I’m 18 and for the last few years my father has worked night shifts at the factory near to our home. My mother since COVID has started cheating on him with primarily black men. We live in a very high black/asian neighbourhood so it’s not difficult to get attention as a female. Regularly they will enter the home late, usually 11pm onwards and leave a few hours later. My father is never there. Do I speak to him? Do I speak to her? I don’t think he knows but if he’s a willing participant then I’d rather stay out of this drama. She tries keeping it quiet and silent but I’m not stupid, I know what’s going on. I met one of the men one time and my mother acted like I’d killed somebody. She was angry. advice appreciated.
>>34521494>I met one of the men one time and my mother acted like I’d killed somebody. She was angry.that's an important piece of informationwhat you should do depends on how much you depend on your parents, first of allthere's no reason to blow up your home life if you'll blow up your own security in the process, you should try to get the hell out of there if you canbeyond that i wouldn't really know how to approach it, it's pretty telling your mom got angry in this scenario though, sounds like a piece of shit honestly, or at least shit behaviorif you can do it without jeopardizing your own security, you could maybe tell your dad, but idk whether to talk to your mom or not firsdt
>>34521535Working on trying to get out yes. Trying to leave the state because it’s a mess.
>>34521494Ever watched her fuck these men, bro? How long has it been going on for. Do you hear it?
>>34521572No. But I’ve heard them yes, a lot, pretty much every time.
>>34521494Consider a few therapy appointments to decompress the feelings and figure out what you want to do
>>34521619I have considered that yes. Thanks!
>>34521494my father cheated and I had to tell my mom. It's awful, and abusive to put a kid in that situation. The best you can do is to get independent with your own place and cut off contact.
Tell him, and act like you just found out/confirmed your suspicious. He will murder her, so she'll be dead, he'll be in jail, and you will get the house.
>>34521494>Do I speak to him?So... Let me try to understand this, your mom has been cheating for SIX FUCKING YEARS, and... YOU DIDN'T TELL YOUR FATHER? FUCK YOU.>Do I speak to her?No, you fucking dumbass, you should have fucking told your father.>advice appreciated.KYS, that's the best advice I can think of.
>>34521572>How long has it been going on forHave you read the text? This whore has been cheating since the pandemic, SIX FUCKING YEARS
>>34521494Have the sense to stay out of this. I've known many couples in which one person was told the other was cheating, and in every case the person being cheated on ended up wishing they had never found out, and usually ended up blaming the person who told them more than the cheater. This is highly counter-intuitive, but it is what happens.
>>34523291KYS, please
>>34521494You as a son should be on your father's side for everything. You by not telling him, basically, is betrayal.
>>34521494>helping mom cover her affair for 6 yearsImagine being this sick of a person... Can't imagine doing that to my own father, flesh of my flesh, bone of my bones.
