Learning how to smile through anger is a skill I learned working in retail. There are a surprising number of pricks IRL. I was doing a very disorganized final project a professor gave us. I was confused by a line of criteria, so I asked a question. Instead of typing "yes" and saving time he decided to be a prick for no reason. It ruined my day. I thought about calling him some variation of a faggot but I just decided to be passive aggressive in polite language and thanking him for the help. I should've just said thanks and left desu.Is this just what being an adult is? Just taking bullshit from people with a smile? When does this end?
>>34533594It's normal. Releasing your anger will bring you bad consequences, specially in professional settings because they genuinely have no idea how to approach the situation or can malinger being offended to harm you. Not doing absolutely anything is really bad because you make yourself responsible of handling the irrationality of the other person.Something I do in cases like yours, That absolutely cause trouble and is just another form of being passive aggresive, is to repeat my question from another angle, and keep pestering them and pestering until they feel offended by their own incompetence, while I look innocent but annoying. This has the advantage of giving the benefit of the doubt at first, like I'm giving the professor a chance to quit being a prick and clarify to a genuinely interested student, and surprisingly they do seem to help in most cases, otherwise they look genuinely incompetent to me and that's enough to get the matter on my own hands, but if they're genuinely irrational, it gets them mad for good reason.However, other than protecting your ego, it really gives no advantage to offend others. By the time you graduate and encounter them again, they're most likely retired and struggling with a lonely life, they remember you fondly or with a little shame but are glad you're a full fledged professional. Sometimes you can use them to write you letters of recommendation.If you want to damage someone, you should file a report with their professional association. It will become a blemish for any further career advancement they should seek, or ammo for political enemies seeking their positions.t. Almost kms during residency.
>>34533594>When does this end?When you stop having an ego that's capable of being offended. Other people's bad behavior is bad for them, but not for you, because their behavior doesn't have any bearing on your character. The moment you start caring more about truth than ego, is the moment that these sorts of things cease to bother you ever again.
>>34533820I don't think I can get rid of my ego. I can choose to ignore disrespect out of rational thinking but that doesnt mean the words still dont sting. I care about myself because I care about myself otherwise I would just live in a monastery doing nothing until I die
>>34533839Anyone can get rid of their ego, it's simply a matter of learning how to be rational and objective rather than irrational and emotional. The words will stop stinging when you've convinced yourself that they can't sting, which is in line with the truth. As long as you irrationally believe they can hurt you, then they will hurt you. You're creating the conditions for your own suffering. That's not proper self care, that's self sabotage.You're in control of your own judgements, which means that you get to choose what matters. No one and nothing can take that ability away from you, it just takes practice and effort. Choosing to value only what lies within your control is what it means to be happy, healthy, sane, rational and impervious to other people's insults.
