How do you stop giving advice to people that never listen to it? People you care about like your family and friends. I often feel like if I don't tell them I'm going to regret it, but they don't listen because they're ignorant or stubborn. I'm even talking about basic health advice or practical advice, not necessarily more complex advice like relationship or spiritual advice. I don't know why I feel an urge to give advice to people that won't listen. Even when I know for sure they won't listen, so I try to repeat and remind them but they obviously won't do it. If I don't, I feel very uneasy and guilty later. I know I'm not responsible if people don't care about their own health for example, but I just can't help it and I don't know why.
>>34527750You don’t have to stop.
>>34527750You shouldn't stop, but you need to come to grips with the reality that they may not listen. Don't expect anything from them
>>34527750Keep giving the advice, but stop having expectations. Your control ends where your behavior ends. It's your moral duty to give the advice, it's theirs to listen to the advice. What you're doing is trying to reach beyond your duties and into theirs. The solution isn't to abandon your duties, it's to content yourself with them. Take solace in the fact that you did your part, and leave the rest up to them.Also, you can't rule out the possibility that you've planted something in them, even if they don't listen. You and several other people might have all given them the same advice, they may have ignored all of it, but something may dawn on them as long as a decade later. You have to be patient, you can't expect immediate results, so it's better to be content with the possibility of results in a distant future.
>>34527750Maybe they don't need your advice OPHow do you feel when someone keeps nagging at you to change things where you don't see the need to change anything?
>>34527750Just never offer unsolicited advice. If they asked for it then give advice, otherwise do nothing.
>>34527750When it turns out you're right and they didn't listen you have to say "I told you so", preferably multiple times, so they know that they're stupid and you're smarter than them and they should listen to you from now on.
>>34528450I've listened to your advice, it was good. See? Wasn't that hard
