>>34506574
Your types may get tricked into having kids by falling in love with someone special. Otherwise you won't have kids.

>>34506574
>Does anyone here have kids or something similar?
Yep, 3+, i am neither rich nor poor.
>What's the world like for gen alpha kids raised not using tablets? I'm 22 years old and don't know what to make of modern parenting. Like obviously they get phones so they can call 911 or text me if they're in trouble but I don't want them talking to people on discord like I did growing up.
My kids do not have phones or use tablets. They have access to a tv and curated list of allowed tv shows and movies. They were also trained to not watch weird crap on youtube and rewarded for reporting it. You juat need to set the boundaries.
>I would only have kids with someone if they were a really safe option, like super safe behavior wise and had a decent career or financial habits.
Doesn't matter. Poor people have kids, rich pwople have kids, there is no reason not to have kids really....
>Preferably my spouse would have a decent family for a support system or something.
Having supportive parents does help a bunch.
>Automation and some other stuff has me concerned for any potential kids and their future employment.
Typically kids have more chances for employment than their parents because they adapt with the times.
>My grandma and mom don't want me to have kids nor do they expect kids from me. I would 1000% need a better support system if I had kids and I definitely can't have kids anytime soon with the situation I'm in.
Who cares what they want. You could live trying to pleasebthem your whole life and one day they get hit by a bus and you wasted your life pleasing someonebthat didn't matter.
>There's a lot of intergenerational trauma in my family and I want to avoid repeating it, does anyone have advice on this in particular?
Make a system to catch yourself before you do it.
>I would feel guilty if I didn't give my kid a bunch of advantages growing up.
Just save up money. Thats good enough.

Good luck!

>>34506603
I like to think I'm weird in an endearing way.

>>34506625
I'll definitely save up before I have kids.
Thanks for the advice.

>>34506574
First off
>>34506625
seems to know quite a bit on the subject and I would definitely take their advice.

I'm currently raising 2 kids and have for a little over a decade. You seem to have a lot of worries and concerns which is normal but people always find a way to take care of a child if there is love in the heart. You'll never be ready and that's okay. That's part of the journey.

I became a father as a minimum wage, suicidal, drug addict/alcoholic with no goals, savings or intention of stopping my ways. My trauma is of the emotional abuse and neglect category.

I doubt by reading that you would say I was ready for anything other than rehab and psyche eval and you'd be right.

I never had family support either... her side or mine. We've never gone out on a date, a night away or weekend or whatever. We don't have that luxury so that, the family you mentioned, would be very helpful for mental health.

I'm not one for sympathies, I am telling you this to give you an idea that it can be done at the cost of suffering, but sometimes that's worth it in and of itself. Being a parent really is one of the most rewarding, amazing things to experience.

Things I would absolutely caution before ever deciding to have children with another, make sure they are decent.

I mean like, a good, honest, authentic person. That's going to be a difficult one. You need someone you can be an effective team with even if your emotions become misaligned at some point down the road. Having a child with someone that has no emotional intellectually would do something rotten like use the child against you during arguments, for example. You need to find someone that will do the right thing for the child before themselves.

Breaking trauma cycles is just being conscious and empathetic to the triggers you had as a child. Being better to create a chance at a better version than yourself, that's the name of the game. Make them strong, teach them right and the world will submit.