I never do cold approaching. Is it really even a thing anymore? I briefly felt like talking to a woman in public today but I am definitely a neurotic autistic unfortunately. Wouldn't want to unnerve the woman. I saw her in a grocery store and thought "Wow, she is Mexican and has a fat ass. I like her already!" which made me feel bad to say but I would imagine most cold approaches are based on looks somehow right? Anyway, I didn't say anything to her and instead looked for anything to strike up a conversation about. Then, I saw she was on facetime video calling with whom I assume is her boyfriend. So I didn't say anything. To me, this is the prime reason why I don't like cold approaching and never do it. Its hard to know if a woman is taken or available or hell even OPEN to speaking to you. I am glad I had some patience and fucking observed because I would have made a fool of myself. So my question, is it ever okay to do cold approaching? What kind of looks or even personality do you have to have? I considered going full retard and just saying whatever came to my mind but that would have ended poorly for me I bet. First thought was something dumb like "Hey that is a lot of toilet paper in your basket." Fucking help. Do people really meet like this?
>>34502680Get friends first. Real friends you can go to bars or concerts etc. with.
>>34502680Same issue but at least I realized it's a problem of over-socialization, where you put her interest (of not potentially feeling creeped out / inconvenienced) over your own sexual instinct and possibility of getting pussyThat's not how it works in the animal world and it never worked anywhere ever except for the past few decades in the west. It's unnatural and serves to subjugate men into sumbissive passivity which is both unsustainable and bad for everyone in the long runSo the first step is actively trying to change yourself to be more selfish and less caring, realizing that women have always been objects of male predation and quite literally have entire smut industry dedicated to fantasizing over it. Kill the feminist cunt in your mind and re-learn to be a man your mom tried to prevent you from being but would gladly spread her legs forNext step is to practice being rude, dominating and initiate contact in general with strangers, just for practice. Over time you'll be able to do it with girls tooAlso it helps to look good and have friends who do too
>>34502828I see what you mean but being more selfish is definitely strange to me. I find it hard to inject myself into someones life by talking to them randomly. However, I don't know what else I am supposed to do because online dating doesn't work for me. So I may have to stick my neck out and try cold approaching.
>>34506633> I find it hard to inject myself into someones life by talking to them randomlyYou're operating on the premise that injective yourself in someone's life, even for a passing remark, is a net negative for them which makes me think you have a self-esteem issue first and foremost. As long as you're not actually doing something bad or being a pest literally no one in their right mind would care if you talk to them in passing. If they do, they're the ones being cringe because human interaction is a normal and healthy part of being in societyI remember one time walking by these two skater kids and one of them (earnestly) said something like "cool shoes man" or whatever and we started talking about where I bought them etc. It was a really nice conversation and it made my morning. If I acted "bothered" I would be a massive retard and obviously, in the wrong there. I also never in my life treated a gay guy badly for hitting on me as long as he took no as an answerGirls who act like bitches when guys respectfuly hit on them are shitty people and should be regarded as such, especially when they are dressed in a slutty way. Acting "bothered" when you're obviously asking for attention is a social power struggle and men have no reason to back down.
>>34506700>Girls who act like bitches when guys respectfuly hit on them are shitty peopleI see what you mean. I think this is where I struggle. Because I feel that "hitting on" a woman should be some covert thing. I perceive that women KNOW I am attracted to them if I walk up and randomly and say something and that bothers me. For example, if I see a woman and talk to her randomly and she has a nice ass, my assumption is that she already knows why I am talking to her. I also rarely have anything pertinent to say. Like what am I supposed to say "Hey, I am only talking to you because I want to get to know you better AND your ass is fat."
Autists cannot learn this power. You will have to seek more complicated methods of getting women.
>>34502828>Next step is to practice being rude to womenWhat kind of women are you dating that likes rudeness
>>34506779There is literally nothing wrong with male sexual desire and you're entitled to want to fuck any cunt you see. And to attempt to. It's natural, morally good and necessary for the survival of humanityLike I said, kill the feminist cunt in your mind; feminism is a delusional death cult full of women who literally want humanity to die I might be going on a limb here but I assume you had a mother who wasn't kept in check by your father and who castrated you to be a simp for women, putting their interests over yoursBest thing you can do is to embrace that feeling of "evil" and boyish defiance. Feel the rage and spite and hatred in your own blood and rejoice in the idea that you're valuing your own cock over the feelings of any stupid bitch in the street. Objectify them and approach them to make them uncomfortable. I know it sounds extreme but you're already balls deep on the other end and need to push it hard reach moderate position2-3 times will do the trick and every "normal" approach after will feel like you're being a good boy in comparisonalso, keep in mind that anger, frustration and hate are literally baked in heterosexual desire. They're not bad, they're the generators of sexual attraction. There is a reason why "enemies to lovers" is such a powerful trope and why negging works, you will get pussy much more easily if you make a woman angry with you than if you make her pity you for being "an overly polite, cowardly, nice guy". There is a reason why like 40% of female love songs are about assholes but 0% about nice feminist boys
>>34506811cis
Cold approaching doesn't work obviouslyMost people outside have shit to do and don't want to chat with random strangersFor women this is worse because now they're all neurotic and think every men wants to harass them (and they would be partially right in this case)They'll just assume you're some sex pest and ignore you. At most they'll give you a fake number to get away from you. You really need an "excuse" to talk to women these days
>>34506811Attention is attention. A mix of flattery and bullying is typically the best.
>>34502680The truth is there is nowhere to meet people in the current year. There are very few single women walking on the streets anymore, they all drive but the main problem is most women are in relationships already starting with high school and college. They will tell you to go to bars and pubs but it doesn't seem to work anymore, in the past sure maybe but not anymore. Then they tell you hobbies, to get hobbies and sign up for shit, but most women don't have hobbies (their hobby is socializing over the internet and in real life) not to mention the countless other guys that get into hobbies to meet women. If you don't meet a girl in high school or college it's over in 2026, there is nowhere to meet women anymore, unless you cold approach in places where young women hang out.
>>34509113it does work it just doesn't work for autists
