Background:> Date girl for about a year, totally in love> Her best friend is dating my best friend> She cheats on me with by best friend> Best friend and his gf literally skip town, I'm oblivious> A month goes by, she finally dumps me out of nowhere, immediately is dating guy she's been hanging out with a lot recently> Get the full story on her and my best friend> WTF I'm dumb> Hurt and angry> Hope she dies in a fire> Years pass, move on> Get a message from her saying sorry> Send a polite "thanks, hope you're doing well"> Get much longer message about how she was a stupid teenager at the time, I'm a great guy, she's so sorry, poor decisions, etc.> Don't respond> Years pass> Talking to a friend about old times, get reminded of her> Reread the message> Actually this seems pretty heartfelt and sincere > Now I kind of feel like an asshole for just blowing off the message and never responding.I honestly forgave her a long time ago, and I want her to know that. I don't want to be friends with her or anything, but I do hope she is doing well and want her to be happy. It just seems weird to be responding to a message from so long ago.
>>34504258FUCKNO
>>34504258She didn't care about how you felt, she wanted to soothe because something happened during that time which made her feel a slight twinge of accountability for a moment, and she couldn't stand that feeling.
The message she sent should of had a request to hang out to rekindle otherwise yeah ignore the message
>>34504258>I honestly forgave her a long time ago, and I want her to know that. I don't want to be friends with her or anything, but I do hope she is doing well and want her to be happy.Sure, go for it. So long as you're not hoping to get back together with her, and you don't imply that you are, I can't see that it could possibly do any harm.
>>34504258send her a dick pic since she's seen it before it should be ok
>>34504258Get back together with her if you're single.>but what if cheatThat what if is there in all relationships.
>>34504258No you fucking idiot. What makes you think she won't do it again?
OP here, no intention whatsoever of getting back together with her or even hanging out with her as a friend.It's more like, her apology seemed sincere and if she was waiting for me to acknowledge and forgive her, I want to give her that, and it's kind of weighing on me that I haven't done that yet.I also want to let her know that I'm not bitter and hateful after all these years. That might be kind of a selfish motivation on my part.And then on the other hand, maybe just sending the apology in the first place was enough for her, she's forgotten and moved on, and me bringing it up again years later would be weird. Like, what's wrong with me that I think she thinks about this at all and didn't just move on years ago?And then there's the risk that she'll interpret the message as an invitation to be friends and hang out and etc., which I don't want. I intend this to be at most a couple of follow-up messages updating each other on the state of our lives, then back to never talking to or about each other ever again.
