I never do cold approaching. Is it really even a thing anymore? I briefly felt like talking to a woman in public today but I am definitely a neurotic autistic unfortunately. Wouldn't want to unnerve the woman. I saw her in a grocery store and thought "Wow, she is Mexican and has a fat ass. I like her already!" which made me feel bad to say but I would imagine most cold approaches are based on looks somehow right? Anyway, I didn't say anything to her and instead looked for anything to strike up a conversation about. Then, I saw she was on facetime video calling with whom I assume is her boyfriend. So I didn't say anything. To me, this is the prime reason why I don't like cold approaching and never do it. Its hard to know if a woman is taken or available or hell even OPEN to speaking to you. I am glad I had some patience and fucking observed because I would have made a fool of myself. So my question, is it ever okay to do cold approaching? What kind of looks or even personality do you have to have? I considered going full retard and just saying whatever came to my mind but that would have ended poorly for me I bet. First thought was something dumb like "Hey that is a lot of toilet paper in your basket." Fucking help. Do people really meet like this?
>>34502680Get friends first. Real friends you can go to bars or concerts etc. with.
>>34502680Same issue but at least I realized it's a problem of over-socialization, where you put her interest (of not potentially feeling creeped out / inconvenienced) over your own sexual instinct and possibility of getting pussyThat's not how it works in the animal world and it never worked anywhere ever except for the past few decades in the west. It's unnatural and serves to subjugate men into sumbissive passivity which is both unsustainable and bad for everyone in the long runSo the first step is actively trying to change yourself to be more selfish and less caring, realizing that women have always been objects of male predation and quite literally have entire smut industry dedicated to fantasizing over it. Kill the feminist cunt in your mind and re-learn to be a man your mom tried to prevent you from being but would gladly spread her legs forNext step is to practice being rude, dominating and initiate contact in general with strangers, just for practice. Over time you'll be able to do it with girls tooAlso it helps to look good and have friends who do too
>>34502828I see what you mean but being more selfish is definitely strange to me. I find it hard to inject myself into someones life by talking to them randomly. However, I don't know what else I am supposed to do because online dating doesn't work for me. So I may have to stick my neck out and try cold approaching.
>>34506633> I find it hard to inject myself into someones life by talking to them randomlyYou're operating on the premise that injective yourself in someone's life, even for a passing remark, is a net negative for them which makes me think you have a self-esteem issue first and foremost. As long as you're not actually doing something bad or being a pest literally no one in their right mind would care if you talk to them in passing. If they do, they're the ones being cringe because human interaction is a normal and healthy part of being in societyI remember one time walking by these two skater kids and one of them (earnestly) said something like "cool shoes man" or whatever and we started talking about where I bought them etc. It was a really nice conversation and it made my morning. If I acted "bothered" I would be a massive retard and obviously, in the wrong there. I also never in my life treated a gay guy badly for hitting on me as long as he took no as an answerGirls who act like bitches when guys respectfuly hit on them are shitty people and should be regarded as such, especially when they are dressed in a slutty way. Acting "bothered" when you're obviously asking for attention is a social power struggle and men have no reason to back down.
>>34506700>Girls who act like bitches when guys respectfuly hit on them are shitty peopleI see what you mean. I think this is where I struggle. Because I feel that "hitting on" a woman should be some covert thing. I perceive that women KNOW I am attracted to them if I walk up and randomly and say something and that bothers me. For example, if I see a woman and talk to her randomly and she has a nice ass, my assumption is that she already knows why I am talking to her. I also rarely have anything pertinent to say. Like what am I supposed to say "Hey, I am only talking to you because I want to get to know you better AND your ass is fat."
Autists cannot learn this power. You will have to seek more complicated methods of getting women.
>>34502828>Next step is to practice being rude to womenWhat kind of women are you dating that likes rudeness
>>34506779There is literally nothing wrong with male sexual desire and you're entitled to want to fuck any cunt you see. And to attempt to. It's natural, morally good and necessary for the survival of humanityLike I said, kill the feminist cunt in your mind; feminism is a delusional death cult full of women who literally want humanity to die I might be going on a limb here but I assume you had a mother who wasn't kept in check by your father and who castrated you to be a simp for women, putting their interests over yoursBest thing you can do is to embrace that feeling of "evil" and boyish defiance. Feel the rage and spite and hatred in your own blood and rejoice in the idea that you're valuing your own cock over the feelings of any stupid bitch in the street. Objectify them and approach them to make them uncomfortable. I know it sounds extreme but you're already balls deep on the other end and need to push it hard reach moderate position2-3 times will do the trick and every "normal" approach after will feel like you're being a good boy in comparisonalso, keep in mind that anger, frustration and hate are literally baked in heterosexual desire. They're not bad, they're the generators of sexual attraction. There is a reason why "enemies to lovers" is such a powerful trope and why negging works, you will get pussy much more easily if you make a woman angry with you than if you make her pity you for being "an overly polite, cowardly, nice guy". There is a reason why like 40% of female love songs are about assholes but 0% about nice feminist boys
>>34506811cis
Cold approaching doesn't work obviouslyMost people outside have shit to do and don't want to chat with random strangersFor women this is worse because now they're all neurotic and think every men wants to harass them (and they would be partially right in this case)They'll just assume you're some sex pest and ignore you. At most they'll give you a fake number to get away from you. You really need an "excuse" to talk to women these days
>>34506811Attention is attention. A mix of flattery and bullying is typically the best.
>>34509113it does work it just doesn't work for autists
you autists are overthinking this shit by a 10^15 factor and posting about it on adv ironically is not helping because it creates even more reasons not to approach in your head on account of the discussions with other autists>go to crowded local party / club / event / whatever>get drunk (know your sweet spot. drunk enough to approach, but not too drunk)>see pretty woman>[important] don't think, just go>tell her she's prettyrepeat until a phone number is acquired
>>34509351There's this girl I see on a regular basis, I tried to do some small talk, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. What should I do?
>>34509390you have to convey interest asap or she'll get the herbivore vibe and you'll end up in the friendzone (at best)this means flirtingthis means compliments, asking for her #, and asking her out explicitly on a date
>>34509404All in one?
>>34509351if they could do this they wouldn't be autists in the first place. Your advice is literally "be yourself" tier
>>34509404As in "Hello you're really pretty..."?
>>34509624its better to compliment about something she's responsible for than about her physiquenice outfit >>> you're pretty anyway, this is of almost no importance vs how you say it. smile, speak slowly and loudly, be non-threatening, don't corner her.
>>34509609you missed the important part where practice makes you better while theorizing about it on weaving basket forums makes you WORSE at it
>>34502680Yes. I'm currently talking to a girl I run into all the time at a store by me. I've been into her for months and thought no way she'd ever be into me but learned yesterday she's been having the same feelings which is just something I've never experienced in my life(being into someone that is also into you). I didn't try to "rizz" her or anything because I have no game. just had normal conversations until one day a shared interest came up which made it easier to ask for contact info
>>34509640I mean yeah but I think there is a middle ground. You need like a hand full of bullet points to keep in your head to give you some kind of structure.
>>34502680>I am definitely a neurotic autistic unfortunately.Meeting women organically in real life is real, but not for autists. If you want to know how bad it is, read this: https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700 As a fair warning, it'll make you want to kill yourself.>>34502828>where you put her interest (of not potentially feeling creeped out / inconvenienced) over your own sexual instinct and possibility of getting pussyThis is a good thing. We're humans, not animals. Considering other people's feelings is an important part of relationships.>realizing that women have always been objects of male predationOutside of the minority of women who've been groomed into this, no woman likes being viewed as an object. This would decrease someone's chance of getting a woman or a happy relationship.
>>34509707Stop lying to young men and poisoning their minds to reduce fertility rates jewHumans ARE animals and will always act accordingly and that is a morally good thing
>>34509761>to reduce fertility rates What's the correlation between treating women well and reduced fertility rates?>that is a morally good thingThat's naturalistic fallacy.
>>34509789>What's the correlation between treating women well and reduced fertility rates? Feminism caused mating crisis in modern humans by convincing men their normal urges and sexual behaviors are morally bad and weaponized state power against themhttps://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/There is a reason no society with longterm healthy fertility rates "treated women well" in the way you're implying men should>That's naturalistic fallacyNo it's not, it would be a naturalistic fallacy if I said it's good BECAUSE it's natural. I said it's natural AND morally good
>>34502680There is no secret to the cold approach: you do it enough times that, one day, after a 1000 rejections, you simply become numb to rejection and stop caring. That lack of caring comes off as aloof and confident. Look, women are NPCs out of an elder scrolls game. They have a set of QTE conversation options that are pretty much all the same. Once you figure that out to the point of muscle memory it becomes trivial.
>>34509789Holy fucking low IQ Redditor
>>34509630Dude... it worked! I felt like a different person. I went, complimented her hair, clothes, called her pretty, hell I even asked her out all while smiling and being playful, she even smiled and laughed! Sadly, she has a boyfriend, she told me when I asked her out for ice cream (but she did with a genuine smile and a sad expression). But dude... it all went smooth. I didn't knew I had it in me.
>>34510354Oh btw I went just now.
Instead of worrying about women's feelings, I'm worried about their possible actionsEither ignore you, or screech and cause troubleHow do you even want to cold approach in the first place?All I end up seeing is pic related, never an opening
>>34510354congratsyou did good anyway, try not to be results-oriented, the important part is you went for it. the results will eventually come, don't get discouraged
>>34509351And what if I refuse to drink?
>>34509339Did it ever work for you?
>>34502680The truth is there is nowhere to meet people in the current year. There are very few single women walking on the streets anymore, they all drive but the main problem is most women are in relationships already starting with high school and college. They will tell you to go to bars and pubs but it doesn't seem to work anymore, in the past sure maybe but not anymore. Then they tell you hobbies, to get hobbies and sign up for shit, but most women don't have hobbies (their hobby is socializing over the internet and in real life) not to mention the countless other guys that get into hobbies to meet women. If you don't meet a girl in high school or college it's over in 2026, there is nowhere to meet women anymore, unless you cold approach in places where young women hang out
>>34512891This, most women I know are already taken and in stable relationships despite if they're hot or not, only a select few are still single and that's because they have fucking issues that limit them. Unfortunately if you want a woman who isn't on the downward spiral then you'll either have to go for younger women, which is its own hell, or just casting a wide net and chatting up as many bitches as possible to get a read on them. I guess if you're down to make her cheat then that works too, plenty of women who still want dick but are taken, but your game has to be super tight for that
How are we supposed to meet women during the global lockdown that’s happening soon? Dating sites don’t work I tried them and paid for them.
>>34512891>>34514451How do you know majority of women are in relationships. Are you questioning every person on the street lol
>>34502680with cold approaching it is just luck. you are risking inconveniencing someone. your success depends on whether or not she finds you attractive. its much easier to talk to women in already social events
>>34506633a technique you can do is to ask questions. any simple question is fine. women are conditioned to see the intent behind meaningless conversation. she will see that you are trying to guage interest and ask you a question back. this is how you know shes interested
Cold approaching is literally pointless, single bitches on a night out are single for a reason. But hey if you want to try and start a future with a cock hungry slut who takes miles of dick every weekend be my guest faggot
>>34517739>How do you know majority of women are in relationships. Are you questioning every person on the street lolI dont talk to every woman hence why I said most women I KNOW retard, and even with the ones I dont, the majority are involved with someone when I talk to them to see if they're single. I'm 35 so yes, the majority of women in my bracket are taken unless they're the man haters you see posting all the time or weird shut ins or outright single moms. That's why I said OP will probably have to go for a younger woman if he wants to have a shot at a single woman who isn't too far gone in the wrong direction.
I keep seeing white women with black men and black children everywhere I go, I drive 2 hours away from my town and still see it.
Yes. I did in line at the gas station today. Go meet people.
