I told him that he can have sex with other people. He is attractive but and has finds a hook up once in a while, but not always and it is not the same as having a partner always available. Getting hook ups for me is easier, so to avoid an asymmetry there, I made sure to have less sex with others than he did.So at the end, we both have very little sex and do not flirt/engage with anyone else other than each other. It is still a problem for him because he would have liked to have sex at least weekly or twice weekly. I don't want this. I don't know what to do. I genuinely like him, being intimate with him but I think I have a low libido. I need like really, really top 1% attractive guys in order to be aroused. It's classical chad, beta whatever dilemma, maybe.
>>34517071>Getting hook ups for me is easier, so to avoid an asymmetry there, I made sure to have less sex with others than he did.so you fuck other people but dont want to fuck your actual husband>I need like really, really top 1% attractive guys in order to be aroused. It's classical chad, beta whatever dilemma, maybe.i swear every thread on this board is bait now
>>34517071As long as you commit to provide emotional support and foster his family, I don't see the issue. Men are a lot more loyal than women in terms of commitment. However you wouldn't make the thread if it didn't bother you, break up if you're the unhappy one.
>>34517134No, no… I’m not the unhappy one. I mean I am but not because I’m unhappy with him:What makes me unhappy is to see him often distressed, sulky when I don’t want to have sex. It’s not always but it can happen and then I get so depressed. I can’t stand social incohesion I can’t stand seeing him while he is upset, I must always see him happy. I’m a depressed, anxious person otherwise so I don’t want strong tensions. >>34517122Yes I do want to have sex with others! That’s the problem I don’t find him sexy… I just wish we had only an asexual relationship together and that he could have all the sex he wants with whoever. He doesn’t bother me, annoy me, anger me nor do I… he just doesn’t turn me on what can I do?!!It’s the most depressing thing.
>>34517071>I think I have a low libido>Fucks other people anywayI WILL HEX YOU
>>34517071Can't you just pick up girls with him? Your presence makes it 10x easier.
>>34517071I was the high libido member of a dead bedroom for 4 years. And let me tell you are you doing incalculable damage to his self-esteem. I get it, whatever triggers you just isn't going off anymore. It doesn't really matter though. He is your husband and you are together for life or until one of you is so miserable it all falls apart in a big messy catastrophe. Don't let sex be the reason for that. Luckily I wasn't married so it ended before lawyers had to get involved. Read Come As You Are and actually take it's advice. It's a smart book. People age and get bored of one another. It's just inevitable. You aren't going to meet any 1% chads that want to marry you and then stay a 1% chad forever. It's impossible. Come As you Are teaches you not to rely so much on excitement and arousal. Sex is pleasurable. You can still have pleasurable sex with your husband. You just have to get over the hump of not being 'in the mood'. You can get in the mood. Figure out what gets you in the mood, figure out what gets you off, and share that with your husband. Honestly this is a relationship killer. Read the deadbedrooms forum on reddit. It's such a miserable situation. but it's fixable. And as the low interest member of the relationship it's basically falls on you to fix it. Unless your husband is doing something specific to ruin the mood. But it sounds like he is fine, you are just bored with him. This issue is particularly important to me because I was in misery for 4 years. I had a partner that just refused to take any steps to resolve this issue and we stewed in resentment for so long. Please work this out, it's such a common issue and it's really not unfixable.
>>34517156I kind of ignored the whole open relationship thing but I should address it. No man wants to have an asexual relationship with you. Unless he is gay. This guy is probably your emotional support, maybe financial support. And you see him as an asexual friend? Believe me he is feeling that and it is hurting him more deeply than you can imagine. And if he read these words it would be like you are stabbing him in the heart and twisting the knife. It's so cruel a lot of people here might think it's bait. But whether you are real or not this is actually a common situation and real women are treating their husbands/boyfriends like this quite often. I'd recommend everyone read up on sexual psychology because it's very interesting. Comes As you Are, Mating in Captivity, The Erotic Mind, etc. It could help a lot of people out there.
>>34517294True. If I was in his shoes I would probably do something really stupid that would place me in prison.
>>34517294There is pretty much no point for a man to have a relationship without sex. I get it if you're both super old and your genitals don't work anymore, but otherwise it's shit.
>>34517319Some people (like me) are very lonely with no self-esteem. I stayed in a dead bedroom because I thought it was my fault (for not being good enough) and that maybe one day it would change if I improved myself. But It was definitely the wrong decision. And if I was like OP's husband who apparently gets laid regularly, I would have left in a heartbeat.
>>34517319What a sad way of seeing relationships.
>>34517351Spend some time in a sexless relationship, one not by your choice, and see how you feel.
>>34517351There is nothing sadder than a man who goes through all the effort of impressing a woman (e.g. to be better than her in every conceivable way) and then goes to the bathroom and jerks off. On top of never being allowed to express any emotion other than anger because it gives them the ick.
>>34517071This dude has a husband. Faggot.
>>34517071Wow, IDK if this is masterful bait or retard bait...
>>34517397Both.It is both.
>>34517400That made me laugh because you're right.
>>34517401Can't you just pretend it's real like everyone else? Not that hard.
>>34517403Oh. Okay.YOU FUCKING WHORE, YOU SHOULD BE DOING WHAT HE SAYS AND CLEANING HIS FUCKING SHITTY ASSHOLE FOR HIM THEN WASH YOUR HANDS BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO COOK AFTER.
The only reason to believe it's bait is that it's posted here. Let me tell you this is not a fantastical scenario. This is very common except for the open relationship thing.
>>34517408I see similar situations daily.Fucking niggers.
>>34517408weird! it's almost like the thing that never happens is the giveaway it's fake. funny how that works
>>34517071>He is attractive but and has finds a hook up once in a while, but not alwaysYou really must try proofreading some day
>>34517071Tried any bbc yet?
>>34517071>He is attractive but and has finds a hook up once in a while,
>>34517071Cut his cock off and send it to a church. They will attach it to the cross and it will be worshipable. Better than a retard like you to have a dick available.
>>34517071Then have an amicable divorce, you weirdo. Why put your husband through this sham marriage?
>>34517071>I think I have a low libidoYou’re complaining because your man is not having enough hookups so you can fuck more dudes!What the actual fuck are you talking about?
>>34517351My wife is going through menopause at 50yo and sex is, with A LOT of luck, once a month.I love her and I will keep on with this, but you have no fucking idea what a hell on hearth is this, because I’m in my mid 40s and the prospect is grimm (….or even worse).
You cut your husband's cock yet? I am waiting for the cross to get its own cock. He is hungry for another one.
