So my Dad is not a happy guy.My parents are divorced, and ever since I was a child, the only interactions I've had with him were meeting at restaurants. Every 2 or 3 months, I'd sit down with him at a restaurant, and this has been going on since I was a child.I only ever see him at restaurants. I've never been to his house and he lives only thirty minutes away from me, and I'm not allowed in his house. I to this day don't know why, but according to my aunt and uncle, its because his wife is "nasty" and doesn't want me there.My dad is on this third wife/marriage. The first two ended in divorce and I was the product of his second marriage. With my mom, only I was born and I didn't have siblings. I know for a fact that I have half siblings, but I never met them and I don't know who they are. He with his current wife is currently raising two boys, the eldest one is 16, but I've never met them.This happened last December (2025). So I was sitting with my Dad at an IHOP, and he pulls out his phone and shows me a news article, while I was sitting across from him at the restaurant booth. It was a really weird news article, it featured someone's mug shot and a picture of a crime scene. So he tells me that he has to go to Michigan because the son of someone that he knows was the victim of the crime in the article and they want him to come to their legal hearing.That story ended up being a total lie. My uncle and everyone I spoke to basically confirmed that he went to Florida. He has a second home there and was bringing his (current) wife and kids there.
For some reason, I only see him at restaurants. He gets genuinely offended if I ask to come to his home. I sent him a simple text message asking if I could go to his home. He calls my mom and then me and he's furious over the phone. Basically what he tells me is that I can't come to his house because his wife from the first marriage was suing him for his house because it was still under her name, as well as physically going over there to bother him.He knows I got the idea to ask to visit his home from my extended relatives, because it was my Uncle that was the first to ask me if I've ever been to my Dad's house, which of course the answer is no. So he begins telling me that non of my cousins and uncles actually like me. That they, and particularly one cousin were all laughing at me behind my back. That they were only pretending to be nice to me so they could feed me bad information about my Dad and use me as a weapon against him. I think he told me these lies because he's genuinely afraid of his wife and is trying to maintain the peace of his home by not allowing me to go there.
Neither of those turned out to be true. Don't ask me how I debunked the lawsuit story, but I eventually did. And my relatives making fun of me? They didn't know what he was talking about when I brought it up with them as they are not on good terms with my Dad and haven't talked to him in almost a decade. The specific cousin he named that was making fun of me? That cousin f---ing hates my Dad. Because he gave that specific cousin years ago a check to a bank account which had no money in it, or was it a fake check, the specific details I don't know. That cousin lost his job at the bank and was in serious problems with the law about it.
I'm having a hard time following this.So your dad makes an effort to see you regularly every 2-3 months, typically in restaurants as a sort of social visit, but he wants to keep his lives separate so you've never been to his house or met his current family.And your uncle is a neurotic asshole or something.
He's a total stranger or your acquaintance at this point. You made it this far without him so why would you need him now? Just remember that it's not your fault that he's like this, your father is just a weirdo.
>>34534677>And your uncle is a neurotic asshole or something.stfu, his uncle is actually nice to him, re-read the text, pls.>>34534645>Should I continue talking to my Dad after he lied to me?No, he is an asshole and clearly doesn't care about you. My advice is: cut him off from your life, you don't need a deadbeat dad, it's better to not have any dad at all.
>>34534699>Uncle is niceThe uncle gaslit OP into thinking that all of his extended relatives hate him and mock him behind his back and are weaponizing him against his dad who they also hate.What the fuck are you on about?
>>34534645There are understandable reasons for him wanting to keep his past and present lives apart. Personally, I think they're wrong reasons - I believe you and your half-sibs have a right to know each other - but his reasons work for him. Meanwhile he possibly (probably?) is not responsible for the lies and accusations going on elsewhere in the family. They're a reason to stay clear of those people, but not necessarily of him. All in all I'd suggest keeping in touch with him, but staying out of the other family soap operas. Maybe sometime down the line you can reach out to your half-sibs.
>>34534711No, it was my Dad who made up the story that my extended relatives were mocking and laughing at me behind my back.My Uncle had nothing to do with this story and didn't know what I was talking about.>>345346772-3 is a ball park estimate.As of now its May of 2026 and last time I saw him in person was January of 2026. I have been trying to see him in person but he keeps making up reasons why he can't.Its largely because he's free on Saturday, but I work on Saturday. But he and I are also free on Sunday, but he says Sunday is when he sleeps all day, or something.
>>34534645I don't know you and your post can only convey so much about your situation, but your dad sounds like a cunt so I would recommend you don't continue speaking to him if you are trying to have a loving parent-child relationship. Everything you include here indicates that is a lost cause unfortunately.If you have the time and energy though, in the event he tries to scam you out of any financial obligations owed to you, go ape shit. I say this as a chronic people-pleasing faggot too cowardly to ever tell people no, but only the squeaky wheel gets the grease.i don't know how old you are, but if your dad is a boomer or younger, birth control methods existed and he had a choice in concieving you. It's tough shit for him that he is an antisocial cunt who wants to not be a grown up that takes responsibility for his actions. It's not uncommon for these personality types to do everything they can to weasel their way out of what they owe, so don't show any mercy. Good faith actions only work when the other person reciprocates good faith. A parent wanting to have some conditional relationship with their child is the apex of bad faith.additionally douglas was always loyal and devoted to renee, which were both of their only redeeming traits as humans, so probably want to chose a different fictional dad.
Our family is Lebanese. I'm 24 and he's 72.
Anon, I ... as someone who had a fat welfair father, until age 8 when he died, and parent were already divorced by age 4, we can still have a good life.It's good to find a mentor or older friend(s) to help act as a good role modelThe internet can help as a surrogate father too. I recommend checking our sovereignim on twitter
>>34534773im this anon>>34534759we're actually pretty close regarding the ages. My dad is also 72, im 23, though he's a white american and im a 50/50 hapa mutt. regardless both you and i were concieved well after birth control was a common practice (it began proliferation during the mid 60s, so when our dads were in highschool)outside a vanishingly thin minority, boomers were rightfully labeled generation me by those who knew them in their youth. they are extremely selfish and only live for conspicuous consumption, all while pulling up the ladder for us unfortunates who came after them. The fact that he is able to sustain his bullshit (lying to you, chimping out at you trying to meet your half siblings, demanding you only see him in neutral public spaces and not his house) despite dealing with getting sued by his third wife (or whatever) indicates, to me at least, that you have literally nothing to gain from this man as a parent. christ i thought my dad was bad, I'm really sorry to hear you have this guy as your dad, anon.
Your entire fictional larp family is holding you back and you should leave them no contact
>>34534645Anon your question is for you to answer yourself. Why do you want to keep this kind of relationship up? What makes you want more, but also what makes you accept the situation to not make the changes you want? It does still take two to tango in this world, so ask yourself if you think the effort both of you put in is even and that these interactions are benefitting and meeting your needs.
>>34534711>The uncle gaslit OP into thinking that all of his extended relatives hate him and mock him behind his back and are weaponizing him against his dad who they also hate.You completely misunderstood the OP, it was his Dad. See what OP said: >>34534736>No, it was my Dad who made up the story...>>34534711>What the fuck are you on about?My point is that you're either illiterate, or low IQ, either way you should apologize now.
>>34534773>Our family is Lebanese. I'm 24 and he's 72.I am the guy that said this >>34534699I was telling you to cut him off from your life, but now that I know his age... Don't cut him off from your life, just make sure you're in his will. Stick to him till he passes away. At the very least you won't have many regrets and can get some inheritance.
>>34534918>just make sure you're in his willlol oh I'm sure he isn't - see that's what's going on here,k OP's deadbeat dad is under pressure from his wife to not have any significant contact with OP because when he's left fuck all in the will the lack of significant contact would make a challenge to it much harder.Note - I have no idea whether OP would actually try to challenge it, I suspect he wouldn't actually but people like this are not going to take that at face value.Sorry OP your dad sounds like a duplicitous asshole. It's not for me to say whether you should continue seeing him or not, but if you want to I think you should ask yourself why first, and be honest with yourself when answering.
>>34534918>just make sure you're in his will.boomers dont leave money for their kids, anon.>https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2025/04/17/baby-boomers-embrace-die-with-zero-passing-on-less-money-to-their-kids/
