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How do i get a boyfriend/fiance?

Im 32 and i dont care about money and im okay with dating a virgin as long as his not into incel culture, my ex husband was into pretending to be an incel all the time eventho he fucked a lot of whores before meeting me, he also really hated “roasties”, his personality was so shit.

A non-small dick that works is a requirement but i cant do sex for a while cuz i got depersonalised and the depression only got worse the more sex i had with my ex husband to the point i wanted to kill myself, even 5 years later im still not healed idk how long i have to wait until i can get aroused again. Ive fixed most of my problems tho and im not annoying and was always the type to not have arguments, i wouldn’t ever scream at or abuse anyone.

I dont want to use dating apps, it makes me feel sick inside scrolling past all the cookie cutter surfer dudes im not interested in, im not for quick fucks, i told you i cant get aroused yet cu im healing from depersonalisation.

I can’t meet anyone IRL no matter how much stuff i do out in the community.
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How do you have an ex husband and not know how to meet men?
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>>34509230
i met him on krautchan
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>>34509223
>32
>cant do sex
well, bye

>im okay with dating a virgin
no woman past teenage ever is
they like the idea of dating a virgin
IRL they are repulsed by them, or simply can't see them
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>>34509288
fuck your preconceived notions turning people into strawmen from your bullshit cope
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>>34509223
that all sounds like a nightmare to deal with
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>i'm an aging divorced depressed overly online loser who has nothing to say about myself beyond talking about how bad my trauma is
>where is my bf/fiance
>i won't meet anyone IRL
>he has to have a big dick and not have any sexual problems but i absolutely won't have sex with him
>also i get the ick from redpill adjacency
What are you even posting for? Attention? Distraction? Is it bait? Get a grip
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>>34509490
yeah I can't imagine anyone would want that much baggage. Unironically a bpd girl or a reformed slut would be a better deal. I unironically would rather date a nice girl with a bodycount in the hundreds than try to navigate that maze of eggshells.
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>>34509223
Try /soc/
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>>34509530
Trvth nvke, after reading just this one post all my brain cells scream at me to stay the fuck away. Also bait probably
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>>34509490
Yeah if it's real you're going to need to lower your standards, lady.
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Where are you from?
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>>34509623
bro don't. you can do better I promise. You could give everything to her and she would still hate you. She will despise you for just existing in her life. She's an incredibly selfish and hateful person. It's not even that she's a mess and that she's way too picky. She simply is just indiscriminately bitter and hyper critical of everyone else, while also being egotistical.
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>>34509223
Moid hands.
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>>34464531 samefig
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>>34509661
>>34509530
>>34509490
where the fuck are you geting that all from? ur delusional
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>>34509490
i never said big dick.

And it has to be a dick that works because when my depersonalisation goes away and my arousal comes back i will want to FUCK… because as hard as it is for you to comprehend, i dont want to dump a guy to get with a new one when my sexdrive comes back
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>>34509223
No disrespect but if you have felt depersonalized for the past 5 years with no indication as to when it will end, I don't think getting into a relationship is the most pressing matter here, especially since it drove you suicidal when you were sexually active.

Assuming you haven't done this before, therapy could help. Assuming you did, I'd say to better adress the issue, therapy seeks to help with shit like that after all.

Also, going on a limb here. You probably don't have the best idea of men, either, and you mentioned the whole depersonalization stuff a lot. That's another point for NOT getting into a relationship for the benefit of you and the men than might date you, it'd be a recipe for disaster.
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>>34510933
okay ):
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>>34510966
that dude did not need to tell you that. surely you already knew all of that. This is why we were saying you're dangerous.
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>>34511109
ngl she probably did know but I figured sometimes you need to hear from sombody else. Like lets be fr it's kinda obvious OP thinks lowly of guys and uses the whole depersonalization thing as a shield/defense. Again, no hate tho, but it's kinda noticeable, and it'll be a fucking mess for her AND the people she dates, not the best headpace for it and we can tell.
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>>34511137
> OP thinks lowly of guys
ur delusional and trying to bring in ur male version of feminism persecution complex
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>>34509223
obvious larp is obvious
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>>34509223
lmao oh god another day another failed bait thread typed by an autistic foid
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>>34511182
what's the bait? Like a bunch of losers say I'll go out with you then everyone yells contactfag! This place is as retarded as OP who wants a guy with a high sex drive while she (or he) has none
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>>34511206
BECAUSE I WANNA FUCK WHEN MY SEXDRIVE COMES BACK, IM NOT LOOKING TO DATE A NO SEXUAL GUY TO JUST DUMP HIM FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHEN MY SEXDRIVE COMES BACK
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>>34511149
Girl, you mentioned being sick at the thought of swiping across cookie cutter surfer dudes, and I know people would not think the best of me if I said that about women in dating apps, and they would be absolutley right to think so. It's shallow.
That's not to mention you want someone who wants sex in the long run but you cannot offer it and you yourself don't know if the issue of not wanting sex will be solved in the forseeable future. I'm not hating on you, I'm warning you for your own good as you seem to have contradictions and issues you gotta work through first. No hate, no spite, just genuine advice, which is why you're here.
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>>34510933
i see through this bullshit nwo, your just trying to make me remove myself from “le daring market” so you “save” guys from me because you think im going to cause problems
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>>34511254
if i said i was into surfer dudes you would just accuse me of the exact same thing of being “shallow” you just make up insults that suit you cuz ur just negative about everything

my sexdrive will come back in a few years or less i think
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>>34511255
>>34511259

Close, but not entirely, it'll also save you the hearbreak of dating a guy and he breaking up with you because he does not think it's worth it to keep waiting to have sex with a person he loves and made it a priority for him to be able to have sex, because he would be completly reasonable to do so.

Remove yourself entirely from the dsting pool indefinetly? No, not at all. Temporarily? Yes, until your issue gets sorted out, because they're incompatible with landing yourself a boyfriend.

Seriously, it's a contradiction. You prioritize the idea of a sex life but cannot have sex, that's bound to breed (pun intended) issues in the long run for both parties dude, im not being hateful.

>if i said i was into surfer dudes you would just accuse me of the exact same thing of being “shallow”

No, the issue with that statement is you assuming any and all people of a group behave and want the same thing. Although you did say "the ones I'm not interested in" so I may have to give you that one.

>my sexdrive will come back in a few years or less i think
>I think

you deadass think a guy will not get ideas of you wanting a sex life and then having to wait a few years to get laid? I know sex is not everything in a relationship but atp if it were me I'd think you're hiding something or you're simply not attracted to me, and I would not want to date someone who is not physically interested in me. See what I mean?
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>>34511255
Yes. That's exactly right.
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>>34511574
kek
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>>34511287
All this plus at 32 she's racing against a clock, there aren't many men that are going to jump at the chance to potentially wait several years to have sex with a mentally ill late 30s woman



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