Hi /adv/I'm a 23M, was dating a 21F, and I broke up with her because I feel like a loser.She is quite literally the ideal woman, she was beautiful, had a good family, larped as a tradwife, was pure, loved me and was there for me no matter what. All the qualities you could possibly want in a woman, she had.On my end, I'm a 23yo stereotypical chud.Despite everyone, including her family, telling me not to, I broke up with her. From the very start of our relationship, I always felt like I was never good enough for her and that I was wasting her time, with time that feeling built up and became unbearable, so I decided to leave.She asks me for me to come back, everyone wants us back together, but I just don't feel like I'm good enough to be with her.Can you help me?
>>34523281my apologies for grammar mistakes, just caught a few :P
Talk to her. Say that you feel like she doesn't deserve you. If she agrees, that's that. If she still wants to be with you, you're the luckiest man alive.Regardless of what she says, if you feel like a loser, sit down and write out how you are doing in life and how you can improve - working on education, jobs, other relationships, fitness, etc. Also, if possible, call your mom.
For the sake of argument let's assume you are a loserwhy does that require you break up with her?
>>34523281You made a stupid decision because you have poor self esteem. You should get back with her, definitely explain it is entirely because you think you don't deserve her, and then do smth, counseling or exercises or smth idk, to improve your self image so that your liw esteem doesn't jeopardize your relationship
>>34523281Nigger she saw something good in you. Snap the fuck out of it and GO BACK TO HER RIGHT FUCKING NOW. Cut this shit out NOW or you are going to regret it deeply down the line. How about you be a better man for her instead of doing whatever this shit is. You DO NOT throw away a good woman. Dumb fucking retard. Improve. Not just for yourself, but for her.
>>34523281kys OP
>>34523281You'll have to assess why you feel like a loser, but I think if you truly love her the least you could do is communicate honestly: you broke up with her because you felt that you did not deserve her an wasted her time. I don't know you, so you might have poor self steem or geniuenly be a loser, but either way it's best to be clear with her, and if everyone wants you two together it might be for a reason.Stereotypical is not bad, anon, as it means you're average, and average is far better than bad.
>gf WANTS to be back with himSome men fucking drown...
>>34523281Stop sabotaging your own life, you sick fuck.
>>34523431>Say that you feel like she doesn't deserve you>>34523461>definitely explain it is entirely because you think you don't deserve her>>34523485>if you truly love her the least you could do is communicate honestly: you broke up with her because you felt that you did not deserve her Terrible advice. Why plant the seed of doubt in her head? OP needs to do the exact opposite and tell her he broke up with her because he felt SHE wasn't good enough for HIM.
>>34523281holy fuck you're such a faggot. what the hell are you doing?
>>34523281You are a big loser and did the right thing. Let her find someone else.
>>34524850at least he has enough self-awareness which is commendable, but yes it's FUBAR the girl will soon internalise that OP has no self-esteem whatsoever and that she's better off with the next man
sorry to tell you this, but you have essentially burned that bridge. She has seen your insecurities and probably will not take you back, though if she does, your relationship will never be the same.
>>34523281You are actually insulting her by claiming to know what she wants and what is good for her better than she does. Give her the respect of letting HER make that decision.
Now you are a loser with no gf. Welcome to the club, it gets a lot worse the longer you go with no human touch.
OP hereOne of you told me to talk to my mom about it, and that really helpedI will talk to my ex today, maybe get back togetherThanks anons
>>34523281>Can you help me?Based on what you've told us about yourself, I'm certain you made the correct decision, and for all the right reasons. So long as you don't try to get back together with her, she'll be happy.
>>345232812 options:Find shit girl that is more on your levelORbecome the better man that she believes you are / you want to be
>>34523281>I felt bad so I kicked myself in the ballsSee how that sounds?Apologize to her and go to a therapist.
>>34523281this definitely isnt the whole story and isnt what actually happened
>>34525155Rarted.This is what will happen >>34524954Now it will downhill from here and she'll dump you because "you were right, you're not good enough for me".
Im in the same situation as op. Its been 3 months since i broke up w her and i still think about her everyday questioning my decision. Im too schizophrenic to deserve someone like that with a good family and career. Im only a bad influence. If you really love her its over, you know yourself better than anyone.
