How can I get myself to get over all the traumas I went through as a kid. I need to get over it and get a grip. I need to stop being so stuck in the past. Because I need to grow and get out of this low.But it somehow feels impossible to let go of some things.I try to talk them in therapy but therapists always just look over them and never actually work it with me.
>>34526572What are the traumas?
>>34526574CSA, COCSA, grooming and severe bullying.
>>34526576Sometimes negatives can be positives.Have you considered maybe you were a really sexy kid?
>>34526581Not really,I think I was simply too easily manipulabe because of undiagnosed Autism and sever rejection problems which made me feel indebted with anyone just so they wouldn't abandon me.
>>34526585I swear "undiagnosed autism" needs to be auto-filtered like onions is.
>>34526589I officially have it diagnosed now. I was just not diagnosed because they thought I would be okay without the label. Turns out I wasn't okay without it because I never actually got the help I needed with it
It's important to recognise that childhood trauma isn't just "something unpleasant that happened that I need to stop thinking about." These are experiences that shape your development and become a part of who you are and how you respond to the world. You can't simply get over it any more than a kid who was in a car accident as a kid can "get over" the fact that their hand was torn off. Their stump might heal, but that hand is never growing back, and that accident will always impact their daily life to some degree.You can't grow your hand back, but you can learn how to get by with just one. You can learn how to use other parts of your body to compensate. Or you can go the other way, maybe deciding you're incapable and need everyone else to do everything for you, maybe develop a drug habit because the idea of developing hobbies feels out of reach, maybe isolate from the world because having to explain to strangers why your hand is all fucked up is too exhausting.It's the same with developmental trauma.You can learn to recognise your emotional responses to things and better navigate the world, you can learn healthy coping mechanisms for when things get tough. Or you can go the other way, where you maybe burden everyone around you, numb yourself with substance abuse, isolate yourself.As to how exactly one takes the good path rather than the other one... beats me, I'm drunk right now lol
>>34527485I tried both ways and both seem to not work for some reason. I try my best not to burden anyone though...
>>34526572This is one of the things that therapy is actually pretty good at.
>>34527493How do I get my therapists to actually work it with me though? I've told them a million times already but I've never actually been given proper help about it.
How do I fix my blood pressure? Or is this how I go out?
>>34527495I fucking hate you k
>>34527661good for you ^_^
>>34526572Go to a gym
>>34527669can you think of a better thing...?
>>34527495You walk in and say "Today I really want to talk about_____"
