I need to vent, and maybe someone will read this. Am I the bad guy, or are my friends?>be me>med student after switching from vet school 3 years in>all highschool friends already working, getting married, becoming functioning adults>feel permanently behind in life>but still feel happy and doing so much "good" things in life>last year one girl from old friend group gets married>everyone bringing partners or +1s>table setup basically two couples, one dude with a date, me and K alone>whole friend group>was just getting out of a situationship with girl who turned out to be dating another girl at the same time>decide to not bring random person just to avoid being alone>ask K if he’s bringing someone>very clearly mention that I do not want to be only person without somebody>“nah bro going solo”>cool>few days before wedding>K suddenly has “transport issues”>asked to swap travel arrangements because “you’re alone so it’s easier for you”>didn’t understand it at the time>have much work, so didn't overthink
Where is part 2 dumb cunt?
Cont.>day of wedding arrives>motherfucker shows up with girl anyway>apparently told bride I knew and was fine with it>I absolutely did not know>spend entire wedding feeling like unwanted NPC at couples table>midway through evening suddenly connect the dots about the transport change>realize they hid it on purpose>feel like entire group decided my feelings were expendable>fast forward one year>D&D campaign friend getting married>same people invited>now I actually have a girlfriend>searching for reason to not go, but she is big reason to go>during session casually mention I’ll probably bring her to the wedding>everyone shocked because apparently nobody knew I was dating anyone>K recently got dumped so entire group treating him like emotional support patient>meanwhile nobody asks about my life unless I volunteer information>as always, but now I already mentioned her a few times, so they should at least remember "mentioning "
Cont. For stupid cunt>week later at meetup get pulled aside like I committed HR violation>“hey maybe don’t bring your girlfriend”>ask why>everyone starts dodging question like politicians>“maybe relationship won’t last”>“you’ll have to babysit her”>“it might be awkward”>"we rarely meet, so we want have all you attention ">eventually truth comes out>they want me to go alone out of solidarity with K because seeing me happy could “ruin the wedding for him”>brain.exe has stopped responding>remind them K literally did worse to me last yearentire group instantly activates defensive formation>“that’s different”>“they ended up being in a real relationship after”>“you knew about it”>“stop acting like it’s the same thing”>ask them point blank:>“so his happiness last year mattered more than mine did back then and more than mine does now?”>entire room goes silent for like 3 seconds>then immediate verbal dogpile>“you’re making this about yourself”>“you’re being unfair”>“K is going through a lot”>“friends make sacrifices”>one of them starts gaslighting at maximum power>“bro you definitely knew”>“you were fine with it at the time”>“you’re rewriting history”>literally start questioning my own memories for half a second>then remember I spent entire wedding feeling like human furniture>remember also that I told at least half of them that I felt used and cheated by k>tell them at least K gets warned beforehand instead of finding out AT the wedding like I did>say I’m bringing my girlfriend and I’m not discussing it further>leave because conversation turning into group therapy session where apparently I’m the villain>also last "short" bus to my home in 20 minutes
Cont and fuck capcha>next day multiple phone calls from group>“please rethink this”>“sometimes you need to be the bigger person”>“do it for K”>"you shouldn't reacted like that">even groom calls to “mediate”>shyly tells me that they kinda have table setup already, and i should told him earlier >he didn't know if it is possible for me to take someone>translation: also wants me to surrender quietly>play stupid and calmly answer him that I told him 2 days before deadline, and that it would be nice to make it possible >mfw entire friend group decided my relationship is less important than one dude feeling sad for an evening>mfw my feelings only matter when they’re convenient>mfw first time in years I stop playing “easygoing backup character” and suddenly everyone loses their minds
>>34518524So much text. They are couples he is putting his penis inside of her. You are not as important as that sacred act.
>>34518545>that’s differentIT FUCKING ISN'T. IT FUCKING ISN'T DIFFERENT, THESE FUCKING CUNTS, I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT SHIT.>>34518548>sometimes you need to be the bigger personNo, not in this fucking situation. WTF. I usually use this phrase, but being the bigger person doesn't mean being a fucking retard and let people walk all over you.>>34518548>even groom calls to “mediate”>shyly tells me that they kinda have table setup already, and i should told him earlierI think it's time to let it go. Tell the groom that maybe you won't be coming then.I will tell you, you will never be a priority for these people. It's time to build another friend group or reconnect with people from the past... If you don't bring your gf, you'll be sacrificing your relationship for the sake of these so called friends.
>>34518524Yes, they're being shits. And you're being a whiny baby.Haven't you made any new friends since high school?
>>34518534>>34518524>>34518545This is a suburban mom issue complaining about dumb meaningless stuff, because they have shallow friends they secretly hate.
Start dangling a cross on your cock and show up to church on sundays. Everything will be fine. You will not be a bad guy.