sense that they can't change who they are.
>>34497524yea that's what i would prefer. i feel like the friend really wanted to befriend my SO too which feels weird, so at some point i'm gonna have to look weird/jealous when i get asked why i don't invite the friend to my home anymore where my SO is .
