>girlfriend feels the need to talk to me all day>she doesnt realize i have no interest in talking about her problems (she complains non stop) and dresses she wants to buy>after a while of trying to talk to me she gets frustrated and starts behaving antagonistically because shes mad im not as engaging as shed like me to behow do i tell her i dont want to talk to her about this stuff without hurting her feelings? i feel like no matter which way i explain it, shes just going to get upset because all she will hear is "i dont want to talk to you as much", which is true but its perfectly reasonable.
>>34515621She is your girlfriend. You're obligated to talk to her anytime she wants. If you find talking to her annoying break up with her and stay alone. Your partner is not some causal friend whom you can just stop replying to texts when you feel like it.
>>34515621I would say to completely disengage and act condescending to your girl's interest is exactly how you end up making a post in five months about how you just went through a breakup you never saw coming and cant process it. However, you can always tell her you just need to time to yourself to recharge and that you'll be more than happy to help afterwards. Which is a healthy way to set a boundary without hurting someone's feelings, and letting them know you still care but you just need some time for yourself too.
>>34515621I'd frame it as you not being able to contribute much to the conversation, especially about the dresses and woman things she wants to partake in, but mentioning a lack of interest is not wrong. The complaining works like that too, but only if it's petty shit she complains about. If her complaints are not so frequent and about serious issues/problems she has, then try to listen to her a bit, as it helps to sometimes vent like that.You cannot have a latent interest in everything she likes, and she should resect that. But relationships are also about sacrafices and conpromising; meeting in the middle. You're gonna have to listen to her from time to time if that's what makes her happy or helps her feel loved.
>>34515627False>>34515621You have to yap about nonsense too. Start talking about some disgusting topic that's off putting to her so she calms down and talks about her shit less.
>>34515621apologize for being a piece of work and either let her go and give her space for someone who will give a shit, or get your own shit together and be her partner properly. your post grinds my fucking gears
>>34515621The girl doesn't have a brain? She doesn't speak of her passions or desires? Have you tried bringing up conversation that might entice thought? such as each others feeling about historical events, conspiracies or things you guys enjoy (i.e. hobbies) ?
>>34515627i thought about that. but then i thought, i dont know anyone whos relationship is like that. my parents arent like that. my mother wont incessantly bother my father with conversation about things shes interested in. imagine, my father watching tv, and my mother comes into the lounge room to talk to him about dresses while hes trying to watch his show. its absurd, dont you think?
>>34515621You need to break up. The two of you are fundamentally incompatible.
>>34515627>>34515670>nooooo you have to put up with her incessant yapping because... YOU JUST HAVE TO OK?!?!?!Is this really how normalfag couples work?
>>34515699Does she do it even when you're doing something like watching TV? Alright, that's a bit much. If that's the case just explain to her that when you're currently doing something you want to focus on that thing.
>>34515621She shouldn't expect you to care just as much as she does about these things, but you should at least show a bit of interest. Like this anon says >>34515634meet her somewhere in the middle. You kinda have to feel out what works for both of you. If she's sharing her problems with you, does she actually want to talk about them and have you help her find a solution? Then that's a way to be more emotionally invested in her. If she's just using you as a sponge to absorb her negativity, you have to be honest with yourself and her about how much you can take, but let her know diplomatically.You might not care about her clothing choices, but she clearly cares about it, and ideally you care about her, so again, try and cultivate a healthy interest in things like that
>>34515621What DO you have to offer her if not interest in her?
>>34515621You just hurt her feelings. They're not important, it doesn't matter. The sooner you establish this the better, like house training. >>34515627Absolutely gay post.
>>34515621She sounds low IQ and stupid, stupid people usually talk about all kinds of inane bullshit and most young women are like that. Get yourself a better model if you can, if not you will be stuck with her and will probably breed more low IQ people like her. Remember 80% of women are dysgenic and should not be bred.
I'm in a similar boat. Gf cries every night. Ignores everything I say. Will get mad at me if I don't console her while she's crying. It's only gotten worse. Any thing I do wrong, she will criticize me for it. "Why don't you [insert thing I should've done]". I feel like saying, I was happier before I had someone judging me for every little thing I do wrong. I know this relationship is over. I don't want to be with her anymore.
>>34516206Same story, man. You grow numb to it. To them. All you can do is detach and wait for it all to be in the past. It is what it is, I suppose.
>>34516206Why does she cry every night?
>>34516323Because her superiors at work tell her off for doing the wrong thing. And not even in a mean or abusive way. Just directly telling her what she did wrong and what she should do instead. She can't take it. She gets irrationally angry about it then at night she cries about it. I don't want to be with her anymore. She won't change or grow up. Just gotta ride it out until I can find an exit that won't be too painful for her.
>>34515621I don't get how assholes like you manage to get girlfriends, OP. What's your approach?
>>34516351>talk to girl>get to know her>joke with each other>confide in her and vice versa>become intimate>become bf/gf
>>34515621sounds like she just uses you to vent, and she actually doesn't give a fuck about you at all.
>>34515627That's bullshit anon, no man would ever remain in a relationship longer than a fortnight were that true.Think the last time I texted my wife about anything besides times and places was about 2018
