So I’ve been with my gf for nearly 5 years and suffice to say I’m bored as hell. There’s this girl at work who has a crush on me (she has a bf too who doesn’t treat her right apparently) and at this point every time im with my gf i keep thinking about her. What should I do? She has such a soothing sexy voice and I feel so much passion for her but is it just because it’s a new and novel experience? I also don’t want to ruin anyone’s lives or anything but part of me thinks we can have a private thing between us nobody knows about. Idk I feel like it’s been a fun fantasy for a few weeks but I feel like im either going to fuck her or completely lose feelings for my gf and I’m just like meh about everything in general…
>>34516334Bad idea. Don't be that guy. It's not worth it.
>>34516334Break up with your girlfriend if you're that bored of her
>>34516344What if I just ask her for hugs and shit at work like she’s a work wife? Maybe that can be enough without crossing a line?>>34516345I don’t think so man I’m already in so deep it would genuinely fuck her and her family up so bad I can’t.
>>34516356So what's your plan? Keep leading your girlfriend on, spend the rest of your live in a loveless relationship and get hugs from your coworker on the side?
>>34516356A sensible course of action would be both of you breaking up before committing into something new, but I feel like some of your problems can be solved by you jerking one off before making major decisions about your life.
>Another thread where op already has his mind set about what he'll do and ignores hundreds of post until someone affirms exactly what he wants to hearDelete your thread. Go to IRC and ask the janitors to delete your thread.
>>34516356>I don’t think so man I’m already in so deep it would genuinely fuck her and her family up so bad I can’t.Stop being a coward. Stop lying to yourself and stop projecting a "poor little me" attitude to absolve yourself. You know that you would do more damage from infidelity than you would from breaking up. You'd hurt her, sabotage the other girl's relationship, and hurt the guy she's with. Four people get fucked up as a result (your GF, you, the girl you'd fuck, and her BF).Whereas if you broke up only 2 people would have bad feelings, you and your GF. But the reason why you can't see the logic there is because you are scared of finality, you don't actually want the relationship to end, you want to keep the comfort of it. But you know you're bored and you're at the part where honeymoon phase is over, the part where the couple needs to take conscious efforts to keep the flame going. But unfortunately you're lazy and you just can't be bothered so you look to the novelty of having it easy again with a new girl. And you excuse yourself by pretending to care about genuinely fucking up your GF and her family yet simultaneously not caring how bad betrayal and infidelity would fuck her up. Makes no sense. Anyway fortunately for you we can say you're not a bad person because all you are wrestling with are thoughts and feelings. Thoughts and feelings don't mean shit, action does. You have so far not acted on any of this, so you're not "in too deep". That is a load of bullshit you deluded yourself with. You are still currently loyal to your GF at the time of writing.Don't act on it. Especially not with this chick at work, because she is crushing on you and being forward with you. And she trauma dumps about her mean BF. That's bad news for you, because what that is, that's a BPDemon. They all run the same script when they cheat, they lie and tell their affairs their BF is mean. That a ploy for pity to get you to drop your boundaries.
>>34516520>>34516334>ContinuedAlso my bad 5 years* you've been with GF. Five years and you still ain't done your part where you were supposed to engage to marry 2 years ago. That's why the relationship is boring as fuck, you haven't advanced it to the next level. And that's on (you), you're the man, and it's your role to do the proposal and to plan the future and build towards that with your girl. But if you sit there and let it stagnate it will turn into a boring cohabitating cesspit of boredom. You were supposed to go embark on the unthinkable adventure of life and see to a marriage, advancing the homefront, the frightening idea of becoming a father, raising them with your woman. Going through all the anxieties and joys and pains and contentment that comes with maturation and growth, growing together as a couple.If you wanna trade that in, throw away a girl whose proven loyalty for half a decade, for some cheap and easy cheating slut at work who WILL fucking ruin your life (as all BPDemons do), go right ahead. But if you do, just know that what happens next is all your fault.
>>34516356the only reason you cant break up with your gf is bc you are actually an incel
>>34516534If he was an incel he wouldn’t have a gf or another girl who’s attracted to him. I guess you’re doing the whole “we’re all incels” thing because yes technically when you’re single and no one is fucking you then yes you are involuntary celibate but come on.
