I've been seeing someone for almost a year now and I keep thinking about breaking up with them.It's not even because I don't like them, I do. I love them and care about them, and I'm attracted to them too, but I miss my freedom. We have to see each other at least once a week and text multiple times everyday. I have no time or freedom anymore.I miss being able to go out by myself and do stuff and meet new people. For the last year nearly I've had no social life, made no new friends, lost contact with other people. One day of every weekend is designated to seeing them, and if I can't see them for a week or two they get really moody with me. It's so much commitment. The idea of moving in together or living with each other forever is fucking terrifying.Like I said, I like them and care about them a lot and we get on really well. But at the same time I want my autonomy. I want to go out into the world and make new experiences and have the freedom to do what I want. I'm only in my early 20's, yet it feels like I'm already tethered down for the rest of my life.I've felt so constrained and caged for the last year, yet I feel bad for feeling that way. If I tell them this it will probably really hurt them and they will hate me for it. I really don't want to upset them, but I can't help how I feel. What should I do?
>i cant go out because i have to text my partner and see them once a weekwhat a ridiculous thing to say
>>34531167These are valid reasons to end a relationship to be honest. Don't think there would be any reason to feel bad about it.Probably worth setting these boundaries at the beginning of a new relationship. I am similar especially with implicit demands to respond quickly to unimportant messages and so on. I also like to make last-minute plans and embark on them without telling anyone, which was a massive issue with some of my exes who hated the idea that I would take a job several hours away and stay in a hotel a night or two at a couple of days notice.I was lucky to find a woman that doesn't immediately assume I'm dead or cheating if I don't respond in 5 mins, and thank fuck for that.
>>34531176When you work a full time job 5 days a week and one of your two days off is perma-forfeited, then yes, it is difficult to find the time to go out and see people.
