I develop feelings for girls very easily and it changes rapidly as well. If I spend some short amount of time with some girl I immediately start to fantasize about her and think about her the whole day. I feel like I want to get to know her more and pursue something. However if I meet another girl the following week, all of these feelings for the first girl disappear and they pass onto the new girl.Because of this I haven't been able to go through with any of the girls I've met in the past 6 months. Right now I'm obsessing over a girl I obsessed two months ago the last time. I had only like two conversations with her in March but then I started to feel something for another girl. Few days ago however I met this girl from March again, we talked a bit and I'm spending my whole days and nights thinking about her.Am I retarded? Pls help.
>>34521196yes ur retarded, but it's probably possible to change or deal with this problem, and it's not unnatural/uncommon
>>34521196Huh? I do this as well, but I pretty much don't meet women. I remember anons always telling me that having more of them around would help me stop obsessing.
>>34521196Nah, this is normal.It abates somewhat when you get into a relationship, at least if you found the right woman for you.It will also lessen as you get older and learn with experience that investing all that hope and energy into someone you hardly know is often not worth the pain of discovering they're fucking someone else or aren't into you.
>>34521196This >>34521940. It is normal, and as you gain more experience in life it starts to go away bit by bit.But I do understand it completely, since I did the same (and still do a bit, to a degree).
>>34521196Yea I’m the exact opposite. I didn’t even know what love felt like until I turned 29. And when I did experience it, it consumed my every waking thought and feeling for days. Couldn’t imagine feeling like that every time I met a girl.
>>34521196me too dude, it is not uncommon, or, not retarded.i develop feelings for girls very easily, but not just any girl. im a passport bro so i got abroad and meet tons of girls. i have probably hung out with about 20 or 30 girls this way, spending the day walking and talking. i got a few relationships or situationships out of it. at most id get some light crushes, most of the time i dont feel anything strong. i guess i did for my ex when we first started meeting.about 4 years ago i met this girl online, we never met irl, and i felt insanely in love with her. 'limerence'. during when we talked. and even after that, I thought of her and missed her daily for years.I started talking to another girl about a month and a half ago, and I felt nothing, just less alone I guess when we chatted, but we met in real life about a week or so ago, and I grew so insanely in love. She doesnt believe me, thinks I am saying all this for sex. at least we did have sex but what does it matter. i thought it would make her pairbond, stay with me but she doesnt wanna. would rather see her every week for the rest of our lives (no matter how short or long they may be) with no sex than sex and never see her again. to be 'pumped and dumped'. whatever. she browses this board. i hope u see this. hello F. I still feel in pain now, sometimes the pain is very intense and hard to bear, sometimes it feels like it is slipping away.... and then I feel nothing, and that is bad too. At least these days with her I was 'living', now I am killing time. not alive, not dead. going through the motions. the routines. i might get back with my ex soon. but i dont feel yearning for her. i dont feel like we are having special fun times. i dont even like her all that much. i just dont wanna be alone. it doesnt make you retarded anon, it makes you human, and these moments are to be cherished. proof we can still feel this. one day we may feel it for someone who feels it for us too.sorry, my own anekdotes.
