I tried my best to overcome the 'tism, got the numbers of people from my hobby groups, invited ten of them on a moderate difficulty hike and they all seemed to be enthusiastic about the idea. I create the groupchat, plan the route and everything, really excited to bring some different new friends together.In the 48hrs leading up, one by one, they all fucking cancel, like a cascade of blows crushing my self esteem, some came with excuses some didnt, some just didnt respond at alll, I honestly want to cry.What is this? Did they say yes to be polite but actually weren't interested? Am I a low status loser and they all found better people to hang out with? Is this just how people are nowadays?I know this wouldn't happen to a desirable, well connected person, I know I'm not that but fml I just wanted to hike and apparently these people all like hiking too but just not with me.How do I prevent this in future? How do I become the sort of person who organizes events people *actually* are interested in enough to come to.
>>34497426Don't think much of it.They're the most important thing in their world, you can't win.Find other group hobbies where this high a commitment isn't required and is chill, like cooking etc.Get your vitamins checked abd look up CBT Therapy
>>34497447I do group hobbies that's where I met them, this was my attempt to make a real friend group beyond that.My vitamins are good and therapy hasn't been of help, I am just an autismo who can't come across as normal and there ain't no therapy for that.
>>34497426Oh shit anon, I'm sorry. Know that it isn't you, it's that these people are flaky. Try again with a new group. Also, are you in the PNW by any chance?
>>34497426if you like red pandas and hiking i think you are a swell guy
Cuz it's a meme that friends matter, only family matters and potential family (family friends). If you're just tryna make friends without any goal of family then it won't last. So do the same thing except this time do it as a potential family finder rather than friend finding>I just wanted to hikeIf you really just wanted to hike you could just so it alone. You sought people because you're looking for something else, not just hiking, hiking is just the excuse or the means to get that something else
