Hi,i've been suffering from depression for about 10 years after my last breakup with my girlfriend.I remember her coming clean and describing how her lover was able to make her squirt, scream and beg for more. How she did things with him(anal, threesomes) that she would never do with me. She even described him having a thick penis with a big head that resembled a mushroom.I've been self medicating with alcohol and weed ever since, isolated and staying far away from women. I've also pleasured myself with trans and sissy porn, where i would get hard for very large penises.My last girlfriend really did a number on me. It doesnt help that my parents weren't suposed to be parents and i'm all alone atm. I'm getting old(36) and i need to fight this, but idk how. Do you have any suggestions?
>>34505762sorry manfuck that hoehow big r u btw
>>34505774I'm 6.5 inches(17 cm) and fairly thin, but most of the guys here in eastern europe are on average 7+ inches and much thicker than me. In india i would be huge, i suppose as far as the wordly average(asians, hindus etc.) are concerned. I see guys in the gym as big as me erect, when flaccid all the time.
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>>34505762I also have depression entirely conceived from my penis size. The only advice I have is date for the sake of dating. I don't have sex with women at all (pointless as my penis is only 4.5 inches). But they still like my personality a lot somehow (no clue why). so I get a lot of female attention. They usually start making sexual advances towards me after the first day of talking. I turn them down, but I still go on dates with them. I go on a date with a new woman probably every 2-3 weeks. And the serotonin of attracting women and their affection is the only counter effect to the depression. so in summary,>still date women sincerely>get serotonin and limit cortisol from dates >don't sleep with them (don't want to undo serotonin or increase cortisol because of small penis) >turn them down when they make sexual advances >rinse and repeat>biggest side effect from small penis (depression) mitigatedthis has worked for me very well OP. I'm very well aware this is just a bandaid and doesn't actually fix any problems. But to be blunt with you, you're 36, it's not going to get any easier for you and more importantly, you're at a critical point where inaction is only going to lead you spiraling down into more depression. I don't think anyone is going to be able to relate to you more than I do, so please take the advice seriously.
>>34505849>big penis pretends to have small penis problems.I would shove my groin into a nuclear reactor and give myself cancer just to have your penis for the last week of my life.
>>34505841I've been on this journey of finding god and wrestling my bodily urges through celibacy, abstaining from drugs, fasting, parasite cleansing etc. but i always find myself coming back to my old ways. Everything feels hollow after a while.
>>34505867Different places have different sizes. Even a large specimen in Belgium would be considered small in Congo.
>>34505849>6.5 inches>wah my dick is smalldie
>>34505762Women who have sex with women consistently report much higher levels of sexual satisfaction than women who have sex with men. How big would you say a lesbian's partner's dick typically is?
>>34505898whatever their strap on size is. have you ever seen a 4 inch dildo?
>>34505898Women can orgasm indefinitely while men can only orgasm once per session. as a result, two women can basically have a non-stop goon while a man who cums too fast will leave the woman disappointed.go figure women are more satisfied fucking other women, because women can last infinitely during sex and have multiple orgasms.
>>34505898Don't they use toys? The whole lesbian thing comes from severe disgust and hatred for the father figure, who was probably a violent alcoholic or douchebag.
>>34505893there's been no global study on penis size where the African countries didn't have self reported statistics. The single most commonly referenced statistic on penis size had all other countries except African countries report via Doctor gathered data. Only Africa had self reported data. It's a completely Jewish fabrication. actual doctor gathered data puts African averages closer to 5 inches. shut up you big penis motherfucker.
So does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with having a small penis? I get the subjective part where it can always be smaller, but the "it's not the size, but how you use it" slogan really seems dishonest to me as i've seen way too many women gravitate towards taller guys because they usually have bigger dicks.
>>34505905>whatever their strap on size is. have you ever seen a 4 inch dildo?So what you're saying is that using a dildo on a woman gives her a greater level of sexual satisfaction than a penis does? In which case, you don't have a problem; just use a dildo instead of your dick, and you'll outperform any man out there.
>>34505955Have you considered transitioning to a woman?
>>34505955I made a very thoughtful post OP, I thought it would be of some objective benefit. >>34505854
>>34505957you can't see why that would be entirely defeating and emasculating to the point of furthering depression and self critical pessimism? I sincerely hope you're being facetious, because it's callous and dehumanizing at worst
>>34505984Creating tension and aborting when things get intimate seems like a maladaptive coping strategy rather than a solution. It might be a temporary ego boost at most and a fear of intimacy at the least, but it doesn't create anything lasting. It seems to be an alternative to hookups, but without the sexual depth.
>>34506031well yeah I mean it is just a bandaid. but I'm being serious when I say both that I'm the one that can relate to your situation the most (even though your penis isn't small at all, it's literally at the bigger end)and that I've had actual success mitigating the depression by it. as long as you continue going on dates it's not temporary, you get the continuous serotonin. which let's be honest, the depression is the issue. having the small penis is the catalyst. I don't want to kill myself because I have a small penis. I want to because the depression tells me to. so in a warped way of looking at it, combatting the depression is the solution, even though I can see why you would call it maladaptive.anyways, in all sincerity, the coping strategy has helped me genuinely like myself as a person even if I consciously understand I'll never have romantic fulfillment. And thus staves off thoughts of suicide. Plus I think the women know deep down why we can't have any sexual interaction. So it's not even awkward or anything when I turn them down, they definitely know it wouldn't be mutually beneficial. so it's not like it's something that fixes one problem by causing another.
>>34505991Given a woman more sexual pleasure than any penis can, no matter how large it is, is defeating and emasculating?
>>34506054Thanks for sharing. What i hot from it is you have platonic relationships with women to not feel lonely, but when it comes to the ultimatum - which it will come to in all cases(since women and men cannot be friends), you both avknowledge that it was just for the sake of entertaining the thought and not actually being rooted in reality. In my mind this puts you in a situation where you serve as a buffer, a shoulder to cry on or a "friend". In any case you still get used.I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but i wouldn't feel manly at all when theres this constant tension and pretense under the surface.
>>34506061why would I want to be with a woman at all who gets no benefit from being with me? I don't mean to be rude or anything it's just I don't think this is too alien of a concept to understand.if you don't mind me asking, personally speaking, is your goal of being with women just to have the sexual conquest and have them look at you in a positively in a sexual light? or to have a mutual sexual connection?if it's the former, I can see why nothing else would matter and why just exclusively using the dildo wouldn't have any other psychological connotations to it. but if it's the latter then surely you'd understand why other men would be hesitant to engage in intimacy if there was serious concerns about whether it would be possible to begin with.
>>34506097oh no sorry maybe I did a bad job at explaining. no, the dates are for a romantic intent. That part is mutual. I still romantically connect with these women, they have actual interest in me. I just back out when they try to initiate sex. I explain that I had a good time etc etc. And explain that I can't do that for them. Then I rinse and repeat.
>>34506128I still can't comprehend what is the actual point to doing this, since you cannot form a deep connection that way. Is it control? Ego boost? What happens when you get older and it doesnt work anymore? Don't you see this as a waste of time and money? Doesn't it get mundane?
>>34506146I can see where you're coming from. I enjoy being with people and talking to people. so the serotonin in of itself is the point. if you're not motivated by that then you probably wouldn't get benefit from it and that's also why you're struggling to understand the point of it. if the ultimate motivation for dating for you is the end goal, then this wouldn't help. my bad, I probably should've picked up on that earlier. I guess in your case you'll just have to learn to accept you have a big penis and use it like anyone else with a big penis does.
>>34506163Sure. It's a fact that people have different motivations. Intellectual for some, emotional for others. All i want is a reason to live for(a family) and to feel like a man. Yet i'm too poor to have systematic dates and outings, nor do i have my own home still and the prices keep rising and people are having less children every year. It's not even an end goal, it's more of a striving for the connection i've never had(functional family), the mutual respect stemming from trust and the sense of belonging.I guess that not only the penis size comes into play here, but the financial situation and appearance also. The penis envy might just be a metaphor for social success and influence.You're on point in that i really need to start socializing more, because i've been isolated for so long.
>>34505849If not a bait you are the biggest fucking retarded fag on this god forsaken mongolian basket weaving forum I'v ever seen. I'm the same size and and got screamed at and slapped in face for sticking it too fast balls deep as it "hurt like motherfucker" You ruin yourself with alcohol and all this shit just because one retarded whore? Jfc just get new one retard.
>>34505762Looks like we're the same length but I'm probably the ex with the "huge" mushroom head. All of my problems have been ones I made for myself out of insecurity and doubt. Never left my hoes unsatisfied, but mostly felt deeply unsatisfied with myself after. There's more to sex than the physical aspect of sticking it in and out of a wet pussy. Find the lady who can't keep her mouth off of you.
