I'm 38F and I have been dating my boyfriend (also 38) for 1.5 years.Our relationship is good and we get along very well. He clearly loves me very much and treats me with immense kindness. However, we don't have a lot in common. I can't talk to him about my interests and vice versa. It's a conflict that has no resolution... he's into movies & tv that I just don't like, and no amount of forcing myself to watch them is going to make me like them. Meanwhile I'm into games and he will not try any co-op games I'm into.He also has 3 kids from a previous marriage and does not clean his house, does not clean up after his kids, and does not make them clean up after themselves. I'm not willing to be a maid for 4 people (if it was just him I'd be more open to doing all the chores) and it's going to be 15+ years until his kids are out of the house (perhaps even never with the way things are nowadays.)I'm feeling very disillusioned about this relationship, I'm emotionally disconnecting because of how filthy his house is and how powerless I feel to change things (we've fought about this several times.) I feel guilty because he clearly is head over heels in love with me and has always treated me right but I'm unhappy.... hanging out with him is boring, frankly, because his only hobby is tv/youtube and I just am not really into watching things.If I break up with him, I think I should expect to die alone. I am fat, ugly, depressed/mentally ill and I can't imagine anyone else wanting me, or treating me as well as he does, yet these problems I have with him appear to have no solution. I've begged him to try games with me and he won't. I've told him he needs to do better cleaning his house but he won't. I don't know what I should do.
>>34503651get on that gamer mindset and leave the kids to their miserable fategodspeed
>>34503651There isn't a solution. The amount he loves you is less than how much he loves not cleaning his house. You either have to accept living in a pigsty or leave him
>>34503651Have you considered discussing this with him?>Yes I asked him to do stuff with meNo, have you told him your concerns and how they make you feel?
>does not clean his house, does not clean up after his kids, and does not make them clean up after themselves. I'm not willing to be a maid for 4 peopleYour relationship will work if you lower your standards for cleaning up and accept the mess as is. Keep your gaming room clean and ignore the rest of the house.
>>34503651>I'm 38F and I have been dating my boyfriend (also 38) for 1.5 years.Our relationship is good and we get along very well. He clearly loves me very much and treats me with immense kindness. However,Stopped reading there. I’m 40. Have sex with me please. I’m in IL.
>>34503860I live with my mom, who is a hoarder, and living with mess has been a burden on me my entire life. My room in my home is clean.He has 3 kids, there isn't a spare room in his house. His bedroom is already the size of a closet because space is so limited with that many people. If I were to move in with him I'd have very little space for myself.
>>34503651you should break up with him for random guys on an internet message board
OP, it sounds to me like you've communicated your issues clearly and ol'boy has no intent on changing thing fucking one about anything.You don't have a reciprocal love here, darlin'. He loves you and every bit of you emotionally wants the fuck out. It's time to listen to that voice inside of you telling you to bail.You're probably not as fat, ugly and mentally fucked up as you think you are. A little self confidence goes a long way. You seem reasonably intelligent judging by your writing and you at least have enough discernment to realize there's a problem.Handle your business and tell Scooter and his garbage heap to kick rocks. Then get yourself out there into the world a little.The world is going to tell you "no" enough on its own. Don't tell yourself no on its behalf.
>>34503651>don't know what I should do.Break up with him. He may be a decent guy in some ways, but he's not what you need. You're better off single and not living in filth.
>>34503651>38FIt's over. I will become a charlatan (astrologer) just to tell hags like you that it's over.
