>>34533081
male sexuality hack (how to make him pussy crazy)

the main thing to do here is to make him cum every single day multiple times (even if he doesnt want to) (quantity is more important than quality) stimulate his most sensitive areas (the frenulum) (the glans) use your hands not your pussy and a good lubricant (or hell just tell him to masturbate and just watch) he has to cum a lot daily (even if he is not in the mood) this will fuck up his sex drive and from then he will start craving sex more often

things you have to do

1-be clean
2-use a special perfume during sexy times so his brain will associate the smell with sex
3-touch his thighs, chest, ass during foreplay
4-work out and get a sexy body
5-learn how to talk sexy

things he has to do
1-sleep good
2-lose weight if fat
3-gain weight if skinny

this will take some time but he should be addicted to your pussy afterwards, good luck

>>34533114
Thank you anon!
He is still pretty fat from being an obese chungus all his life, haves some decent muscle tho. Also consumed slop, weed and cigarrettes throught his youth so that defenitely doesn't help

I have done those sexy things too but it resulted into (from my point of view) making him comfortable and he wouldn't initiate, much less do the dominant degrading shit I was used to. I feel like it's pointless

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Please help me I bet you all
We literally have the same dreams, values and want the same lifestyle. I've just also wanted to be treated like a dog since I was a little girl and slapped and raped too

I'm close to giving up on dating and scaping to become a whore or something

>>34533114
>the main thing to do here is to make him cum every single day multiple times (even if he doesnt want to
This sounds like a horrible idea.

>>34533149
kys whore

>>34533124
some men do not associate sex with dominance or degradation, i am like that, but this doesnt mean that i dont like sex i cried during my first time with my gf (certified sex enjoyer) and despite being vanilla i sometimes engage in some fake domming stuff with her because i know she likes it, even though its not my thing, i forgot to mention talking to him in my first reply, talking is important, but you gotta know how to do it, dont go to him and say "fuck me rough please daddy" no, you have to make it sutle, tell him while you are intimate that you would like a little slap (only when you are intimate), or maybe sext with him while he is away and let him express his sexuality, be open with him about your desires (in a sutle, friendly, almost non sexual, humourus manner), me and my gf sometimes roleplay so thats another great idea, but roleplaying requiers people who are not shy and are willing to embrassingly act in a silly way

do not lose hope, there is a way, be subtle, friendly, and enjoy what you have for now, and i guarntee you that both of you will be happy and never look for anything anywhere else

>>34533185
thats actually an advice that many couple therapists give, frequent orgasms=more sex drive, you can test it, of course i am not saying to make the man cum when his body no longer can maintain an erection, but increasing the frequency of orgasms can help

>>34533253
Cumming more just drains you more. If you want a higher sex drive then you try to raise your testosterone.

>>34533273
sorry ill take advice from couple therapists instead

>>34533241
The thing is that I already done that, and yeah we had sex sure, but I didn't get wet for most of our relationship (we used lube) and that totally wasn't the case in my previous relationships. I can get him turned on but it feels like nothing if I'm the one initiating and showing desire

>>34533283
I'm not going to stop you. You lose money, they gain money, and you get fake advice they use to keep you coming back for more.

>>34533329
talk, talking is important, but do not make him feel like a loser for not initiating, as i said you gotta be subtle or itll fire back and youll kill the remaining of his libido, maybe ask him about his sexual fantasies, maybe there is something he wants but doesnt know how to talk about

>>34533362
Done that too. Not recriminating him but sHAr1N H0w i feEL. He just says he guesses it's the age and he's just not kinky
gg

>>34533149
The problem is entirely on your end. You just have to stop putting those fantasies on a pedestal, and instead meditate on how destructive, selfish and immature they are. None of that sick crap will bring you happiness. It will absolutely bring you to a state of unhappiness, regret and despair. You're in control of your own desires, so exercise that control and stop desiring what's bad for you.

Yes, it's doomed. I say this is a woman stuck in a relationship like that. It won't get better and you will start to resent him, it'll ruin your self esteem and you'll start fantasizing about other men which will wrack you with guilt. Eventually you will not want to have sex with him at all, can you go the rest of your life without sex?

>>34534612
>It won't get better and you will start to resent him, it'll ruin your self esteem and you'll start fantasizing about other men which will wrack you with guilt.
Or you could just stop being a pervert and stop placing so much importance on your fetishes. Imagine if it was a man saying this about his wife because she doesn't have giant boobas or participate in whatever other lame fetish he has.

>>34534651
I don't even have any fetishes, retard, I'm talking about the mismatched libidos and how he won't even make an effort to meet her halfway.

A man doesn't have to be a dominant daddy but it is a man's job to take initiative and if you think otherwise you are delusional, nothing kills a woman's interest quicker than a passive man. A man having a higher libido than his woman is not as bad as the inverse because a woman is more likely to adapt and accommodate her man.

>>34534676
No, that isn't how it works. Nothing kills a man's libido faster than a passive woman who never shows any interest. Why would a man want to be made to feel like he's having to inflict himself upon his partner? He's not going to want to do anything with you if you make him feel unwanted. That's why you aren't getting any action. Because you're a cold, dead fish in bed expecting someone else to do all of the work and inject all of the passion. Double standards are gross, so you should work on yourself before blaming your partner for your romantic failings.

>>34534683
bodied that freak

>>34534683
A lot of assumptions, sounds like I touched a nerve. Do you feel attacked? I never said the woman should be completely passive, I simply stated that the man should not be, which is the case in my own relationship and OPs. And a woman who has to do all or most of the work is going to lose attraction to her man, simple as. I was in two very sexually balanced and satisfying relationships before my current one. In my current one I spent the first two or so years obsessed with him and often attempting to initiate and getting rejected, once or twice a year since then I've attempted to communicate how to solve our intimacy issues but only been met with "It's not that important to me" or "I'll try", but no progress has been made. I don't fault him, if I had a low sex drive it would be perfectly fine, but I don't, so it isn't. And that's my point; she will be, and she already is, unsatisfied because they are incompatible. I really don't care about your little gay feelings on this honestly, I'm trying to give advice to a woman who will 100% end up unhappy. The lesson on biology and gender dynamics is completely optional for you.

>>34534742
bodied that freak

Yes, unless you are legitimately fine with dating a partner long term you are absolutely incompatible with. Which I'm guessing you aren't or you would not be asking this here.

I also don't know if you want kids but if one partner in the relationship is already much lower libido before kids, expect the gulf in desire to become even bigger once they're there and for sex to taper off further.

>>34534742
So you're an unhappy woman in a failed relationship trying to offer your sage advice to an unhappy woman in a failed relationship. It seems to me that if you had any advice worth offering, you wouldn't be in the same position as OP. You're both going to stay unhappy for as long as you keep blaming your partners for your own unhealthy obsessions. No matter how defensive you get or how much you try to project your own hurt feelings onto other people, the reality of your situation will remain the same.

>>34534742
there aren't any assumptions there at all. you literally admitted to it and now you're trying to backpedal now that it's obvious you put your foot in your mouth.

>>34534763
You don't think someone who was in OP's position, made the wrong choice and is now living with the consequences of that has any advice to offer? Really?

I'm not in a "failed" relationship, I am in a relationship with a dead bedroom. There were signs of this fate early on in the relationship which I ignored because we were compatible in other ways and I thought it could get better. I love him dearly and won't choose sex over the trust and love we have built over years of commitment. But if I could go back in time with the knowledge I have now, I would not have stayed with him.


>>34534765
>there aren't any assumptions there at all
>Because you're a cold, dead fish in bed expecting someone else to do all of the work and inject all of the passion.
Where did I say this?

>>34534795
Different anon here but a lot of people here are sexually inexperienced and it shows. In any discussion about waiting for marriage (or not) there will also be people trying to claim sexual compatibility simply does not exist or can be achieved as long as you are both motivated to do so. It is a very optimistic belief that is hard to criticize in theory but reality just does not work out like that. But looking at someone else's life problems and going "if only you had (done) XYZ instead you would have no issues at all" is a way for others to feel safe from unhappiness and disappointment in life, which no one is.

>>34534795
>it is a man's job to take initiative and if you think otherwise you are delusional
>no wait i actually didn't mean that because it makes me look unhinged and selfish what i actually mean is that i initiate with my partner all the time and the real problem is that he isn't attracted to me
come on. get your story straight or shut the hell up.

>>34534795
>I'm not in a "failed" relationship
>But if I could go back in time with the knowledge I have now, I would not have stayed with him.
Holy fucking shit, you're mental.

>>34534811
?? Yes, I initiated in the beginning, but getting rejected and never having him initiate made me stop initiating. Had I kept initiating every time forever I'm sure we would've had more sex, but his passivity made me lose interest in having sex with him. I really don't think it's that hard to understand.


>OP asks for advice on a specific situation
>offer advice based on my own experiences with a similar situation
>insecure morons feel personally attacked by that for some reason and proceed to write fiction about me to invent reasons why my advice is bad
Take testosterone or something

>>34534871
>I initiated in the beginning, but getting rejected and never having him initiate made me stop initiating. Had I kept initiating every time forever I'm sure we would've had more sex, but his passivity made me lose interest in having sex with him
And you can't see that men feel the exact same way and that saying "it's men's job to initiate" makes you a weird, insensitive hypocrite?

>>34534871
>insecure morons feel personally attacked
that's you. you're the one doing that. no one else here is being rude. just you. please get some awareness.

>>34534871
Anon, I'm going to do you a solid and give you an objective recap so that you can hopefully gain something from this experience.

>op asks for advice because she's letter her rape fetish get in the way of an otherwise good relationship
>you reply, claiming that you're in the same situation, and advise that she should end the relationship
>somebody points out, and rightfully so, that it's not healthy to let a fetish get in the way of an otherwise healthy relationship
>you call that person a retard, accuse them of being delusional and then go on to insist that it's the man's job to take initiative in a relationship
>people point out how unhinged of a thing that is to say and believe, especially in the context of a thread about a rape fetish
>you proceed to project your insecurities onto everyone else and assert that they must be personally offended by you, rather than admit that you've been personally offended by their criticism of your unorthodox and frankly disturbing advice, given the context

There's one of two possibilities here. Either you have a personality disorder which causes you to make everything about yourself, which caused you to forget that this thread is about OP's rape fetish and you oddly made everything about you and your relationship, or you're secretly a rape fetishist just like the OP is and you backtracked in order to avoid having to admit it. Either way, I think you need to read through this thread again and again with open eyes until something clicks and you can see what's wrong with your behavior.

>>34533081
As for OP, you should work on putting your fetish to rest while also accepting that life isn't all about sex. Sex doesn't satisfy, fulfill or enlighten. Nobody has ever had a good relationship based on sex, especially not fetishistic sex and especially especially not fetishistic sex that requires the male to be a psychopath with no empathy.

>>34533081
Depends whether you can learn to keep your legs closed. If not don't feel bad, many women in supposedly committed relationships struggle with this.

Hi I'm OP back here. Jesus christ I've been away for almost a day now btw, a bunch of replies aren't me
Btw I am aware there is more to a relationship than sex, obviously? I'm also aware I DEFENITELY don't wanna get married and then in 10 years realize I regret staying, that's my biggest issue. I'm also worried that when I get pregnant I'll be more horny plus more emotional, making everything worse, but after having kids I bet I'll also be more chill
My boyfriend haves had some improvement since we started dating about two years ago, sometimes he initiates (also because I've stopped initiating, but I still tease him and flirt), and I think I can be okay with having good sex that's not necessarily kinky. Again, my main issue is fearing REGRETTING staying and wasting years both for me and him

>>34535689
Also I don't give a single shit about these moralfags saying that sex somehow corrupts your soul and whatever stupid cope they wanna say. I'm DEFENITELY so much happier, cheerful, generous and nice to be around when I'm satisfied. I'm not gonna try to rationalize or think that other things can make up for a lack of sex or mediocre sex

>>34535699
also I'm unironically thinking about just feeding him aphrodisiacs everyday. If that saves our relationship I would totally be okay with that

>>34533273
people having lots of sex never feel drained, they just have more sex. absolutely none of them are doing retarded shit like nofap or testing their testosterone levels.

>>34535689
>Again, my main issue is fearing REGRETTING staying and wasting years both for me and him
you already do feel that way. no having kids wont "make you more chill" it'll just exacerbate your problems. Im sure he is an alright guy and there are good aspects to your relationship but I think you are making a huge mistake if you dont end it for both your sakes. If you dont have kids get out now.