my sister is hospitalized and intubated, i couldnt sleep properly for weeks and i feel exhausted from uni + work. some friends want me to go play pool tomorrow but it's like a 1 hour trip there and honestly i don't want to go at all. there will also be people i don't really connect with and some girl who apparently likes me but i'm not “allowed” to date her because my female friend would get angry or some shit kek.i feel guilty because people keep inviting me out trying to “get me out of the house” and i always end up rejecting plans, but honestly i'd rather just go to the gym, watch a movie alone or text some friend/girl i actually like talking to, also i'm autistic so that plays a big part in all of this.i don't know if i should cancel plans normally or just block everyone and disappear for a while because i already know i'm gonna get texts saying how much i disappointed them or that they won't invite me anymore
Just apologize, tell them what’s going on with you, and that you appreciate their invites. When you feel ready again, you reach out to them. Avoidant retard
>>34511824Hey OP, sorry to hear about your sister, hope everything turns out okay regarding that, or that it at least is not heavy on you.I'd suggest giving it a try on the fact you're probably not doing well alone, provided you are willing to give everything (playing pool, the people you don't connect with, the hour long trip) a try. As in, if they cause uncertianty instead those things being flat out dealbreakers, I'd consider it. If you absolutley don't like these people, I'd say it's better to cut your losses from the get go and just cut them off from your life (respectfully, you can talk these things out).I will say tho>and some girl who apparently likes me but i'm not “allowed” to date her because my female friend would get angry or some shit kek.woman moment. But seriously, a girl friend is not supposed to cockblock you like that without good reason. If she can provide a good reason like this girl not being a good person or something, totally fine. If she's just being petty she's doing the classic thing of "I won't date you but I won't let you date anyone", why this happens I'm not sure, it has not happened to me luckly, but it's controlling behaviour that adds nothing into your life if it happens with more than one girl.>i already know i'm gonna get texts saying how much i disappointed them or that they won't invite me anymore.they shouldn't be disappointed in you if they're your friends considering your situation. I understand being sad/upset if you become a hermit because they care, but this does not sound like it, if you truly feel they care, you can always tell them you're not doing well at all, a good friend would understand that. I would keep in mind hanging out or doing plans, but with people that you get along with and tolerate. If they're your friends, they'll understand life has not dealt you a good hand.Also like >>34511898 said don't turn avoidant, that's how you become alone when people are trying to care.Best of luck, OP.
>>34511824They're going to stop inviting.
