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>frequent a cafe during my break
>a girl idk notices and starts talking to me
>asks if she can sit with me
>I don't mind
>just starts chatterboxing
>does it again the next day
>"Do you mind if we sit separately from now on?"
>Clearly upset
>Barista who was apparently her friend is also mad at me and wants me to apologize
I mean
I don't think I did anything wrong, and I don't actually want to sit with that girl... But at the same time I don't want someone pissing in my coffee.

Talking/Listening to people exhausts me and I just wanted to enjoy my break in peace.
I'm just tired of people, idk what to do...
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>>34517997
also b4 any1 says to find a new cafe...
I have a sensitive stomach and this the only place with food that agrees with me. I get really bad cramps if I eat something with corn, white flour or dairy in it.
This is the only nearby place I found that has good sandwiches

The other alternative is bringing my food like before and eating at my desk, but people are gonna bother me if I'm there.
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>>34518011
eat in your car retard. if you don't have one or if you have the luxury of walking to work then eat behind the building.
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>>34517997
You did nothinh wrong. Women aren't used to rejection, so they perceived it as a personal affront. Unless the barista is the boss/manager, just ignore both of them. If the barista gets up in your business, tell you that you just wanted to eat alone without talking and if she still gives you shit talk to the manager
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>>34517997
She tried to be friendly. You were unfriendly.

You could have handled it a lot better. "Nothing personal, but this is my private, wind-down time and I don't think I make good company."
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>>34517997
You were rude to her. Next time, start gray-rocking her. Then become passive-aggressive. And finally, start ignoring her completely. She will give up eventually.
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>>34517997
There is no winning. Because if you're not sorry, then you shouldn't apologize. If you do apologize, you might send the wrong message that you care about her feelings. And if you do nothing, that barista will probably hate you for the rest of your life.
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>>34517997
>I don't mind
yeah but you were a fag about it
>Clearly upset
when girls go out of their way to give you attention, that means they find you attractive, dumbass
>Barista who was apparently her friend is also mad at me and wants me to apologize
>I don't want someone pissing in my coffee.
yeah too late for that asshole. Who in their right mind would want to provide you service when you did them wrongly? Who would be happy to serve you even if they are paid? Are you a child?
>I'm just tired of people
yeah, maybe you want to be alone forever with that toxic attitude of yours. You go about hurting people or being negative in the world. You bring pain in the world.
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>>34518651
What is your magical strategy to get her to leave you alone without hurting her feelings?
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>>34517997
She wanted to be your girlfriend and you threw the opportunity away. Just think about it, she mustered her courage to go talk to you, and the barista friend probably encouraged her too. The least you could do was being kind.
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>>34518655
>What is your magical strategy to get her to leave you alone without hurting her feelings?
Why would you want that? You're clearly a tard. Nothing wrong with that, but you have to ask yourself, would you be ok being alone for the rest of your life?
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>>34518661
>Why would you want that?
Have you considered that some people are at the cafe to get work done?
>Nothing wrong with that, but you have to ask yourself, would you be ok being alone for the rest of your life?
Um anon, do you just accept dating proposals from the first person who gives you attention? That's called being desperate and having no standards.
I would rather be alone than to be with a woman I'm not attracted to.
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>>34518665
>Have you considered that some people are at the cafe to get work done?
uhhh
>frequent a cafe during my break
so you're working on your break?
kekmao what a fucking cuck
do you suck off your boss as well?
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>>34518702
>uhhh
>>frequent a cafe during my break
>so you're working on your break?
>kekmao what a fucking cuck
>do you suck off your boss as well?
I am not OP, I work from home making 6 figures. I have the best job on the planet.
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>>34518705
>I am not OP
then stop wasting my time
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>>34517997
>Talking/Listening to people exhausts me and I just wanted to enjoy my break in peace.
First, you didn’t do anything wrong to receive such treatment, ok? Let’s set that.
But, in second, why talking? Why listening? You’re not obligated. The minute the girl notices this attitude, she’ll leave.
She stayed because you engaged, even if you didn’t want. Don’t complain.
Lesson learnt.
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>>34518709
Did you consider responding to OP if you want to call him the N word?
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>>34518661
No one is obligated to talk to people they don't want to, even if said person is a woman.
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>>34518661
>>34518659
Is OP obligated to find her attractive or what?
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>>34518777
>Is OP obligated to find her attractive or what?
If you're not OP, please don't mark my comments. You're annoying.
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>>34518792
You seem upset
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>>34517997
What does catterboxing mean.
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>>34518792
Hm, no.
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>>34517997
I'll answer in the traditional advice columnist way: The man is wrong. The woman needs counseling.
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>>34517997
if it was just about coffee you realise you can literally drink coffee at home or literally any other place that serves coffee?

100% not the full story and op just trying to le humblebrag chad which he isnt
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>>34517997
women arent used to rejection. i think next time you can come up with some sort of excuse. like maybe you need to work on something on your laptop or whatever
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>>34517997
you don't have to treat every single person you meet with class.
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>>34518797
>You seem upset
I just don't want to get into useless and petty discussions. It's a waste of time.

>>34518855
>Hm, no.
Then tongue my anus.
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>>34518409
>>34518659
>>34518702
All frog posters need to fuck off. OP did nothing wrong. If more men acted as you did we would have a world worth living in.
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>>34517997
thanks to the anons who replied, I feel like I got my answer. Just gonna ignore her today if she shows up
Feels like a lot of this thread just devolved into people arguing
So... Thread over



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