I've been getting into this same trap with women when it comes to texting after bars or on Hinge.>First texts are more so striking up small talk about one thing of interest.>Next just talking about basic interests, work, and weather (Usually not a lot of people stick around after that, I tend to stretch it to know them a little more)>Ask for a date after a week or so and they usually would've lost interest by now. How should I be upfront when it comes to getting to the sexy talk phase with women. It's like I keep missing all of the opportunities for it and end up eating shit.Like I wanna see examples of how that's done.
>>34498583Don't text at all: get her number and call her. Keep smalltalk and exchange of information to a minimum; concentrate on being entertaining. Ask her out for a date before the end of your first phone conversation.
>>34498628So in the case of Hinge, just do a lead in from a little small talk over to getting their number? I dunno if it's a turn off to just straight on go to phone number just right off of that.
>>34499123Don't even bother with the smalltalk. Just go straight to "Ugh, I hate communicating in text! Do you want to give your number so I can actually TALK to you? :) "Getting anywhere on a dating app is all about making yourself stand out from the crowd. In the past month, a hundred other guys have been making smalltalk with her; you need to be the one who is different, more confident, and more interesting.
>>34498583Use text to set up the date. The date is where you talk about the shit to get to know her.