>>34531067
you chose poorly

>>34531083
What do you mean?

>>34531067
Offer yourself to her as a sissy slave and help her find a new bf.

>>34531088
OP here
this would be a very bad scenario for me.

>>34531067
Cut and run.
Women are well aware of the effect criticizing sexual performance has on men's egos and wield that power like a sledgehammer.
Soon as the first swing is swung, she's going to resent you as long as you keep her around.
Do not be a doormat. Have respect for yourself.

>>34531090
you are clearly retarded mate if you take such a post serious kek

its fucking over

>and that I cant fuck her well from behind
she mustve been fucked hard from behind from someone else, why would she say this otherwise lol

Why did she start a serious relationship with OP if he is such a loser?
I really don't understand females.

>>34531100
>she mustve been fucked hard from behind from someone else, why would she say this otherwise lol

OP here
I tried to fuck her from behind once and she really loved it, but I had to pull out cause it gets way too tight from behind and I got worried my dick would break.

I just cant commit from behind
its too difficult

>>34531096
>Cut and run.
I love her...

>>34531112
Do you have phimosis?
I also had some issues with doggy and cowgirl because foreskin wouldn't retract without an unpleasant amount of force, until I went to the dick doc and received a foreskin stretching regimen (not kidding)
Can plap away to my hearts content now

>>34531112
op here im also trans btw

>>34531114
She doesn't love you and has clearly stated as much.
You're just engaging in masochism if you stay with a woman that has told you that you don't satisfy her.
Please don't internalise the criticisms man, you got this woman in the first place, which means you can do it again in a heartbeat.
There'll be plenty of women out there that would help you work through this stuff around sex.

>>34531120
no

the angle just doesn't feel right from behind

I dont really fully know what the issue is from behind


she just becomes very very tight from behind and the angle is just difficult

it like nemds my dick downwards when I'm behind her


front I have much more control

>>34531134
I can't help but feel we're barking up the wrong tree trying to address this and not the sex-based ragebaiting I suspect her of engaging in here.

That being said, what you're describing sounds like either you need a stepladder or she needs a lower bed kek

>>34531133
She wants to work this out with me, that's why I asked her to lay down all the issues so I can figure out how to fix it


what's the point of leaving her now if I am gonna have the same issues with a new woman again?

>>34531067
Its over OP. You have no partnership at all, its reduced to a list of to dos or else with no participation from your wife (partner) offered. This is no more than a disclosure of reasons you will be let go at a time of her choosing.

>>34531143
>She wants to work this out with me
Maybe, but she won't.
Trust me, when a woman says any derivative of
>Spark is gone
>Losing attraction to you
>You don't satisfy me
It is a death knell for that relationship. Sexual attraction cannot be bootstrapped, it either exists on its own terms or does not.
I have seen this exact scenario play out from both sides, as a participant and bystander.
As soon as this sentiment is expressed, it's months too late.
You stand only to make yourself suffer persevering.

>>34531147
I am aware the spark is gone so,


What should I do to make her get back the spark again that she had for me??

the fireplace is there, how do I burn it again with a strong hot fire?

thats why I made this goddamn thread

but you all just telling me to get a divorce and give up like there is no other way

>>34531156
She told you exactly what to do so why are you resistant to doing it?

>>34531156
I know it sounds terribly pessimistic and blackpilled, but I only say this out of experience.
Plenty of men I know have been hewn down to sad little nubs by women that won't fuck them but will have a joint bank account with them.
You might be able to convince this woman to stay with you, but you will forever, expressly and inarguably, be the man she settled for.
If you're fine with that, go prostrate yourself before her.
If you value mutual respect and attraction in a relationship, if you value yourself, fucking leave her. You have been disrespected by someone that is supposed to be your soulmate.

>>34531156
you cant un-crack an egg

>>34531165
>You have been disrespected by someone that is supposed to be your soulmate.


To be fair it was me who first disrespected her about sex


I told her I was very dissapointed that she has not worn the new sexy lingerie that I bought her and I told her as my wife she should automatically assumeI wanted her to wear it, otherwise I would not have purchased it. And she got pissed by that and told me she has no obligation to wear it automatically just cause I bought it for her cause she actually didn't like the lingerie.

thats how it all started.

You’re toast.

>>34531173
wtf is going on here

am I really this fucked?!

I have been with this woman for 9 years.

>>34531178
OP it's over

>>34531172
>I told her I was very dissapointed that she has not worn the new sexy lingerie that I bought her and I told her as my wife she should automatically assumeI wanted her to wear it, otherwise I would not have purchased it. And she got pissed by that and told me she has no obligation to wear it automatically just cause I bought it for her cause she actually didn't like the lingerie.
Bless you, you big autistic numpty.
If she were attracted to you, she'd have worn the damn lingerie. I have never once bought a woman underwear that didn't have it on within half an hour of arriving.
The ship has sailed, man. It's over the horizon steaming away.

>>34531172
>To be fair it was me
alright im calling bait
post your pencil thin wrist if real

>>34531156
coz there isnt nigga

You chose wrong. Embrace for impact (cheating?? maybe with somebody who can give her the backshots she so much desires lmao)

Idk what else to tell you. If you dont have children just divorce, if not then you need a gameplan. Its fucked out there

>>34531187
>if not then you need a gameplan

so you are saying there is a chance for me to win her back again?


should I ghost her for a while and go mystery man mode? or is that retarded?
make her miss me?

>>34531186
I'm not skinny if that's what that means but I don't go to the gym either.


Should I go to the gym maybe? Ghost her for a while, go to the gym, full transform, then learn how to fuck her from behind, and then fuck her hard from behind?


I dont know if its a good idea to ghost a wife though, has anyone done this before?
with a gf its easier

>>34531067
Just bang another girl on the side if she is complaining. There are plenty of women that won't complain about shit like this. She is probably cheating if she has this mindset clearly comparing to someone else.

OP you are autistic
I'm surprised you even made it so far to get married.

>>34531218
>>34531210
Ghosting highly risky.
The other stuff is good.

>>34531221
>Just bang another girl on the side if she is complaining
I don't respect people that cheat.
If I did that I would lose all self worth that I still have. it would be betrayal to myself.

>>34531233
>The other stuff is good.
But would it not be cooler if I suddenly showed up all strong and sexy after 5 months of gym?

why is ghosting the wife bad?
Would that not increase her curiosity again for me, where the fuck I am or what the fuck I'm doing?

>>34531210
>should I ghost her for a while and go mystery man mode

There is no mystery man, she has lived with you for years, she knows all your moves. You just expose yourself as a retard.

>>34531067
100% she's cheating on you

how do autistic people like OP even get married. I'm 29 and never had a gf....

>>34531247
I can't imagine this at all.

>>34531067
Sorry but are you her slave who lives only to serve her? Her mentality of needing to be pleased is the problem. She is a woman. She psychologically needs to be the one pleasing you. Next time it is after dark, grab her, tie her up, make her suck your dick.

>>34531257
>Her mentality of needing to be pleased is the problem.

that was (or is) my mentality too which is how all this argument began. So I need to figure out how to please her too.

>>34531178
All of your issues are from low t you sound like my exbf I dumped after the same length of time. I gave up on him

>>34531257
>Next time it is after dark, grab her, tie her up, make her suck your dick.

that's called rape you bastard. I'm not doing that

>>34531265
okay but what should I do?

What needed your bf to do at the time to not get dumped.

give some advice woman.

>>34531249
Women are be predators too anon.

>>34531261
>So I need to figure out how to please her too.
You have your ass on backwards. Women don't need to be pleased, you please yourself with them and they get off on that. Women get off on being desired. So maybe try not fapping for like a month and then pin her down and lick every inch of her body using all your frustration as fuck fuel.

>>34531267
>that's called rape you bastard. I'm not doing that
Wait until you realize what the #1 most common sexual fantasy of women is

>>34531274
>Women get off on being desired

I desire her the whole time
I was actually if I should mayne oretend not to desire her for a while too

>>34531270
You are better than him I guess because you actually want to fight. I think you should start working out like you mentioned earlier and tell her, yes tell her you booked a romantic trip. Take care of all the details just tell her the dates to take time off. Be more intimate even outside of sex and stop being so whiny about sex, a good sex life requires flexibility and you're too rigid and insecure to be a good lover. She told you all that stuff because she wants to keep loving you

>>34531277
Shut the fuck up and fuck off this thread.

Also raping her would just give her some nasty good case for the divorce.
I am not a rapist. fuck off with your shit advice

>>34531280
>I was actually if I should mayne oretend not to desire her for a while too
This will only make things worse. You can rethink your approach, but going cold on a woman will just result in her going cold on you back and they can keep it up indefinitely.

>>34531284
Lmao now I know why your wife isn't interested in sex with you. You have no idea how to create a fantasy or roleplay. Do you just shower her in roses and hope she'll reward you with sex? Figure out how to turn on a woman, retard.

>>34531282
okay
this is some better advice

thanks


any advice how to fuck her hard from behind. Her pussy gets too tight when I insert it from the back.

>>34531290
Make her cum first so she's looser and even use fingers to stretch her and go slow

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>>34531282
>She told you all that stuff because she wants to keep loving you

>>34531291
how much can I stretch pussy without damaging it?

op here i forgot to mention that im trans not sure if that matters

>>34531294
lmao

>>34531308
Ah, so this thread's bait then
Probably should have worked that out 20 replies ago tbqh

>>34531294
Yeah because every little girl dreams about growing up to get divorced over their husband not being able to fuck her. She's humiliated

>>34531067
Honestly this seems more like a general issue rather than something sex related, if she listed all the reasons you should probably consider changing what she complains about or reconsider the relationship. It's the way to save it. She told you that because she still loves you and doesn't want to lose you.

Give her proof that you are trying your best to get better and slowly start making changes. She will see it and it'll be okay.

>>34531321
She knew he couldn’t fuck her 9 years ago.

>>34531321
Whatever kind of bullshit she spins to make herself the victim here, the fact remains that OP is married to a woman who told him he cannot sexually satisfy her.
Either party remaining in this relationship is unfair to themselves and the other.
I have never known anyone that has been able to successfully rekindle a dead bedroom which resulted from a frigid woman and a hapless man.
I don't know why the women in this thread are vying so hard to beat this dead horse.

>>34531067
She wants you to change
You aren’t going to change
It’s over

>>34531067
You have a bunch of problems, but the core is lack of communication - you have both been saving up complaints rather than dealing with them earlier.

This is the sort of thing marriage counsellors are actually quite good at helping with. If you haven't both given up, get help

>>34531308
Actual real OP here

I'm not trans obviously

trans people can't get married legally right?

>>34531326
>Give her proof that you are trying your best to get better and slowly start making changes. She will see it and it'll be okay.

okay. its pretty hard though

>>34531441
>This is the sort of thing marriage counsellors are actually quite good at helping with.

Can we not just talkbto each other instead of paying money to talk around someone else?

op, dont listen to these faggots that are telling you to breakup. They just want you to do that so you become one of them. A wifeless loser. So they fan feel better about themselves. Just my 2 cents, it's not over yet. The fact that she was willing to tell you all this is good.

>>34531478
Sometimes you need someone to translate. "You wanted to say X but he/she heard Y"

>>34531412
I dunno I rekindled it a little with the guy I dumped by making him bang me in the forest and it did help because he was actually willing to try. It died for real once he stopped trying at all. Of course after I dumped him he immediately started lifting lost tons of weight and I'm sure the next girl is reaping the benefits. Or he got fat and sexless again who knows

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>>34531718
You are, perhaps inadvertently, merely proving my point.

>>34531729
OP wants to try and clearly loves his woman and isn't rejecting advice

>>34531739
Maybe so, but OP's woman doesn't love him. Seen this a million times. It can't be fixed when it's this far gone.

>>34531741
I think she still loves me

otherwise she would have divorced me already. no?


>>34531718
wtf do you mean he fucked you in the forrest. why would you make him do that

>>34531809
>I think she still loves me
Look, I've said all I can say in this thread. If a woman said the things to me that yours has said to you, I would take that to me that she did not love me.
>otherwise she would have divorced me already. no?
No. In my experience women in this position will tend to create distance in the relationship in order to try to end it without actually being the perpetrator.
Hence trial separations and other such cope. Waste of time.

>>34531826
>In my experience women in this position will tend to create distance in the relationship in order to try to end it without actually being the perpetrator.


are you implying that she is waiting for me to divorce her or initiate the divorce?

I'm not gonna do that before I try to improve.

>>34531067
>she said if I dont solve all these things it might be over with our relationship.
1. Find the clit with your fingers
2. Make her climax before you do any penetration. Practice this part and push her to her limits before anything else happens.
3. ?????
4. PROFIT
You don't have to worry about your dick or any "performance" related things if you simply prioritize getting her off first. It's also way more arousing than plain foreplay.

>>34531067
Hire a black guy

>>34531809
>why would you make him do that
Because it's hot I didn't say you had to damn

>>34531845
I'm not implying it, I've told you it about eight times already.
Read the writing on the fucking wall, for God's sake

>>34531826
you are just a cynical psycho projecting that shit on OP.

>>34531900
If male, you're a cuckold
If female, I understand how you've arrived at this conclusion.

>>34531910
what does any of this have to do with getting cucked?

>>34531920
Personal opinion here, but if your partner says, quote:
>I am never fully satisfied during sex cause you come too fast and you cant fuck me well from behind
and you remain with them, you have cuckolded yourself.
I know it does not fit the dictionary definition of the word. I have used it in line with its modern usage, here meaning
>Weak
>Pathetic
>Spineless
>Not respectable
>Impotent

>>34531951
how op getting cucked? There is no third person involved.
you are retarded.

so everytime your partner criticizes you, you have to immediately leave and jump off the boat?
Nobody is perfect, people work things through.
With this mentality you can never have a long relationship.

>>34531156
She sounds like an awful woman. The relationship should go both sides, you help her with her stuff, she helps you back. If she's immature and thinks getting fucked is all there is to life she belongs in the streets. You can't change people.

Also, I think talking about this was a bad move if there's no committment in the first place. Now she will feel excused to think wrong of you every time she sees you. Every time you make a mistake she will pile it up and she will feel excused to "look for her own happiness".

When she's calm, you have to lay it down on her what she expected out of life, see if that's compatible right now, not something "workable", make her wonder if she's got now what she expected or if she's being an immature bitch. Anyways, the love is gone. Either stay out of committment and kids, (and as you both grow there could be a codependent spark again) or divorce. Either way the ball is in her court.

>>34531966
Please reread the post. It clearly explains what you seem to be having trouble understanding.
>so everytime your partner criticizes you, you have to immediately leave and jump off the boat?
I am legitimately perplexed how you could have reached this conclusion. Are you schizophrenic? Are you reading words I didn't type?
Yes. If your wife actively scorns your sexual performance, you should leave.
Have I teleported to fucking 2xc? I don't understand all the crying in this thread one bit.
Cut and dry. OP's wife won't fuck him any more. Chuck it out. Further discussion is frankly confusing to me.

>>34531982
By the way, partners can get close together when there's dire need of shit. E.g. She loses her job and becomes fully dependent on you, her mother dies and you must comfort her, she gets cancer and she needs your support. Like I said it's not a beautiful relationship what you get out of it, it's codependence. Most marriages are a form of codependence anyway, but it weakens people when the other partner dies. You, and her, have to think about the rest of your lives, otherwise she was just your girlfriend OP.

>>34532002
op here

this sounds terrible
I dont want her to only care about me in depsperate and bad times.

why is everyone ignoring the fact that OP is a retard who is terrible at organizing and also forgot their wedding anniversary?

>>34532046
Because the thread's bait and deep down we all know this

>>34531966
Spiritually cucking him by implying someone else could do it better.

>>34531067

Do you not ever eat her pussy or finger her? It's pretty much necessary to make my wife cum from oral or other stimulation before penetration or she's too tight to enter and it hurts her.

>>34531280

Read every cheating story posted by a woman. Practically every instance begins with the new guy making the women feel sexy and desired, while the husbands were too comfortable and started acting more like roommates than lovers, playing video games and turning into low T manchildren.

I've been down that route in the past, kind of ignored my wife when I was always stressed out about work, but I've learned to deal with it and be mentally free. If she was like many women she probably would have cheated on me from the lack of physical affection, but instead she just masturbated a lot.

Now instead of a quick peck of a kiss when I get home, i give her a good embrace and more a longer more passionate kiss. I'll smack and squeeze the fuck out of her ass and say i was thinking about it all day, or i'll randomly feel up her body at night, and that gets her wanting to fuck so bad. Even surprising her by just doing stuff around the house that she normally does makes her happy and more open to random sex.

>>34532565
>Even surprising her by just doing stuff around the house that she normally does makes her happy and more open to random sex.

do you start cleaning the house or what?

>>34532565
>Practically every instance begins with the new guy making the women feel sexy and desired, while the husbands were too comfortable and started acting more like roommates than lovers, playing video games and turning into low T manchildren.
You got the cart before the horse. Most men would be happy to spend 4 hours a day doing nothing but fucking, but women go cold and stop putting out, so the guys just decide to spend the time playing videogames until their wife comes around (it never happens). And usually she is not this pure hot goddess either, the woman often gets fat and spends all her time watching netflix dramas too.

>>34532662

Yeah the guys still want sex, but they don't flirt with their women and treat them like they used to, they start acting like slobs and just kind of expect it, leading to resentment.