How do I stop being afraid of literally everything and start only being afraid of life or death situations?
>>34508785You don't need to "not be afraid," you just need to do things even if you're afraid.
>>34508888What if the thing I'm afraid of is myself losing my temper and going ape shit in public?
>>34508785Examples?What are you specifically afraid of?
>>34510181Myself mostly. I'm very sensitive and literally everything annoys me and I hate feeling this way and don't want it to effect other people, so I'm terrified of losing control and getting angry at someone at work or in public and getting locked up over some stupid bullshit
>>34510201Affect*I'm too tired right now but yeah who cares
>>34510201Give specific examples since I can't read your mind to understand what you mean. Are you afraid or frustrated? At yourself or others? Or at doing things?
>>34510252>specific examplesIt's hard for me to smile because being around people and noise makes me uncomfortable so people tend to look at me because I look unhappy and because of monke brain this triggers them to feel unhappy and look at me every 5 minutes. About 10 years ago at my first job some old man kept looking at me and I screamed "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT" and threw my water bottle at a wall and walked out. I'm terrified of something like that happening again. >Are you afraid or frustrated? Both, but more frustrated >At yourself or others?Mostly at myself, but also at others for not helping me by simply looking away or just giving me some advice that actually helps me. >Or at doing things?I don't like doing things that involve other people and they do make me mostly afraid and a little frustrated
>>34510252>tfw you spill your guts to a glownigger I fucking hate this place
>>34510314>being around people and noise makes me uncomfortableIs this physical/sensory discomfort or mental? If physical get noise cancelling headphones and unironically wear some I-have-autism-plz-understand lanyard/shirt/hat. If it's mental discomfort just fucking grow a spine and learn to fake smile or at least wear a neutral face like everyone else. You think the rest of us are all happy? No, we just know when and who to show unhappiness/frustration/anger to and when to fake smile to get the interaction over with faster. Practice in front of a mirror until your face looks normal, put this normal face on when you're outside/interacting with others.
>>34508785You don't. Fear is the proof of life.
>>34508785they WANT you to be scared.stop being a people-pleaser.NEVER give them what they want.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hKdfReE0qds&ra=m
>>34511215>put this normal face on when you're outside/interacting with othersNah, I'm not going to force anything. If I don't feel comfortable, forcing a smile is going to make it worse. If this bothers people maybe they are the ones that need to grow a fucking spine.
>>34510314You keep describing symptoms when I'm asking for root causes. I understand that you feel upset and anxious but Why. Are you afraid others are going to judge or hurt you? Are you frustrated because you consider them stupid?From what I'm getting it's not that you are pushed into bad situations rather you blow ordinary things out of proportion from being in your own head and make yourself miserable by not knowing how to deal with them. A therapist could help here in telling you where your cognitive distortions lie and how to act/respond.
>>34510518Thanks for the data farm kind stranger!
>>34510518you're all morons
>>34508785You don't have to be afraid of death. If you've ever been in a sudden deadly situation, you're not scared or panicking, you're just looking at the danger coming at you in slow motion and thinking "I guess this is how I die. Well, whatever"
>>34512773>root causesThat is a very good question. I'm not 100% sure. I thought at the very root maybe I have too much ego but that would mean I have high self esteem, which I don't. But now I think the very root cause is like you said how I just focus way too much on the negative and blow ordinary things out of proportion. I feel like people can't even take care of themselves so it's important for people to help each other any way they can, but I live in a society where you're expected to be tough and figure everything out yourself, which deeply bothers me and makes me just want to suffer rather than actually put in the effort to learn the hard way. It's crazy how someone can say they aren't feeling well mentally and people will tell them they are selfish and just want attention and that they are lazy and making excuses for not just being tough and dealing with their problems. I really fucking hate that and people are responsible for this so I hate people>>34512781I was mad when I typed that lol (still mad btw) >>34512874I'm not even really afraid of death. Living is hard death is easy
>>34508785Read the stoics (unironically). Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius. All of your problems are caused by trying to control things that are outside of your control. There is no point of being afraid or worry that it might rain tomorrow, because there is literally nothing you could do to prevent it. You can bring an umbrella though.
>>34511904>You not doing thing thing makes the normies uncomfortable>You admit to being sensitive to their discomfort and know you'll sperg out and lose control because of their discomfort>You still refuse to do the thing>They feel uncomfortable as a result>Their discomfort triggers you>You sperg out HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO MEBased retard>>34513293>so it's important for people to help each other any way they canYou say this but refuse to yield on something as simple as putting on a smile or an autism lanyard.Fitting in by masking or giving people advanced warning of your developmental retardation is a basic comfort you're refusing to offer to other so they have no obligation to make you comfortable either.
>>34513998Fear is the first of many foes
